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12hannah12

Why didn't I get a sign on my birthday?

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Hello everyone

My dad died in July and I still can't believe it. It was my 26th birthday on Friday and I really wanted to have a sign from him to let me know that he was still with me on my birthday. I even talked to him the day before and asked that if it was possible he could send me a sign could he please please try because it would mean so much to me. But I got nothing. I'm not particularly religious but I do believe (or really want to believe) that our spirits do live on after we die and that we stay around with our loved ones. Believing in that has been the only thing to get me through the days. 

I know that maybe it was my fault that I didn't get a sign, I have severe anxiety so most of the time my head is so filled with worry that I'm probably completely closed off to things like that. 

Anyone who knows my dad knows that my mum and I and our little family were the most important things in his life, so I know that he must still be around if he's able to be because I know he wouldn't have left us. But why didn't he show me that he was around, especially on my birthday which was an incredibly hard day?

I guess I just wanted to put this on here and see if anyone else had any experience with signs or not getting signs, or if anyone has any beliefs as to why some people get them and some don't. 

Thank you for reading.

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Dear Hannah,

I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. I know its hard to go through your first birthday without him. I too have been asking for signs from my dad. And I would like to believe as you do that the spirit of our loved ones is watching over us. Reading others stories it does seem like some people are getting signs and even feel the presence of their loved ones. Hard to know sometimes but in my heart, I believe your dad is looking out for you. Maybe he did not know what type of sign to give. Something you would recognize without a doubt.

After my dad passed last year, I found a coin by the car, the light bulbs were going out in the house and at one point I thought I even heard foot steps in his room. Just last month, I asked for a sign and received an "I love you" text from an unknown number. Honestly,  I just don't know if they were from my dad or just a coincidence.

I hope others will share more.

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HI Hannah, 

I'm so sorry for your loss. My Dad passed six months ago and I miss him everyday. I do believe in signs. I was looking for signs in every bird, butterfly and breeze. A hummingbird would fly in my path and I was like "is that you?" I wanted so much to know for sure he was OK and still with me in a way. I am not sure if anything was a sign but maybe in time when I am ready, my dad will send one. Although this did not happen to me, it happened to a co-worker, it's hard not to believe there is something to it. 

This co-worker lost her dad in an accident. He died on the scene, but she always wondered if he was in pain before he died. That was her big thing, "did it hurt?" Well about three years later she was working in a hospital as a nurse and went in to give meds. She made small talk with the patient and nothing was out of the ordinary. A few minutes in, the patient suddenly looked a little weird and tilted her head and stopped talking. From here the conversation went like this: 

Patient: Is your dad still with us? 

Nurse: You mean here in the hospital? 

Patient: No I mean has he passed? 

Nurse: Yes he died. why? 

Patient: Because he is standing right beside you and he said to tell you "it did not hurt."

The nurse, I know said it gave her such peace and she feels her dad is OK and she will see him again. 

While I have yet to have such a definitive sign, I hope one day I will. I hope the same for you Hannah. 

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Thank you both so much. Reader, your experiences sound amazing especially the I love you text. Missdad, that is such a special experience for your Co worker to have. When I hear of things like what the two of you have said it's really hard not to believe in it all. 

I've been thinking about it so much lately that I've actually booked myself in to see a medium. I know a lot of people think they are a load of rubbish, and I know that there are a lot of fakes out there. But this one has come highly recommend and I just feel like it's something I need to do, even if I get nothing out of it, at least I will have tried it. Maybe I'm being naive and desperate, but I just want to try anything that may give me a little comfort. 

I'd love to hear of anyone else's experiences. 

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Dear Hannah,

I haven't tried a medium but I am very curious about it. I would love to hear how your experience went.

I know some mediums exploit people's grief for profit, but I feel some might be legitimate.  I guess it depends on people's experiences. Be careful. Please let us know how you feel afterwards.

I hear you. I too want to maintain a connection with my dad too. I have seen white butterflies around the house and at his cemetery plot, but I can't be sure.

I don't know if there are any mediums in my area that I could trust. I will have to consider this more.

Take care.

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