TooDevastated

Seeing a medium?

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2 minutes ago, Djh0901kc said:

Any chance you could link one of these directories?

Sorry to cut your lunch, KMB my love - DJH, here is a link to certified mediums: https://www.foreverfamilyfoundation.org/site/certified_mediums

BUT just be aware that some of their costs are ridiculous, and a member I met here had a reading with somebody on that list and it was not earth-shattering. Suzanne Wilson is said to be scarily accurate, and I believe she's completely genuine but she does cost a bomb - look around and ask around on afterlife forums etc.

If you go to http://www.victorzammit.com/ you will find Victor''s Friday Afterlife Reports, that quite often contain good links to read or view.

Also, if you want a book specifically for those of us who have lost partners, medium Patrick Matthew's book Everlasting Love is a very worthwhile read: http://www.patrickmathews.com/everlasting

:)

 

 

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M88, Thanks. I have had so many signs from him. So I know he is still around me! The reason I went to a medium in the first place was to first confirm that I wasnt going crazy. And the second is that I believe my boyfriend might be trying to tell me something. She was a disappointment though.

K9219, I am sorry you had messages that were heartbreaking. I am starting to believe firmly that there is an afterlife. But I wish I could also believe that our dead loved ones were all in peace. I feel like he is just as hurt and disappointed as I am and he is trying to comfort me as much as he is able in that new form.

5 hours ago, KayC said:

I'm glad you haven't lost your belief in what will come.  We need that to hold onto!

 Absolutely! I would have gone mad if I kept thinking everything is gone and I'll never see him again. I still have moments of doubt but I have felt him around so much. So unless I am crazy, he still has a presence.

2 hours ago, KMB said:

 I am so sorry you had a bad experience. Did you talk to a psychic or a medium? There is a difference. Not all psychics have medium capabilities.There are places online with directories for qualified, board tested, authenticated mediums.

She is supposed to be a "clairvoyant medium". All the online comments I found on her were so positive. She has books and a website (I know that doesnt make a person more reliable but she is quite famous in UK). 

 

25 minutes ago, Mrs. Plummer said:

I'm so sorry your experience wasn't very good. People who have readings with mediums who are fakes/self-deluded/just not very good sometimes have their grief worsened - the disappointment when you are searching to have your loved one's ongoing survival confirmed, can be profound. 

I have had the worst thing happen to me. The worst. There isnt anything that anyone can say to make me feel worse really... I am at absolute bottom. I just had a laugh after a very long time and couldnt believe how hundereds of people were attending her shows and believed that she actually brought them messages.

I will definitely look into the material you sent. And of course HUGS! X

 

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I like that so many of them do phone readings but the skeptic in me also feels like it would be so easy for them to just google you or take a look at your Facebook page

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1 minute ago, TooDevastated said:

 I just had a laugh after a very long time and couldnt believe how hundereds of people were attending her shows and believed that she actually brought them messages.

 

Fantastic you could see it as an occasion of humour :) And you are absolutely right that fame doesn't necessarily mean they're any good - I think Sylvia Browne was so full of **** it was unbelievable :)

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3 minutes ago, Djh0901kc said:

I like that so many of them do phone readings but the skeptic in me also feels like it would be so easy for them to just google you or take a look at your Facebook page

Yes, I feel that same skepticism too - changed FB privacy settings can help, I think :)

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1 minute ago, Djh0901kc said:

I like that so many of them do phone readings but the skeptic in me also feels like it would be so easy for them to just google you or take a look at your Facebook page

Exactly! In her books, and in the comments I read on her, people only told her their first names and she'd give them information on stuff that nobody but the deceased could know.

In my reading however, she asked my first and last name, my birthday, and where I was from etc. So I think all the career advice I received could be based on a simple google search on my name (as I have an easily accessible CV). After some time, I just had to tell her I didnt book the session  for career advice I wanted to know about my boyfriend. She thought he was alive for a moment. Then suspected and asked me "is he dead?" unbelievable isnt it?!

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God, yes, quite literally unbelievable. A good medium will not let you tell them anything!

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Djh0901kc,

http://www.bestpsychicmediums.com/thelist.htm

There are also a lot of great afterlife articles associated with this site.

Mrs. Plummer is right. A good, reputable medium should not require any info, except maybe a name to make sure of the connection. Sometimes, others you know who have transitioned over might decide to come through for you as well. I have had my husband's father come through with him, with messages that warmed my heart as well.

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I think I may try Joanne Gerber. I don't suppose anyone else has used her?

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I know a widow that saw the psychic from t.v. (I forgot her name) and she told her things only her and her deceased husband knew, she felt bolstered by the visit she had with her.

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On 12/8/2017 at 2:46 PM, TooDevastated said:

K9219, I am sorry you had messages that were heartbreaking. I am starting to believe firmly that there is an afterlife. But I wish I could also believe that our dead loved ones were all in peace. I feel like he is just as hurt and disappointed as I am and he is trying to comfort me as much as he is able in that new form.

There were also good things, he was in peace and he was with me.

I asked if he still can feel the love I have for him, and the answer what's soulwarming: YES, death is not a barrier for love, he will feel my love and he is still loving me

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I will share my experience with a medium only about a month after the love of my life died from cancer.  Like KA9219 I didn't lose my life long partner/husband but my boyfriend and our time was much much too short.  We had just under 4 months before he died from cancer at 45 yrs old.  I knew he had cancer going in but he was so optimistic and upbeat and such a fighter, I never had a doubt he would beat cancer and we would make our dreams come true.  We both had bad marriages and bad rebound relationships...we were each others reward for all of the negative....we truly connected and fell in love quickly.  

I am a spiritual person and had many readings over the years....some good, some bad and some just wonderful.  My reading after Scott died was perfect.  I knew the chances of him coming through were slim to none so soon after his death but like many of you, I needed something...something to hold onto.  I hit rock bottom with my grief, I didn't know why this perfect for me man would come into my life and be ripped away from me just as we were getting started.  It has been the most heartbreaking, painful experience of my life.  However, I have spent the last 4 months realizing he came to my life for a purpose...to show me love, to let me love him and give him happiness, love and joy until he took his last breath.  That is exactly what I did and I have no regrets except for maybe not spending the last night with him in the hospital.

OK-here's what happened at my reading.  The psychic knew nothing about me or him.  She said he came through right away but for some reason he didn't know he could speak.  She said he had a female family member with him speaking for him (the medium kept saying he could speak but he kept indicating he couldn't).  This was the first validation for me - his tumor grew in his mouth at the end...for the last few weeks he could barely speak and for the last week in the hospital they didn't allow him to speak for fear it was cause internal bleeding).  No one but his immediately family or people that visited him in the hospital knew this. I got goosebumps and started bawling my eyes out.    Many things were shared so I'll just share the key things.

1.  They medium said "he wants you to say something or ask him a question in your mind only and he will answer".  So....I thought "I hope you know how absolutely much I love you and will always love you".  His response was a typical response from him in life "ditto"

2.  He wanted me to still go to the ocean.  This had 2 possibilities - his parents have a house on the ocean in FL.  We were planning to go there with our kids as soon as his Dr's gave him the OK and also I had been planning a cruise for my 50th bday that he was going to join me on.  Well....a month later, his parents invited me to bring my son to their home in FL with my love's 2 daughters.  (I have not shared any of this with his family).

3.  He said to "keep fishing".  I had no clue what that meant because we never fished and I haven't since I was a kid.  2 weeks later I remembered a conversation he & I had a couple of weeks into our relationship about how I had dated on an online dating site before we met.  Plenty of Fish - they call it "fishing".  So...that weekend I opened up a profile...didn't include my picture...started talking to a few people hoping to find a way to start living my life again...even if only through the computer screen.  I was desperate to ease my pain - somehow.  Well...after talking to a few people...I decided I wasn't ready and hid my profile.   Well...one person kept messaging me and we talked for a day or two....I sent him my picture and he recognized me...I met him at my home the fall before while he was visiting my brother (who lives with me) and a very long story short - he is every bit the man Scott was and everything I have ever wanted in a person.  

He completely understands my loss (as best he can anyway) is fully supportive of my love for the man I lost and the life I lost and my mourning.  I know without a doubt Scott and God sent this man to me to help me heal.  I couldn't have done it on my own.  My heart was shattered...I was in complete downward spiral mode.  Scott knew I spent so many years alone in a bad marriage and knew I deserved a good man and a good life for what is left of mine...he knew I wanted a lifelong partner to share my life with and to grow together....he was that man but God had other plans so he sent me a man just as wonderful.

I never thought in a million years I would ever find a man that fit the mold I created in my mind and when I fell in love with Scott....I was so blessed.  He was a wonderful loving and kind man....when I lost him I thought "this is it...I only had him for 4 months but at least I had him and now I know what real love it".  I didn't think it was fair to only have that short time but I have another chance now....I thank Scott every day for sending Dave to me.   I introduced him to Scott's parents last week and they were so kind.  I now know he and they just want me to be happy.  It is hard loving 2 men at the same time but I am so very blessed.  I now wear 2 heart necklaces around my neck, one has Scott's initials on it that I bought after he passed and put his ashes inside...the other is one Dave bought me for my 50th birthday....he had no idea anything about my Scott necklace....they fit perfectly together and I know it's just one more sign....my heart is big enough for them both. 

I know this was a long read but as you can see...I'm a total believer.  I have never had such peace in my life as I have right now.  Yes...my heart still aches for my lost love but I know he is here with me every day...he is guiding me to the life we planned together.  He came into my life for a reason....to show me how much love I have to give and how much love I deserved in return.  

I hope this helps some of you and the original poster....get referrals for a medium before spending your money.  There are a lot of fakes but a real medium can give you so much peace.

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Sue, this is a beautiful story.  Thank you for sharing this.  It gives me some hope.

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Sue, Many thanks for sharing such a personal, wonderful experience. I am sincerely happy for you that Scott sent Dave into your life and you can live out your dreams, be at peace and love again.

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I don't know if I believe in mediums. The ones that are like that man Gordon Smith are very strangely accurate but still I don't know because of my belief in God? Maybe some are real... But I don't think a lot of them are. One very off mistake... And I become skeptical. 

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9 hours ago, KMB said:

Sue, Many thanks for sharing such a personal, wonderful experience. I am sincerely happy for you that Scott sent Dave into your life and you can live out your dreams, be at peace and love again.

Thank you KMB.  I pinch myself everyday because I truly can't believe it's real.

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Sue,

Thank you for sharing your story with us.  It's amazing and I wish you only the best!

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7 hours ago, KayC said:

Sue,

Thank you for sharing your story with us.  It's amazing and I wish you only the best!

Thank you Kay.  I feel so very blessed.  Scott has been gone longer than we had together and its hard to understand that I love him even more now than I did they day he passed.  He is my guardian angel for sure.

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6 hours ago, Sue P 67 said:

 He is my guardian angel for sure.

Yep, he truly is. His love will always be there for you, guiding your way.:wub:

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On 8/12/2017 at 0:33 AM, TooDevastated said:

I will not lose faith that he is waiting for me, though. I have had SO many 'signs' as they call it. I know he is around me and doing his best to comfort me (I feel I am in pain beyond comfort, but thats another story).

I too am so sorry for your experience but am glad to hear you are not losing your faith - he is spirit and is awaiting your return.  I think when we are born, we die from the spiritual realm and the angels mourn, but the only difference is that they know we will return home; and when we die from this earthly realm, we return to the spiritual realm, and we who are left on this earth, mourn because we don't know where they've gone; know that they've gone back home.  If we could only think like the angels, we too would rejoice, but unfortunately we can't  and that mourning is the pain you feel beyond comfort.   I'm praying that God gives you the comfort in this difficult time.  There are so many scripture that says HE will.  A few that comes to mind are:

  • Isaiah 40:1 - “‘Comfort, yes, comfort My people!’ says your God.”
  • Matthew 5:4 - "Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted".
  • Matthew 11:28 - "Come to Me, all who labor an are heavy laden, and I will give you rest".

Know that you are in my prayers and I pray that God will give you the comfort and peace you need at this time in your journey.  Stay strong because you are strong!

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Sue,

My husband has been gone longer than he was in my life, that feels really weird but I know it doesn't matter really, because what matters is how significant he was to me and to my life, and he was more so than anyone else combined.

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1 hour ago, KayC said:

because what matters is how significant he was to me and to my life, and he was more so than anyone else combined.

I still have trouble with that and feel a burden of guilt. I ask God if I am thinking immorally. I placed my husband as my priority when he was here, more so, after the kids were grown and on their own. Even now, in my grieving, my husband is on my mind constantly and my wishing to be reunited. I don't love my kids any less, just differently than I do my husband. They have their own life path to follow and my path is a grieving journey. I still have concentration, focus, memory loss issues and wonder how much my thinking is skewered between my kids and my husband. I'm supposed to live in the present moment, but my husband and our love is still a priority. I just don't know if I am being judged by God in placing so much importance on my husband, even though he is in Heaven under God's care.

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3 hours ago, KMB said:

I still have trouble with that and feel a burden of guilt. I ask God if I am thinking immorally. I placed my husband as my priority when he was here, more so, after the kids were grown and on their own. Even now, in my grieving, my husband is on my mind constantly and my wishing to be reunited. I don't love my kids any less, just differently than I do my husband. They have their own life path to follow and my path is a grieving journey. I still have concentration, focus, memory loss issues and wonder how much my thinking is skewered between my kids and my husband. I'm supposed to live in the present moment, but my husband and our love is still a priority. I just don't know if I am being judged by God in placing so much importance on my husband, even though he is in Heaven under God's care.

I haven't posted in a bit. I've been trying to get through each day and sometimes I feel I have nothing to share that will help anyone, as I am still working my way through this thick fog of pain and loneliness. But I too have often thought this, KMB. Is God upset with me for putting my Lily above all else in my life. I say maybe but He wants us to love one other and I believe love is the one thing He wants us to share. I guess I haven't done much sharing. I poured all my love into Lily and now I have nothing. Am I wrong to constantly think about her and wish for her to be here with me when I know she is in Heaven and God is taking care of her now? I sometimes think I am being selfish but I feel how I feel. I can try to distract myself or make myself think of other things, but that's just it, I'm forcing myself to do it. My thoughts always go back to Lily and how much I wish I could talk and laugh with her. I pray every night for God's guidance but I wonder if He listens to me. Is He waiting for me to abandon all hope and thoughts of her. I would disappoint Him if that's the case.

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Lulu, I get you completely also. My husband no longer has a physical presence in my life, but I still think of him.  I try to keep up with the maintenance of the house and property the way we both did. When I have a difficult decision to make, that my husband would have naturally have made, I try to think in his way, in coming up with said decision. I will always miss him, love him. I would think that God admires and respects me for still thinking of my husband in the same context I always have. I know I have to place focus onto my kids and to others, but, I always did that when my husband was here. My daughter moved in and I am helping her get back on her feet again because she had to leave the job she was at. I still question God in the reason why my husband's health took such a drastic downturn and why he was called home. I don't want that thought in my head that God wanted me not to be so dependent on one person emotionally. I thought I was doing a good job with helping to keep everyone's needs on me balanced.

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