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Yesterday was Kevin's 6th month since his passing, each nearer the 8th, I'll just go downhill. I'm visiting and staying at a close friend's place, our husbands are best friends as well. Last evening, she was bragging and praising her husband and children all night, I just can't take it and I was crying in my heart. I know she doesn't mean but I thought to myself how insensitive of her and why is she telling me all these. 

I'm leaving next Friday and thinking of leaving earlier as I can't stay anymore bragging. Kevin's birthday is next weekend and it's Father's Day. 

Please tell me, am I overreacting? 

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I do not think you are over-reacting. Your friend should be more sensitive and aware of how you are feeling. Have you thought about telling her you understand she is happy, but right now you are in a very painful spot and it's hard for you to deal with your own loss, which is magnified when others point out what they have? 

Or, you can go home and deal with your grief in your own way in your own surroundings. 

We will be here with you,

ModKonnie

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Hi Modkonnie, thank you for your reply.

I felt better to know I'm not over-reacting and there are people there for me. I wish that I have the courage to tell her but I will slowly draw away from her. 

Sylvia

 

 

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Dear Sylvia,

I'm sorry your friend's words have hurt you. I think a lot of friends and family are not fully aware of our pain and sorrow. And they just don't know how to talk to those of us experiencing grief.

It would be hard to tell your friend because we can't be sure of her reaction. Her reaction might even cause you more pain and sorrow.

Take care of yourself. Please know all your thoughts and feelings are normal and natural. Its hard. And for me, 8 months since my dad's passing I am still tearful.

Thinking of you. Sending you all my thoughts and prayers.

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Hi Reader

So sorry for your loss. Thank you for your kind thoughts, words and prayers.

The last few days have been tough as Kevin's birthday is next Saturday and Sunday is Father's Day. This is first birthday and Father's Day without him. My kids will still celebrate the two days but with heavy hearts. My daughter (27 years old) has been badly affected with the loss too. She's been depressed and she has seen a couple therapist without any success. I'm grieving myself and at the same time worried for her. I'm feeling so helpless that I can't be much help to her. 

It's been a very difficult and painful time for us. 

Sylvia

 

 

 

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