Members fletch14 Posted April 27, 2017 Members Report Share Posted April 27, 2017 I lost my mom on March 5th - the most horrific day of my life. Since, I have been in a black hole of sadness and grief... at times curling up in a ball crying, and other times numbly stumbling through my days. Lately, I haven't been crying as much. I am wondering what it feels like when you start to heal, and resume any sort of normalcy in your life. I assume there are lots of ups and downs, but how do you know you are moving forward in, what feels to be, this never ending saga of sadness? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members reader Posted April 27, 2017 Members Report Share Posted April 27, 2017 Dear fletch14, I'm so sorry for your pain and sorrow. I know its hard. Its been 6 months since my dad passed. I don't know if I am really moving forward or just existing sometimes. I try to find some joy every day but even those short moments of joy remind me that my father is no longer here. I found this link about how do you know when grief is getting better: http://connect.legacy.com/inspire/page/show?id=1984035%3APage%3A3306 I hope it helps. Take care. Thinking of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members missdad Posted April 28, 2017 Members Report Share Posted April 28, 2017 Fletch14, So sorry about your mom. My dad died March 20th, so it’s also pretty recent. I start thinking I am doing better and bam! I am having a meltdown and crying hard. But my crying jags seem to be a little less frequent. I noticed the other day, I did not think of my dad when I first woke up, which I had been. I have more frequent moments when I don’t feel so empty. I think it’s a gradual process that is not a straight path. I am not sure how you know when you are moving forward, but I think the intensity of the sadness will get less frequent and less intense. I am hoping eventually; certain things bring a sense of comfort and peace. I hope when we think of our parents it’s kind of with a feeling of nostalgia instead of sorrow. Like I have two kids who are preteens. I think of times when they were little and get a little sad and nostalgic because I miss those days, but I don’t feel intense sadness. While a loss is not the same thing, I hope the feeling is more that way. I am probably making no sense, so I hope you get my meaning. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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