Members eliaal Posted March 26, 2010 Members Report Share Posted March 26, 2010 We were doing a simple snorkel in quite shallow water. The last words Jane, my wife, said were, "let's go back." She started back, doing just fine, when she appeared to struggle. I told here to roll on her back, which she did. Then, within minutes, she rolled over, with her face in the water. When I reached her, in less than a minute, she was dead. The cause? Unknown. A Seizure, perhaps. There were some warning signs earlier, in that she fainted several times during the year. Cause unknown. We took here to numerous doctors and all of her tests were excellent, including a strong heart and no high blood pressure. We exercised almost daily. For me the holiday season was very blue. I simply must attempt to redefine my life, which at my age is more difficult than I ever expected.How does one deal with this situation? Any help would be appreciated. My soul is deeply troubled. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members missingcurtis Posted May 9, 2010 Members Report Share Posted May 9, 2010 Sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my husband back in 2005 after a short bout with lung cancer. While I am thankful he did not linger and suffer a long time, I was unprepared for his death. We both thought the treatments were helping him and that we had some time to spend together. We hardley had time to even register what all was going on. Between the chemo and radiation treatments we probably spent 2 weeks at home in a 2 month period. Then he was gone. It is not something that you can get over quickly. I have made a lot of decisions that I should have probably given more thought to. So take your time and enjoy your memories.DEbbie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members eliaal Posted May 19, 2010 Author Members Report Share Posted May 19, 2010 Debbie, Thanks for your kind thoughts.The denial and pain of my loss is becoming less as the months pass by. Friends and trust in God have been vital in giving me strength.My direction over the past six months has been to move slowly, removing items from the house that are no longer needed. Instead of blindly removing them, all gifting has been targeted, giving to those most in need. As of today, this process is almost over. The next step is to place my house on the market, as it is much too large and to live a simplier life, free of stuff yet full of memories.The future is more difficult to define. Even though I am older, my mind continues to be sound and my talents remain. I do want to continue with work that is designed to help others rather than myself. With so much need in the World, this would seem to be a simple goal. Even then, I continue to question why such a goal continues to be elusive.Alan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators Kelly Posted June 8, 2010 Administrators Report Share Posted June 8, 2010 June 07, 2010 Dear Members, We’re excited to inform you that we’re moving to a new and improved message board at the end of this week. It may seem a little bit sudden, but we recently learned that the company that designed our current board is no longer in existence. Our new message board will offer enhanced profile capabilities and chat rooms with up to 20 people at a time (and more if we need it). All of your old posts and private messages will be migrated to our new message board. You may need to re-post your profile picture. Our new message board will feature: Custom profile fieldsProfile page customization with optional background colors, images, and tiling optionsFacebook and Twitter integrationMultiple post responses via “mini-quotes”Pinned discussion threads Targeted board announcements (for entire board or certain sections)Comprehensive search options enabling users to easily find all content created by a particular member (by clicking “Find Content” on the main profile page, or in the “Mini Profile” pop-up which can be accessed throughout the board) Enhanced privacy options that allow users to sign in anonymously, be hidden from the online users list, disable personal conversations, and deny user-to-user emails You can access the new message board by visiting www.grieving.com or www.beyondindigo.com. Grieving.com is still 100% a part of Beyond Indigo; we just created a new Web address for Search Engine Optimization (SEO) purposes. We’ll do our best to redirect all existing URL’s to our new board, but if you have difficulty accessing them, just remember to visit www.grieving.com or www.beyondindigo.com to find your message board thread. We’ll of course try to make this transition as seamless as possible. Our new board will seamlessly enable us to grow our community and provide you with even more ways to interact with one other, and for that we’re very grateful. Please feel free to email feedback@beyondindigo.com with any questions, and thank you for being a part of the Beyond Indigo online community. Kelly Baltzell, MAPresident/CEO, Beyond Indigo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators Kelly Posted August 8, 2010 Administrators Report Share Posted August 8, 2010 Dear Members,We are excited to mention that we are moving to a more new and improved message boards on MONDAY MORNING AUGUST 9th! The boards will be done for a few hours while we are making the conversation. Remember we posted information about this move a month ago. For some of you this might seem a bit sudden, but when we were reviewing the site we determined the current message board you are using is out of date and the company that designed it is no longer in existence. The good news is this new message board will have new features that have been requested in the past like more fields we can add to your profiles and a chat room up to 20 people at one time. If we find the chat room is bursting at the seams we will add additional room for extra people. All your old posts, private messages and such will be migrated to the new message board. You might have to put up your profile picture again but not sure. The new company will be doing the migration for us. Here is a short list of some of the new features on the board:- Custom Profile Fields- Users can customize their profile pages by selecting a background color or background image, with tiling options.- Facebook and Twitter Integration- users can respond to multiple posts at once with "mini-quote"- Pinned discussion threads - like welcome to our board etc.- Announcements made across some boards or the entire message board- Search: Users can easily find all content generated by a particular member, by clicking the 'Find Content' button that appears on the main profile page, or in the Mini Profile Popup which can be accessed throughout the board. The results page allows content to be filtered by application, as well whether the member created it or merely participated in it. - Privacy: allows users to sign in anonymously, hiding them from the online users list. Users also have the option to disable personal conversations and user-to-user emails, as well as ignore other users if necessary.The next exciting piece of news about the new message board is it will have a new domain name of www.grieving.com for search engine optimization purposes. It will still be apart of Beyond Indigo and can be found through www.beyondindigo.com. We will be redirecting your current URL's to this new domain name but we might miss a few. If that is the case simply go back to www.grieving.com or www.beyondindigo.com to find your message board thread. We will try to make the transition as seamless as possible. The bottom line is the new board will give us room to grow our community and more options to interact better with each other. If you have any questions please direct them to feedback@beyondindigo.com. Kelly Baltzell, MACEO/PresidentBeyond Indigo Family Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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