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Autocharge,

Thank you for this. Its actually taking my mind off my sorrow.  Its making me laugh here and there too.  It's like I'm reading a very interesting book. Very interesting. 

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10 hours ago, chasnrosa said:

Autocharge,

Thank you for this. Its actually taking my mind off my sorrow.  Its making me laugh here and there too.  It's like I'm reading a very interesting book. Very interesting. 

Chasnrosa, Thank you for the comment.

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13 hours ago, 4Hdad said:

KMB, no worries, it's all true. My marriage was less than ideal, which seems to make my experience somewhat different than many. 

AC, I believe that as long as you have your eyes open and you're respectful of the feelings of those in your circle, as you seem to be, than you have little to fear. I'm happy for you! 

4Hdad, nice to hear from you.

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On 8/16/2017 at 9:30 AM, Autocharge said:

I've got a different size bed “king size”, is it because I'm building a custom headboard for it

Ok I finished the Headboard but still have the rest of the bed frame to do. Here is what I've done so far

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My mother-in-law II

Ok its been 5 days and Carla and my MIL have spent some time together everyday, because I’m the center of gravity.  We've had at least dinner every night and they have had some time alone while I was busy out in the shop ( headboard project). My MIL has told me that “ Carla is nice and has been through alot”. Almost every evening during our conversations we talk about the past at some point. I hesitate and hold my breath a little, wondering if it is uncomfortable for Carla but comforting for my MIL. Talking about the past brings up emotions and feelings that I don't want to display in front of Carla. On the surface Carla doesn't appear to be effected ( looking only at body language). Should I apologize to Carla for the type of conversation that we are having in front of her. Or is it me being over sensitive to everyone else's feelings or needs and not my own. I want to be on both sides of the equation at the same time. We all know any variable can only be on one side of the equation at a time. Again I’m being pulled between two worlds. There's a lot of grieving between my MIL and I that we haven’t had the time for or face to face to talk about. So much history it hurts at times to think about it all. How do we carry the old life into the new world?

 

Autocharge(moving forward”new normal”)

 

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1 hour ago, Autocharge said:

My mother-in-law II

Ok its been 5 days and Carla and my MIL have spent some time together everyday, because I’m the center of gravity.  We've had at least dinner every night and they have had some time alone while I was busy out in the shop ( headboard project). My MIL has told me that “ Carla is nice and has been through alot”. Almost every evening during our conversations we talk about the past at some point. I hesitate and hold my breath a little, wondering if it is uncomfortable for Carla but comforting for my MIL. Talking about the past brings up emotions and feelings that I don't want to display in front of Carla. On the surface Carla doesn't appear to be effected ( looking only at body language). Should I apologize to Carla for the type of conversation that we are having in front of her. Or is it me being over sensitive to everyone else's feelings or needs and not my own. I want to be on both sides of the equation at the same time. We all know any variable can only be on one side of the equation at a time. Again I’m being pulled between two worlds. There's a lot of grieving between my MIL and I that we haven’t had the time for or face to face to talk about. So much history it hurts at times to think about it all. How do we carry the old life into the new world?

 

Autocharge(moving forward”new normal”)

 

It's a slippery slope indeed. Have you been able to speak with your MIL about how Carla isn't replacing your wife and that nobody could? Just be upfront with your MIL about how difficult this is for you. She might not have any idea of how hard this is for you. Remember, people don't know what they don't know. As for Carla, don't be afraid to show her your emotions as they pertain to the conflict you are feeling in your heart and in your head. And don't be afraid to just ask Carla if it makes her uncomfortable. It will help to set boundaries and also show her that you are truly concerned about her during this process as well. I wish you luck as you move forward in this phase of your life.

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KMB   

Autocharge,  I agree with Sean. Slow and steady wins out. It is good to know you are thinking of your situation from all angles. You have a kind and generous heart. Your wife would be proud of you and your family is also.

Beautiful headboard by the way!

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9 hours ago, Eagle-96 said:

Carla if it makes her uncomfortable.

I had the chance to talk to Carla to see if it was making her uncomfortable, the conversations that my mother-in-law was bringing up. Carla says she's “not uncomfortable and she has a thick skin and if something was to make her uncomfortable she would let me know “. Carla was very happy when I showed concern about her. When my mother-in-law and I talk we feel the common pain in our grief . When I talk with Carla I feel joy . Carla also said that “I worry too much about the little things .” She's right but then again I'm an introvert, that's what I do , constantly thinking.

 

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Autocharge, 

I was about to suggest you broach the subject with her just to see how it's making her feel, when I read you did just that.  I'm glad your communication goes so well and she feels comfortable in her own skin and will bring it to you if ever she isn't comfortable with the conversation.

Love your headboard!  Beautiful!

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Houston

 

I just returned from Houston went down there to help people out of the flooding. I was down there for 3 days had to come back because of truck problems.   Part of the solution not part of the problem no good if I break down . Below are some of the pictures that I took .

 

 


 

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Eagle-96   

So unbelievable and tragic. You are to be commended for your efforts in helping those in such need. God Bless you.

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KayC   

I'm sure it's an experience you'll never forget, thank you for your efforts.  We all know someone in TX, it's very hard.

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KMB   

AC, Thank you for your efforts in helping with this tragic event. The world needs people like you!! Take care of yourself.

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Houston II

I went down to Houston on Friday thinking my truck was fixed. On the way down the generator stopped working due to the water on the previous trip. I spent the first part of Saturday at O'reilly removing the generator and trying to fix it. At the same time I was charging the batteries (4 of them) . the Truck has a 24 volt system not the standard 12 volt that were all used to. I had some locals trying to help me but to no avail we were not able to fix the generator .  in the parking lot of a Riley's this lady approached the  truck and asked if I was a part of the National Guard.  I said no ,she said that a truck like mine had rescued her family and she wanted to thank me and she actually started to Bow and get down and kiss my feet that's when I stopped her and just gave her a hug and told her it's ok.  It's amazing how appreciative the people of Houston  are for the help that they have  received . I was forced to start heading back home, on the road back the truck broke down again this time it was a wiring problem. It had shorted out a wire. I jumperd around the wire, the truck started up and I made it back on what battery power I had left . During this trip I was not alone Carla wanted to go with me and she did. She sat in the truck in the heat for hours while I was trying to fix it, not once did she complain. She understood what we were trying to do and was supportive throughout the trip. As I left Houston I was disappointed I felt there was more that I could do down there I wanted to but with the truck problems it just wasn't meant to be .

 

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Ps This link is to a news story. About the firefighters that road in the back of my truck to get to the scene. It is the assignment where my truck took on water.

http://www.msn.com/en-us/movies/story/firefighters-get-creative-to-put-out-a-house-fire/vi-AAr5VSz?refvid=AAr5VSz

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KayC   

While the rest of us are just donating, you actually DID something, you should be proud for that.
I watched the video but was confused about what they were doing, not sure it was showing what you watched.  There was something red on the back of a truck, was it a boat that the firefighters were hanging onto?

I hope you don't have any more problems fixing your truck.  Water can do a lot of damage.  My son bought an Xterra from a flood in WA once, had to take everything apart, clean and dry it out (it took on a lot of mud & water), put everything back together, he drove it for a year before selling it.  Took him about a month to work on it, but he used it for a down payment on a mobile home, which he gutted and remodeled, then sold and used as a down payment on his house.  Shows what some hard work will do!

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3 hours ago, KayC said:

There was something red on the back of a truck, was it a boat that the firefighters were hanging onto?

It was a boat the firefighters were pointing the motor towards the fire . I gave the team a ride down in there so they could open the gates ,so that the boats could get in

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Hi everyone it's been two weeks since I last posted, almost two weeks. I've been busy with my truck doing repairs trying to fix the alternator prepping trying to go down to Florida to help out. However parts have failed to come in. The truck is still broke and it doesn't look like I'm going to make it down to Florida to help people.  Just about all of my family Including Carla think that it is a little risky. I agree it is at times but what else Am I going to do with my time. I find my new hobby of disaster chasing rather exciting and helpful at the same time. I've got the means and the capabilities to do it so why not. I'm pretty sure if my wife knew what I was doing she would do her best to stop me and I would probably listen to her .

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KayC   

If it's meant to be the parts will come in so you can fix your truck, otherwise your hands are tied.  There will be help needed for a long time I'm sure.

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Houston III

 

 

“After action report”


 

Natural staging area

The last big fuel station going into the disaster area. In this instance I-45 Buc-ee's Fueling station. This is where we ran into people coming out of and going into Houston people would transfer cases of water to my truck because I was going in and wish us luck . On my way out I transferred all the water I had to another group going in, cooperation at its best .

 

Stopping point

I-45 was closed and forced me to exit.

upon exiting I contacted local officer on patrol he gave me directions to official staging area where I encountered engine 77.

Engine 77 gave me my first assignment and address he showed me on his  cell phone using Google Maps then sent me a text message with the link. I used Google Maps to guide me to my first address. The cell service was obviously still up and running after my first drop off I picked up a local volunteer used him as a navigator for the immediate neighborhood. We combed the residential neighborhood looking for people.

 

First night

I slept in the back of my truck. The first night it was not good, the helicopter flew over once an hour picking people up, rain was continuous.

 

Second day

I woke up early  and had to leave the area, had to drive north of Houston about 30 minutes before I could find anything open. I needed supplies I was not prepared. after getting supplies I was contacted by a local Houston resident that wanted to go in and help. I used him as a navigator and together we managed to get back down into Houston. We had troubles because all of the roads and highways had flooded behind me on my way out. In Houston we started following the police Hummer all the way to the police station. There we signed up with North Houston police station and started taking orders.

 

Midday

Checked in with East Side Fire Marshal Where we sat until we got assignments from them. We got an assignment about 7:30 p.m. to go to an apartment building and ask people if they wanted to evacuate. Water was almost chest-high at this point and no one wanted to evacuate so we secured for the night. We stayed in the conference room at the Sheraton it was set up for volunteers. They gave us a room to shower and clean up in.

 

Third day

Eastside staging area was our first assignments same apartment building that we had been in the night before. We were to make our way through it to the water, in the process of doing so we found our first dead body. Our following assignments were in residential areas with high water rescue necessary. the address turned out to be false, no such address. we got three more assignments. Three more addresses, high water rescue, turned out the roads were dry by now and no persons at the addresses. Locals said the people had been rescued 2 days ago.

Noon

Had lunch no further assignments on the east side Fire Chief requested that we be transferred to the West Side I agreed and got in contact with the West Side Fire Chief via texting, Then proceeded to the staging area.

 

Westside assignments

 We were to provide transport for police and fire personnel to a possible fire in an apartment building, in responding to this call we experience high water drove in three quarters of a mile to get to the gates of the apartment. The water was too high to continue, unloaded personnel and backed out of the high water and waited for personnel to return. After waiting approximately 20-25 minutes the truck had taken on water in the snorkel and the engine had stopped. Now I needed to be rescued, for about 30 minutes until I figured out how to bypass the intake on the diesel motor. After removing the boot on the intake the engine started and I was able to self recover. Drove out to dry land (safety). Waited on and returned Personnel to Westside staging area and checked out  with Westside fire chief. Reason, truck not high water capable anymore ineffective.

Return home to repair the truck, after repairs return to Houston during the drive down the alternator broke. Truck is now broken again.

Saturday morning unable to fix the truck, forced to return home.

Started repairs again and prep for Florida.

 

Observations

People frustrated with 911 use social media to call for help. Results double or triple tickets. People rescued and not reported waste of rescue resources , but safe.

 

Solo

Solo volunteers are at risk of being victims themselves.

 

Groups of volunteers

Groups of volunteers are eager and capable but no direction or leader.

 

I know just enough to check in with local authorities and protocols to be the point of contact for the groups of people that followed the Big Green Truck. They followed the truck not me I carried the officers in charge of the department on two separate occasions. I was involved in two groups Group 1 Consisted of 10 watercrafts and Northside police.

Group 2 day two.

Day two the second group was 6 watercraft and five Laredo police officers armed. All volunteers, this group was ineffective prior to our first assignment parts of the group containing boats chose to go to Beaumont therefore left our group. Our first assignment was an apartment on dry land the boats did not want to follow and waste gas so the group was split again. second assignment was high water where the boats had responded to but two jet skis had deployed the pontoon boat did not deploy the jet skis were ineffective one sucked up trash and broke down the other one overheated. I ended up driving through high water to an address that did not exist the second group of volunteers at best was ineffective, quite possibly even needing rescue themselves. By lunch this group had completely broken down it was just me and my navigator and the truck now. We reported to Westside as requested by the Eastside Fire Marshal.

 

on paper

Group 1

1 high water vehicle with transport ability and Recovery capability

10 watercraft

20  local police.

 

Group 2

1 high water vehicle with transport ability and Recovery capabilities

6 watercraft

5 armed security personnel

 

 

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KayC   

I hope you don't have more truck problems because of having to go through high water.  It sounds like quite an experience!  Thank you for your efforts!

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KMB   

Autocharge,  I wish you well on truck repairs. I cannot imagine driving through high water. I always heard that water can crack the engine block. Maybe the big trucks are specially adapted?

Thank you for your volunteering efforts and stay safe!!

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On 9/14/2017 at 3:04 PM, KMB said:

Autocharge,  I wish you well on truck repairs. I cannot imagine driving through high water. I always heard that water can crack the engine block. Maybe the big trucks are specially adapted?

Thank you for your volunteering efforts and stay safe!!

You are correct . That is why I returned home to have it checked. Their was no water found in the engine oil, so It's good to go in that respect.

I just finished installing the new generator today. The truck is operational again. Now Im watching the new storms out in the atlantic.

Tonight I'm speaking to my Ham Radio club about my actions in Houston.

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