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I lost my mom on Jan 1st.  She was ill for quite awhile.  I know she is in a better place with no pain or suffering.  I thought I was ready for this but when the time came I knew I wasn't. 

Three years ago we lost dad.  It was after dad passed that we knew something was wrong with mom and her forgetting things were not from taking care of my dad. 

With my dad he had his mind right up to the end.  His body just gave out on him.  I had the time to talk with him about how much I appreciated everythng he did for my sons and I.  We lost my husband almost 12yrs ago.  My husband was 38yrs old.  He died suddenly.  Both of my parents were my rock through everything. 

Mom's mind went so very fast I didn't get the chance to talk with her like I did with dad.  Even though over the years I was always telling them that what they did for my sons and I, I would never forget.  I could not be with mom the day she passed.  The weather was bad and due to my health problems everyone told me I shouldn't go. I would not be able to handle it.  I feel so guilty for not being there for her when she needed me the most.  I keep telling myself that she knows how I feel about her and that I could not have gotten through my husbands death without her.  I know in time I will come to terms with this but right now it is all I can think of.

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I believe that your mom knew you loved her.  You told her, she felt it and you lived it.

I know though that regret, my mom was 1400 miles away when she died suddenly.

BUT.....she knew I loved her just as yours knew that you loved her.  In time you will find peace in that.  :)

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Thank you for the kind words.  We all know that our moms love us.  But I know it is only natural to wonder about it when they are finally gone.  One thing I am thankful for is I was raised in a home that you always felt loved and my parents always reminded us that.  As time goes by I know it will get easier.  I know that all to well. 

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You have a point there...it is natural to wonder.  I hope for you a healing journey, stay in touch and let us know how you are doing along the way.

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My deepest condolensces for you and your family in the loss of your mother.  Mine left us in November.  In the last 40 minutes of her life, when I told her that I loved her and be back in a little while, as I went to my room to rest, she was with my daughter/son/nieces/grand nieces and a close family friend, she gave her last breath.  I was awoken and was able to see her involuntary muscle on her throat give a last movement.  Her heart had already stopped.  And her soul/spirit had already left her.  Even as you are, I believe she is praying for you and your family right now from heaven.  I'm still talking to my momma in my car every day, telling her what day it is, whether it's night or day, and so forth.  For me this is my comfort in my grief.  Find whatever is your comfort and know that your mother and dad are right there with you.  God Bless You.

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Thank you for the comforting words.  Threw my adult life I have had so many losses  several were very tragic that it still pains me when I think about them.  But I have learned growing up that we must go on.  Even though we don't feel like we can. 

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