lost my precious girlfriend

[Abe]

my girlfriend just passed away yesterday, in her 28th birthday... she died from kidney failure....  its a painful experience, it just so hard to cope with this situation. i lost my self and i don't know what to do, i lost appetite, can't sleep...

she was an angel, i did my best to safe her life, but its too late... although she is in her dying bed but she is the one who is always support me and pray the best for me , which is even harder for me...    really appreciate  any suggestion for me to overcome my grief, thank you all beloved people .... Abe      

[KMB]

Prayers and hugs to you Abe, you'll find comfort and friends here who understand what you are going through. There is no easy way through grief. There are stages and many emotions to deal with.  It's a long journey that you'll have to travel with us and alone.  Just know that your girlfriend loves you and will be watching over you.

[KayC]

Abe,

I am so sorry, that is really rough, we here know what it is to lose that person that meant the world to us.  I hope you will make an appt. with a professional grief counselor that can help you sort out your feelings and know how to proceed...that's what they're trained to do and why we turn to them when we're going through this.
I also hope you will make an appt. with your doctor, let him know what is going on.  He may be able to give you something safe to help you sleep. Mine prescribed 5 mg Traozodone, it helped, I only took it when I really needed it as I didn't want to rely on something.  Sometimes we NEED to get some sleep though!

There are also grief support groups that meet, you might look for one of those where there are others going through similar experience.

http://www.griefhealingblog.com/2012/10/seeing-specialist-in-grief-counseling.html

http://www.griefhealingblog.com/2010/04/finding-grief-support-that-is-right-for.html

[Chasisdope]

I am truly sorry for your loss. I recently loss my husband on 10/20. He was battling leukemia for almost two years and he took his last breath last month in the ICU. I never got a chance to say good bye because he went into a cardiac arrest and also had kidney failure and all sorts of failures. It is the hardest thing to watch the person you love suffer so much and can't do much to help them. 

[claribassist13]

Abe, 

You never truly overcome your grief. There is no "getting over" this or "moving past" this. Instead, you'll find yourself redefining your relationship with your girlfriend. You'll be able to remember her without crying; you'll eventually be able to not think about all the things you lost out on. It will take a long time, but you will get there eventually.

Be sure to get support early. You are going to need people to talk to and to help you take care of yourself as you go through this. Make sure you have someone you can talk to, and allow yourself to feel your emotions as you come. You are only in the first couple of days, and it is going to get worse before it becomes better.

Keep reaching out! 

[Abe]

Dear All,

I apologize for the late respond im away from laptop for weeks,  thank you all for your support.

and sorry to replay all your comments in one post. and sorry about my english if it's sound insensitive or for using wrong words. 

Dear KMB, 

Thank you and I will keep remember that, I am truly sorry for your lost and I'm sure your husband loves you and will be watching over you too. hang in there, you are not alone.

Dear KayC,

 Thank you for the links, in fact I was considering taking some medicine at first, but after a few days past I'm getting better and  I decided to hold on into my self... instead it may sound weird but I imagine she is next to me, smiling and try to convincing me to go to sleep. it helps me relaxed. 

Dear Chasisdope,

Thank you for your comment, im really sorry for your lost, yes i know exactly that feeling when there is no chance to say good bye, something felt unsolved and painful about it, but its not our to decide and I'm sure at one point they already understand that and they also knew that they love us and forgive us. hang in there Chasisdope.

Dear Claribassist13,

thank you for your support, you are right over time its getting less painful, im no longer in a depress state, and hopefully It will get better, and eventually there is some friend when i need them

 

perhaps it was the second day i lost her when i post the article but thats only because most of my familiy member disagree about my relationship, i knew they will not comfort me, and I dont have much friend out here... i just felt that I need to share it to someone, and there i find you all. 

from the bottom of my heart thank you very much to all of you.        

 

       

[Sadaf Nazim]

Hi Abe

I lost my love on the same date. 13 November this year. I am in a very strange situation. Sometimes I remember him and laugh and smile at the memories. And sometimes I cry hopelessly like a child. The night time is specially very tough. Every night I wake up in the middle of the night after seeing him in my dream and start sobbing hugging his t shirt. And I don't know what to do. 

[KMB]

Abe---Stay with us here and keep posting. We care about you, we all care about each other.  You do have friends here who will continue to give you support, encouragement, universal love.  Keep sharing, we are listening. Prayers and hugs to you, you are not alone.

Sadaf---You'll make it, one minute, one hour, one day at a time. The journey of grieving is a roller coaster. Take your time, take all the time you need, take care of you.

[KayC]

Abe,

I'm sorry your family isn't more supportive.  No need to apologize, your life probably seems upside down right now.  Your English is good, we understand you fine.  I hope you will continue to come here and post when you can.

[Abe]

Sadaf Nazim,

my condolences,  I guess November 13th wont be our favorite day,  I have the same experience about her, all these flash back such as her smile, her voice and many other memories just passing my mind night after night, however try to hold on a little longer , we are still at the difficult stage and its ok to cry hopelessly its only means our emotion are adjusting to unload the pain feeling, I trying to think if they are watching us right now they would want us to calm down, that helps me to go back back to sleep after. hang in there Sadaf.

Dear KMB and KayC,

Thank you that means a lot for me, i will try to post more.

      

[Sadaf Nazim]

Thank you abe and kmb.

When everyone around us cannot truly understand what we are going through right now,some friends like you all can really give comfort. Thank you once again. I hope this journey of grief ends well for everyone of us. 

 

[KayC]

Again, I wish we had a like button here.  Abe, your post made me smile as you wrote November 13th won't be your favorite day...that's putting it mildly!  The anv. of death day remains one of the hardest days to get through.