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Well, here goes I hope this helps..

   I came home to help with my dad after his 2nd stroke.  My dad and I are very close and have always been.  He called me on a weekend night asking me to come home.  So, I left my job after 16 years and started over again to come home to help with my family.  My dad at the end had a total of 4 strokes and 2 heartattacks, renal failure, kidney failure and a list another mile long.  If you looked at my daddy you would have never known he was sick.  He was always strong with the will to live no matter the cost.  I live right across the street from my mom and dad, he passed away on November 15th 2009.  I held his hand as I told him Daddy it okay if you have to leave I promise that I will take care of mommy!  Then he took his last breathe and i have been a mess ever since. 

I am not sure that I was ready for what I have ahead of me without him in my life.  It was in and out of the hospital for years and nights of not sleeping helping mommy with dad.  I never thought he would really ever leave although he was so sick.  He lost alot of the memory he had of day to day functions but always knew me without me saying a word.  Today was so hard when it was just me and mom at the table eating without daddy.

He is the greatest daddy in the world and I miss him so much.  I would give anything to hear him say ..... Hello sissy come in here and get a cup of coffee and take the load off your feet.. I love you.......

I think I have finally reached my breaking point, losing my dad was half of my life.  I have so many things I need to ask him, so many things I have to do, My mom misses him so much 38 years not a week apart, What do I do now, 

I miss my dad.......... 

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My heart goes out to you, I know it hurts, I lost my dad 4 years ago almost.  He died of cancer and I took care of him, he died in my arms and not a day goes by that I don't think of him. 

Only time will help, it won't heal, and it is ok to cry.  We all do, we all handle our loss in different ways so go ahead and feel what you need to.  I like to think that our dads are watching us as they did before.  I know I make mistakes and I like to think each time I learn something it is due to him.

My prayers go up to the heavens tonight and I hope you find some peace. 

There is an empty space at the table but it is  never empty in my heart.

hugs

Leah

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Thank you, I never thought he would leave us.  I love my daddy so much all I do is cry.  I appreciate all the kind and caring words.  I hope are daddys find each other. 

Hugs back for you and your daddy

Billie Sue

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Hi Fayesgirl,

I am so sorry about the loss of your sweet dad.  My father died suddenly on 9 September this year and I still can't believe he is gone.  Some days I am more functional than others but it seems like everything has shifted in my world and I don't know how to get back to feeling complete again.

My mother is in her 70s and so we kids are having to help her with everything that my dad managed before--finances, home repairs, yardwork etc. She is very worried about the most minute things and I have to really work to be patient as I help her with paperwork and bank stuff. It seems like forever ago that she and I had time to just talk and laugh about things. I guess it will happen in time, but I miss dad, and I miss my old mom. 

Wishing everyone here some peace and positive energy for the holidays ahead.   

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Thank you,  I am sorry for your loss and it seems our fathers had alot in common.  My daddy did alot of everything but the house stuff, my mommy is only 59 daddy was 64 when he passed. I have a brother that well, has done nothing to help me or my mom.  I have had to deal with all of it to help my mommy.  I am glad I can help my mom thru this, but every Sunday is getting harder.  I would give anything to know he is okay and that I am not messing things up. 

It is nice to hear all the kind words and I hope your mom will find comfort in that You and your famly are there to help her.  Although in her heart she is missing your daddy, more then we could ever imagine.  

 

Lots of hugs to you and your mommy

 

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Loss of my Dad the Memories are endless.  Tears fall daily and my heart hurts for my mother.  I know it is life...Life without my hero, best friend, daddys girl is almost well hard to bare some days... I love you daddy!  I am taking care of mom the best way I can! 

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I know how you feel. I am 16 and my dad passed away when i was 13 just a couple of weeks before my birthday. it hurt so much. i didn't even want a birthday! it doesnt stop hurting but it gets masked with other things. i hope you are ok.  if yuo need anything just ask :D  x

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Thank you.  I am sorry for your loss!  I know he is in heaven watching down, but wish i could have one more day... at 13 I am sure it will be one of the hardest things you will ever have to go thru in life!  Hugs to you and your family.  We will see them again, and that will be a day to remember!

 

Lots of love,

Billie Sue

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I love you Daddy!  I will continue to be there for mom~ We are in church every Sunday, mom has ruff days... we miss you soooo much!  We love you ~ I will see you one day... till then wait for me....

 

 

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Thank you. I really do hope i can see him again. i loved him so much and as people would say i was 'his girl' i clung onto everything he said.

 

Lots of love.

 

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