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My husband and I live in New York, and have been living here for 3 years together. He's born and raised in a small town in Italy, very family-oriented and not career oriented. It's been hard on him to be away from his family and has no ties to New York nor reasons for living here aside from me. He's 32. I'm 27, American and feel very at home in New York in terms of culture, friends, and work. My career is growing here. Our families a friendly, but there's a big language barrier and we can't communicate without my husband or his sister translating. My husband's father has fallen sick with cancer. We don't know any of the details yet, but its unfortunately not looking good. My husband needs me (and our dog) to go to Italy in the next couple weeks. He is expecting me to move to Italy now to stay with his family. I have things in the states and New York that are important to me, and I'm not ready to make the move. I would love to go as soon as work allows me to (I teach) and stay for 2 weeks. And go back again for 2 weeks later in the year. I risk my job if I stay longer. I'm afraid of that moment when it's time for me to head back to the airport as things are difficult for their family. Am I being selfish? How have you all managed time off? What "typically" happens? Honestly, I have no radar or previous experience for this. Thank you.
laura-445 posted a topic in Loss of a Parent (Mother or Father)Hi all. My mum died three years ago on holiday with my Dad. She was on the back of his motorbike. My dad was unscathed when they had a crash, but my Mum died... I still don't know exactly what happened. I took a few months off university but got a job and kept incredibly busy for the past three years. I find myself constantly gripped by anxiety now, and have never regained the confidence I had before Mum died. I feel like life was going so well and then I was cheated - I can't cope with stress at all anymore, so I don't push myself and hesitate to do anything new for fear of being overwhelmed. I feel like a weak, damaged person and I'm so jealous of all the successful, bright young people I see around me - I want them to know I'd be like them too if I hadn't been through what I have. I don't know if I will be this way forever, or if I can get rid of the constant anxiety and fear of imminent catastrophe. I just wanted to start a conversation to see if there is anyone out there who feels this way too. I've never another woman who has lost their Mum suddenly in their teenage years.