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  1. Brinybay, I agree with Reader. I believe she may be happy to hear from you. My father died 7 years ago. I love when people tell me wonderful stories about him that I didn't know. It makes me feel like he hasn't been forgotten. ModKonnie
  2. Ani, I am very sorry about your loss of love and the loss of your friends. Any loss is hard, and we all grieve in different ways. Talking or writing is a great way to move forward and sort through things. As far as the job--what do you like? What are you good at? Do you need to go back to school? Do you need to consider relocating? What about trying something totally new and a little challenging? You move forward like you are doing. You take it a little at a time.Step by step, day by day. Ask yourself some questions and set some small (very small) goals. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  3. I am so very sorry about the loss of your friend. Yes, being in denial is part of the grieving cycle. It is always hard to accept when someone dies. Waiting for them to "show up" as normal is normal. It will take some time for reality to sink it. It's okay to feel angry, confused, hurt, sad, lonely, and everything else you can think of. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  4. Music101, I am very sorry about the loss of your father. I'm sure your mother would want to know how you are struggling. Others, too, would be willing to help. The very best way to heal is to talk to people. You've suffered a tremendous loss in your life, and the impact is huge. It's okay to be feeling how you feel, but you do need to tell others. You may be surprised that they already know you aren't doing okay. They may be waiting for you to reach out. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  5. I am very sorry for the loss of your father. He has only been gone 1 and 1/2 months. That's just so fresh and raw. Of course you are feeling emotionally drained and exhausted, unable to see how to move forward. Perhaps for now, just concentrate on trying to take care of yourself. It's okay to keep crying and to feel disoriented and lost. It's all so normal. In time, you will begin to heal and move forward. As for your boyfriend, he truly may be dealing with this badly because it all scares him. I mean, it scares all of us, doesn't it? While of course you are overwhelmed, he probably is too and trying to sort through everything. Try talking to the rest of your family for support. Continue to move forward as best as you can. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  6. Hi Catrice, While I'm somewhat computer savvy, I'm not sure what you mean? What kind of data breach would you be talking about and what kind of control would you want over administrator access? I do not have access to your password. I can reset it for you, but I can't see what your password is. So, can you give me a little better picture of what you are asking so I can pass this on if needed to our Tech Department? ModKonnie
  7. I do not think you are over-reacting. Your friend should be more sensitive and aware of how you are feeling. Have you thought about telling her you understand she is happy, but right now you are in a very painful spot and it's hard for you to deal with your own loss, which is magnified when others point out what they have? Or, you can go home and deal with your grief in your own way in your own surroundings. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  8. I am so very sorry about the situation you find yourself facing. You are a smart person to seek some professional advice. You may also want to consider joining a self help group. Many times, you will meet people going through the exact same thing. We all do things in our life we wish we could take back and redo. Instead, we have to accept the past and move forward. Do you have children? Do you have other family members you can talk to? Please keep talking to people. It will help. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  9. Have you tried writing letters to your brother? Many people find it therapeutic to write letters to their lost loved ones and talk about everything they want to talk about. Perhaps you should give it a try. Or, have you talked to any of your brother's friends or other relatives that like to talk about him? What about your parents? Maybe they would be good to talk to. I am very sorry about the loss of your brother. I lost mine years ago. It took some time to move forward. It was tough at times. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  10. Hendo, I am so very sorry I didn't see this months ago. I hope you have sought professional help with your feelings and your drug abuse. You truly need to talk to someone and get that situation straightened out. Let us know how you are doing. ModKonnie
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    Anmary, I realize this is late in posting, but I would seek professional help in sorting through this issue. Your marriage seems fragile at best, and I don't have any answers for you. Would your husband be interested in joint counseling? ModKonnie
  12. I am so very sorry about your loss and the tragic trauma of it all. Yes, alcohol is very scary for those who have the disease of addiction. It can ruin lives fast. I hope your husband seeks counseling immediately. It would be a good idea if you all go to counseling to help with the trauma of what has happened. Take care of yourself, We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  13. While I am no expert, feeling numb after a loss is normal. He may be in shock from it all. He will experience a multitude of emotions, including anger, frustration, fear, loneliness, etc. If he is still talking to you, then take that as a good thing. A week is no time at all to grieve and mourn the loss of a parent. It is going to take a long time for your boyfriend to begin to feel any sense of "normal." Just be there for him as much as you can. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  14. I am very sorry about the situation you find yourself in. So, have you gotten second and third opinions? Why can't they do some type of replacement surgery or unblock the artery? So, if it the artery is no longer able to be seen, like it vanished, how do they know it's blocked? That is very freaky. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  15. I urge you to go talk to a professional about how you are feeling. They will be able to help you sort through your emotions and struggles. I realize you miss your mother, as we all miss our parents when they die, but there are people who still need you, including your son. He needs a mom as you did. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  16. Hi all, We see many of you on our Facebook site, but some of you are missing. Come post your pics and join in the conversations at . Our Facebook page is just another great way to connect people together who need support and encouragement. We look forward to hearing from you, ModKonnie
  17. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband, but I think it's wonderful that you are moving forward in such a positive way. Your grieving/mourning are yours. The time frame is yours. Don't let the naysayers drag you down. If you are ready to look for another relationship, then do it. There is nothing wrong with your zest for life. You are still alive, so enjoy it. ModKonnie
  18. Wow. I completely understand your fear of having your son abused and neglected, but for all the stories of animal abuse on airlines, there are probably ten times the amount of stories of successful animal experiences in traveling. Have you researched airlines individually to see which would be more accommodating? Would it be easier and less stressful for you to possibly take a ship over to America? Could you take your son with you? Have you consulted with vets about the best way for him to travel? I hope you make the decision to get the treatment you need. If you must leave your son back, find someone you know will love and take care of him until you return. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  19. I am so sorry for the loss of your mother in law. Obviously, it's going to take some time for your wife to regain her footing and move forward. Losing a mother is so traumatic. You sound like a great guy and very supportive. Perhaps it would help you to look for a professional counselor or a close friend or a relative to talk to. Sometimes being the support mode person is very tough. Venting is necessary. You can vent here. We will listen. What is your stressful work situation? ModKonnie
  20. I am so very sorry for the loss of your dad. It's certainly never easy losing someone we love, and this sounds like the worst possible time in your life for that. I think some counseling for all of your family would definitely help. Also, talking to each other about how you feel may help, too. I'm sure everyone is grouchy, angry, scared, lost and every other emotion one can think of. It will take some time, but things will smooth out as you all figure out how to move forward. Is there a counselor at school you can talk to? A pastor? Anyone who will listen? Talking is truly the best way to heal. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  21. Michael, I am so very sorry about the loss of your fiance. You cannot blame yourself for this; accidents, however tragic, happen. Stop beating yourself up. Your fiance would not have wanted to you suffer and blame yourself. Would he? You both made the decision to split with every intention on getting back together. Then this happens. It's nobody's fault. It is what it is. The best way to deal with this is to talk to people. Join a face-to-face support group. Write letters to him (lots of people say writing letters to your lost loved one is very therapeutic). I know this tragedy is hard, but in time, the severe anguish will fade. You will be able to remember him with fondness and love. Perhaps even smile. For now, take care of yourself. We will be with you, ModKonnie
  22. I'm so very sorry for you loss. You can vent here. We will listen. It's not your fault at all. Please don't blame yourself. The best way to handle this is to talk about it. You've come to the right place. Would you like to share your story? How did you meet, how long you dated, what happened? We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  23. Have you talked to him about this? Does it have to be a permanent move? Can you be happy and find a comparable job in Italy? I do not have personal experience with this, but when my son was deployed in the military, he was gone for a year. His marriage almost unraveled due to the stress on each one of them. My daughter's husband travels for a living and has been gone for almost 9 months (been home a few times here and there). They are currently talking about ending the relationship. I've always been told that "absence makes the heart grow fonder, but I'm beginning to believe that absence makes the heart grow colder." That's just my two cents. ModKonnie
  24. I am so very sorry you are caught in this turmoil in the middle of your grief. Why did your parents not want him around? Are there counselors at your school? Can you talk to one? Are there friends you can talk to? Can you tell your parents you are angry over all this and confused? We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  25. Wow, I am very sorry for the loss of your father. You do sound very angry about the entire experience. I guess I am one of those people who like and love my parents. While they certainly aren't and weren't perfect, I forgave their mistakes as I matured. I was devastated and relieved when my father died. Devastated because I miss him, yet relieved that his horrific suffering was over. You may want to consider some professional advice for how you feel about your parents. Sounds like you hold a lot of pain, which probably isn't good for you in the long run. We will be here with you, ModKonnie