ModKonnie

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  1. I am so very sorry about the loss of precious Mia. I have a 15-year-old beautiful cat named Mia. She is not doing well. I've lost several fur babies over the years. It's never easy--ever! They take a piece of me with them. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  2. I am so very sorry about the loss of your brother. I lost my brother many years ago due to a car accident. It was terrible. I learned to take things a day at a time. Perhaps you should consider going to a grief support group. I want you to know it's okay to cry. It's okay to let people know your brother died. Perhaps you can talk to your professors and explain that your head is fuzzy right now. Please do your best to stay in school. You will get through this. My brother died two days before Christmas, and I had to go back to school the week after. It was rough, but I kept moving forward. You can do it too. Talk to as many people as you can about your feelings and your brother, especially your parents. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  3. I am sorry about the loss of your dad. Thanks for sharing your story. I'm a runner; I run marathons. It's my therapy, too. I lost my dad a few years ago, but he died from an alcohol-related illness. I miss him. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  4. Courtney, I am so very sorry about the loss of your best friend. Of course you are reeling from the shock and horror of it all. You may be experiencing all kinds of things--anger, rage, fear, intense sadness, anxiety, panic, loneliness, etc. It's all so normal, unfortunately. Many people experience extreme guilt for being alive while their loved one (and yes, that includes best friends) is dead. It's so confusing and tough. For now, just let yourself feel. Cry if you need to. Take it a little at a time. Just get through each day. Try to talk to others about how you feel. Can you talk to Rob's family? Were you close? Do you have anyone to talk to? We will be here for you, ModKonnie
  5. I am so very sorry about your loss. We have a forum Loss of a Child," and a thread "Loss of An Adult Child," where there are many, many parents who have experienced what you are reeling from. They may be able to offer you support, encouragement, advice and tips for getting through this and eventually moving forward. If you scroll to the top of this page, click on "home" then scroll until you find the forum, you will be more than welcome. They will embrace you and be there with you. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  6. Tina, I messaged you. ModKonnie
  7. Oh I am so very sorry for what has happened. Honestly, it wasn't your fault. It wasn't your husband's fault. Horrible accidents happen. I was on my way to take my cat to the vet, when he ran out the door of my house and jumped into the street and got ran over. It was terrible. I would just be honest and kind when you tell your friend. Expect her to be extremely upset. Can you take a mutual friend with you? I feel so bad for you all. Obviously, you are a caring person. Let us know how your friend is doing. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  8. I am so very sorry about the loss of your grandpa. He sounds like a wonderful man and a great father figure to you. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  9. Dr. Kay, I am very sorry about the loss of your precious mom. Have you considered professional counseling/therapy to figure out how to move forward and continue your practice and your life? Listen, you did everything you thought you could to help your mom. You didn't want her to suffer; who could blame you for frantically trying to help her? She didn't! It's okay. Stop beating yourself up. Really. I deal with death by just accepting that sometimes, despite all the best efforts, medicine and prayer, people die because, well, they do. It is just part of life. It still hurts like crazy, but it is what it is. You have to take care of yourself--you know that. What would your mother tell you to do? We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  10. I am so very sorry. My dear Emmy died at 15 years old. It was so hard. I loved her. For now, just cry and miss her. It will be okay. Do you have a picture? We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  11. Awww. She's beautiful. I am so very sorry about your loss. Feel free to cry, rant, rage. It's okay. And writing helps lots. Feel free to do it! We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  12. Oh Derrick, I am so very sorry you have lost Felix. I have suffered the horrible pain of losing a longtime fur baby. It's so rough. When my Emmy became ill, I couldn't put her down. She passed at home. My precious Bob was in so much pain, I had to put him down. He was our beloved. So, I've been there. Cry cry cry. It's okay. Pets are well, special friends... We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  13. I am so very sorry about the loss of your brother. When I was 14, I lost my brother on Dec. 23, two days before Christmas. It was terrible. My family wasn't the same anymore, and holidays were rough. Christmas is always freakishly happy/sad/traumatic/emotional for me. Most people find holidays and special occasions hard, especially the first year. You are not alone in how you feel. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  14. I am very sorry for your loss. Your anxiety sounds normal, but I am no expert. Many people suffer from terrible anxiety which makes them feel as though they can't breathe. Check with your doctor to see if you are okay if this continues. I work at a prison for my regular job. It is scary and horrible when medical emergencies happen. The people in charge truly try to do everything possible to help. It's very difficult... I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. I am so sorry you had to experience this trauma. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  15. I am so sorry about the loss of Lynn. She sounds like a dear, sweet person. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  16. Rachel, I am so very sorry about the loss of your mother, and I'm sorry you feel as though God let you down. I have no answer for why good people suffer and bad people don't. We will have to ask God when we see Him in person and assume that He has reasons for things that we just don't need to know. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  17. I am sorry I have no idea of any retreats in Australia or Melbourne. Can you perhaps do an internet search and find one, or talk to your doctor or local funeral home about one? ModKonnie
  18. For now, you get through each day by spending as much time with your mom as possible. You help her, you listen to her stories, you give her comfort. You spend time with your father. You help him. Tell your parents you love them. Tell them often. You also take good care of yourself. You eat right. You get rest. And find a support group. Look for a hospice center to help you: http://www.nhpco.org/about/hospice-care It is tough, but you just concentrate on a little at a time. Each day, just a little at a time. When she passes, you get through a little at a time just breathing. You cry, you rant, you vent, you talk, but you will get through. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  19. Hannah quick, I am so very sorry about the loss of your best friend. Stop blaming yourself. You couldn't have done anything. You did what you could. It's not your fault. Truly, it's not your fault. It's so tough, of course, not to feel guilty, but you have to tell yourself daily, over and over, it's not your fault because it isn't. ModKonnie
  20. Jup, I am so very sorry about the loss of your son-in-law. For now, try your best not to worry about the kinds of things you will deal with later. Just concentrate on being there for your grandson and your daughter. It will be many years before any of your concerns become an issue. You will be able to deal with them when they get here. We will be here for you, ModKonnie
  21. I am so very sorry about the loss of your brother. Do you have others to lean on for support? Do you have anyone to talk to? We all wish we had spent more time with those we lose, but well, we don't. It's okay. They still love us, and they know we love them. How was your visit to the cemetery? What did you feel? What were you thinking? How did you react? We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  22. I am so very sorry for your loss. Please reach out to others in your community and consider joining a self help group for grief (most funeral homes can direct you to one) or consider some professional counseling. Talking is the very best way to heal. Journaling is a great way to heal. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  23. I am so very sorry about your loss. You will survive, but it will be a long journey. Take it day by day. Just breath and get through for now. Do you have others for support? We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  24. Missing my Moma, I am very sorry about the loss of your mom. I'm going to be perfectly honest and say I feel like you are not being fair to your brother. I know your mother was your best friend, but your brother is also apart of your family. He deserves a small part of your mom, don't you think? It's a beloved recipe. It's going to make him happy, and he will be able to remember her with fondness. The more people that share your recipe, the more your mom is remember. That's how I see it. But I am no expert, nor am I perfect. ModKonnie
  25. IdaAdam, I am so utterly sorry about your loss. I know that currently no words can help, but please know we will be here with you. The best way to heal is to cry, to talk to others and to share your pain and loss with as many people as you can. Try to take care of yourself. ModKonnie