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      Advertisements   09/05/2017

      Hi all,  I'm sure you've noticed some changes in the forums. We've again had to do some updates, so that's why things may look a little different. Nothing major should have changed.  Also, we are going to start adding advertisements sensitive to our community on the boards. This is something we are experimenting with, and we will certainly make sure they are in the best interests of everyone. We want to make sure our forums continue to stay accessible and cost free to all of our members, and this is a way to ensure this.  If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to privately message me or email me at Konnie@beyondindigo.com.  As always, we will be here with you, ModKonnie


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About ModKonnie

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  • Birthday 08/10/1964

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    Fitness, Reading, Internet, My Children, Martial Arts
  • Loss Type
    Father, Brother
  1. The man I love took his own life

    I am so very sorry about the loss of the young man you loved. As much as you may find this hard to believe right now, time really does lessen the sharpness of the pain you are feeling. The empty, sickening feeling will fade. People deal with grief in many different ways; sometimes, people deal with grief by pretending they haven't been affected, while others fall apart openly. Stop blaming yourself for his death. It was his decision. You may need to really talk to a professional to deal with the intense trauma you have suffered over this. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  2. What if it never gets easier?

    You've definitely come to the right place. I am so very sorry you are dealing with this. I'm not so sure why you feel you SHOULD feel this way. I lost a brother, and while it was definitely horrific, life does go on for those of us who are still here. Your sister wouldn't want you to feel this way, would she? We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  3. Nonita, I am so very sorry about the sudden and tragic loss of your mom. We have a forum "Loss of a Parent," where you will find many people who have lost their beloved parents. They will be able to offer you support and encouragement, too. You have to stop beating yourself up over not calling your mom. I, too, go for days without talking to my mom. That's just how things are. Talking about your feelings will definitely help you to deal with them. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  4. Mum passed away suddenly

    I am so very sorry about the loss of your mom. You have come to the right place to find people to talk to. You may want to also post in "Loss of a Parent." There are many people in that forum who can offer you support and encouragement as you begin to put your life back together. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  5. deleting

    I will delete for you. ModKonnie
  6. Trauma from Siblings Heroin Death

    GrievingmySibling, I am so very sorry about the loss of your brother. Of course you are suffering from the horror and trauma of the whole tragedy. I'm glad you are going to a therapist. It will take some time for you to learn to deal with what has happened. Talking to others is the best way to heal. You've come to a good place to talk to people. Feel free to share whatever you are thinking or feeling. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  7. 100 Days

    Skywise, I am so very sorry about the loss of your Clive. You sound like you had an awesome relationship. You also sound like you are grieving in a healthy way and moving forward step by step. I'm sure helping your aunt has really been hard on you emotionally, mentally and probably physically. Your post wasn't too long; in fact, I enjoyed reading it. I almost laughed at the image of Clive slurping chili noisily while you were irritated. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  8. The Lost Of Both of My Parents

    I am very sorry about the loss of both of your parents. You will find many people here who share the struggle. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  9. Collage from the dead

    Well, if I could have had a collage from my father explaining who he is from the time I was born--I would have found that to be the most precious gift he ever gave me. I would love to know what my mother was thinking about and feeling and doing when she was young. So, I think the good would outweigh the possible negatives... ModKonnie
  10. Motocycle accident.

    I am so very sorry this has happened to your family. My brother died in a similar manner after a family argument in the middle of our yard. He drove off after fighting with my other brother, and an hour or so later was gone. I would suggest you talk to a professional about how you are feeling. You are obviously rocked by the trauma of the whole situation as well as the grief. You cope and deal by talking as much as possible about your loss, your feelings and your brother. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  11. They Forgot Me

    This is powerful... ModKonnie
  12. Collage from the dead

    Sugartree714, I don't think this is morbid; in fact, it doesn't sound like a bad idea. You could create one and give it to your child yourself when she/he becomes an adult. It may strengthen your relationship as you both learn how to become friends as adults. ModKonnie
  13. I am lost ..

    Crx, I am very sorry this has happened. So, you had a long distance relationship and you moved to the US. After being here for 2 days, your boyfriend's pet died, and he broke off the relationship? That is really awful of him. I know you are in pain, but you are probably better off in the long run. Take some time to grieve and deal with the end of the relationship, and then rebuild your life. Perhaps there was a lesson in this for you to learn... We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  14. I find myself questioning God

    I have no idea why bad things happen to good people, but they just do. I don't blame God; in fact, without Him, I couldn't get through some of the stuff life has thrown at me. I know God has a plan for all of us. I just don't understand it much of the time. It's okay, though. I still believe in Him, and always will. ModKonnie
  15. I feel I let my soul mate down

    Carrots, I am so very sorry about the loss of your soul mate. Your are not responsible for his death, so please don't blame yourself. Mental health problems are very difficult to deal with, particularly when they are someone else's. They wear a person down, and no one can blame you for trying to take care of yourself and your kids. I had a situation when I was a child where my brother had driven my sister, myself and my other brother to a party. On the way home, my brothers got into a fight. They ended up in a fist fight in the middle of the yard. It was two days before Christmas. My one brother jumped into the car and drove off like a crazed maniac, angry. A half mile up the road, he crashed into a telephone poll and died. Apparently, he had been drinking, and the fight was over his crazy driving. I was young at the time, and didn't realize exactly what was going on. It was difficult to deal with for all of us. I learned the same lesson you did--never leave a person in anger and let your loved ones know how much you love them. I drive my kids crazy by telling them I love them constantly. We will be here with you, ModKonnie