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About ModKonnie

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  • Birthday 08/10/1964

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    Fitness, Reading, Internet, My Children, Martial Arts
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    Father, Brother
  1. Brinybay, I agree with Reader. I believe she may be happy to hear from you. My father died 7 years ago. I love when people tell me wonderful stories about him that I didn't know. It makes me feel like he hasn't been forgotten. ModKonnie
  2. Ani, I am very sorry about your loss of love and the loss of your friends. Any loss is hard, and we all grieve in different ways. Talking or writing is a great way to move forward and sort through things. As far as the job--what do you like? What are you good at? Do you need to go back to school? Do you need to consider relocating? What about trying something totally new and a little challenging? You move forward like you are doing. You take it a little at a time.Step by step, day by day. Ask yourself some questions and set some small (very small) goals. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  3. I am so very sorry about the loss of your friend. Yes, being in denial is part of the grieving cycle. It is always hard to accept when someone dies. Waiting for them to "show up" as normal is normal. It will take some time for reality to sink it. It's okay to feel angry, confused, hurt, sad, lonely, and everything else you can think of. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  4. Music101, I am very sorry about the loss of your father. I'm sure your mother would want to know how you are struggling. Others, too, would be willing to help. The very best way to heal is to talk to people. You've suffered a tremendous loss in your life, and the impact is huge. It's okay to be feeling how you feel, but you do need to tell others. You may be surprised that they already know you aren't doing okay. They may be waiting for you to reach out. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  5. I am very sorry for the loss of your father. He has only been gone 1 and 1/2 months. That's just so fresh and raw. Of course you are feeling emotionally drained and exhausted, unable to see how to move forward. Perhaps for now, just concentrate on trying to take care of yourself. It's okay to keep crying and to feel disoriented and lost. It's all so normal. In time, you will begin to heal and move forward. As for your boyfriend, he truly may be dealing with this badly because it all scares him. I mean, it scares all of us, doesn't it? While of course you are overwhelmed, he probably is too and trying to sort through everything. Try talking to the rest of your family for support. Continue to move forward as best as you can. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  6. Hi Catrice, While I'm somewhat computer savvy, I'm not sure what you mean? What kind of data breach would you be talking about and what kind of control would you want over administrator access? I do not have access to your password. I can reset it for you, but I can't see what your password is. So, can you give me a little better picture of what you are asking so I can pass this on if needed to our Tech Department? ModKonnie
  7. I do not think you are over-reacting. Your friend should be more sensitive and aware of how you are feeling. Have you thought about telling her you understand she is happy, but right now you are in a very painful spot and it's hard for you to deal with your own loss, which is magnified when others point out what they have? Or, you can go home and deal with your grief in your own way in your own surroundings. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  8. I am so very sorry about the situation you find yourself facing. You are a smart person to seek some professional advice. You may also want to consider joining a self help group. Many times, you will meet people going through the exact same thing. We all do things in our life we wish we could take back and redo. Instead, we have to accept the past and move forward. Do you have children? Do you have other family members you can talk to? Please keep talking to people. It will help. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  9. Have you tried writing letters to your brother? Many people find it therapeutic to write letters to their lost loved ones and talk about everything they want to talk about. Perhaps you should give it a try. Or, have you talked to any of your brother's friends or other relatives that like to talk about him? What about your parents? Maybe they would be good to talk to. I am very sorry about the loss of your brother. I lost mine years ago. It took some time to move forward. It was tough at times. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  10. Hendo, I am so very sorry I didn't see this months ago. I hope you have sought professional help with your feelings and your drug abuse. You truly need to talk to someone and get that situation straightened out. Let us know how you are doing. ModKonnie
  11. divorce

    Anmary, I realize this is late in posting, but I would seek professional help in sorting through this issue. Your marriage seems fragile at best, and I don't have any answers for you. Would your husband be interested in joint counseling? ModKonnie
  12. I am so very sorry about your loss and the tragic trauma of it all. Yes, alcohol is very scary for those who have the disease of addiction. It can ruin lives fast. I hope your husband seeks counseling immediately. It would be a good idea if you all go to counseling to help with the trauma of what has happened. Take care of yourself, We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  13. While I am no expert, feeling numb after a loss is normal. He may be in shock from it all. He will experience a multitude of emotions, including anger, frustration, fear, loneliness, etc. If he is still talking to you, then take that as a good thing. A week is no time at all to grieve and mourn the loss of a parent. It is going to take a long time for your boyfriend to begin to feel any sense of "normal." Just be there for him as much as you can. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  14. I am very sorry about the situation you find yourself in. So, have you gotten second and third opinions? Why can't they do some type of replacement surgery or unblock the artery? So, if it the artery is no longer able to be seen, like it vanished, how do they know it's blocked? That is very freaky. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  15. I urge you to go talk to a professional about how you are feeling. They will be able to help you sort through your emotions and struggles. I realize you miss your mother, as we all miss our parents when they die, but there are people who still need you, including your son. He needs a mom as you did. We will be here with you, ModKonnie