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About ModKonnie

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    Fitness, Reading, Internet, My Children, Martial Arts
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    Father, Brother
  1. I am so very sorry about your loss and the tragic trauma of it all. Yes, alcohol is very scary for those who have the disease of addiction. It can ruin lives fast. I hope your husband seeks counseling immediately. It would be a good idea if you all go to counseling to help with the trauma of what has happened. Take care of yourself, We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  2. While I am no expert, feeling numb after a loss is normal. He may be in shock from it all. He will experience a multitude of emotions, including anger, frustration, fear, loneliness, etc. If he is still talking to you, then take that as a good thing. A week is no time at all to grieve and mourn the loss of a parent. It is going to take a long time for your boyfriend to begin to feel any sense of "normal." Just be there for him as much as you can. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  3. I am very sorry about the situation you find yourself in. So, have you gotten second and third opinions? Why can't they do some type of replacement surgery or unblock the artery? So, if it the artery is no longer able to be seen, like it vanished, how do they know it's blocked? That is very freaky. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  4. I urge you to go talk to a professional about how you are feeling. They will be able to help you sort through your emotions and struggles. I realize you miss your mother, as we all miss our parents when they die, but there are people who still need you, including your son. He needs a mom as you did. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  5. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband, but I think it's wonderful that you are moving forward in such a positive way. Your grieving/mourning are yours. The time frame is yours. Don't let the naysayers drag you down. If you are ready to look for another relationship, then do it. There is nothing wrong with your zest for life. You are still alive, so enjoy it. ModKonnie
  6. Wow. I completely understand your fear of having your son abused and neglected, but for all the stories of animal abuse on airlines, there are probably ten times the amount of stories of successful animal experiences in traveling. Have you researched airlines individually to see which would be more accommodating? Would it be easier and less stressful for you to possibly take a ship over to America? Could you take your son with you? Have you consulted with vets about the best way for him to travel? I hope you make the decision to get the treatment you need. If you must leave your son back, find someone you know will love and take care of him until you return. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  7. I am so sorry for the loss of your mother in law. Obviously, it's going to take some time for your wife to regain her footing and move forward. Losing a mother is so traumatic. You sound like a great guy and very supportive. Perhaps it would help you to look for a professional counselor or a close friend or a relative to talk to. Sometimes being the support mode person is very tough. Venting is necessary. You can vent here. We will listen. What is your stressful work situation? ModKonnie
  8. I am so very sorry for the loss of your dad. It's certainly never easy losing someone we love, and this sounds like the worst possible time in your life for that. I think some counseling for all of your family would definitely help. Also, talking to each other about how you feel may help, too. I'm sure everyone is grouchy, angry, scared, lost and every other emotion one can think of. It will take some time, but things will smooth out as you all figure out how to move forward. Is there a counselor at school you can talk to? A pastor? Anyone who will listen? Talking is truly the best way to heal. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  9. Michael, I am so very sorry about the loss of your fiance. You cannot blame yourself for this; accidents, however tragic, happen. Stop beating yourself up. Your fiance would not have wanted to you suffer and blame yourself. Would he? You both made the decision to split with every intention on getting back together. Then this happens. It's nobody's fault. It is what it is. The best way to deal with this is to talk to people. Join a face-to-face support group. Write letters to him (lots of people say writing letters to your lost loved one is very therapeutic). I know this tragedy is hard, but in time, the severe anguish will fade. You will be able to remember him with fondness and love. Perhaps even smile. For now, take care of yourself. We will be with you, ModKonnie
  10. I'm so very sorry for you loss. You can vent here. We will listen. It's not your fault at all. Please don't blame yourself. The best way to handle this is to talk about it. You've come to the right place. Would you like to share your story? How did you meet, how long you dated, what happened? We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  11. Have you talked to him about this? Does it have to be a permanent move? Can you be happy and find a comparable job in Italy? I do not have personal experience with this, but when my son was deployed in the military, he was gone for a year. His marriage almost unraveled due to the stress on each one of them. My daughter's husband travels for a living and has been gone for almost 9 months (been home a few times here and there). They are currently talking about ending the relationship. I've always been told that "absence makes the heart grow fonder, but I'm beginning to believe that absence makes the heart grow colder." That's just my two cents. ModKonnie
  12. I am so very sorry you are caught in this turmoil in the middle of your grief. Why did your parents not want him around? Are there counselors at your school? Can you talk to one? Are there friends you can talk to? Can you tell your parents you are angry over all this and confused? We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  13. Wow, I am very sorry for the loss of your father. You do sound very angry about the entire experience. I guess I am one of those people who like and love my parents. While they certainly aren't and weren't perfect, I forgave their mistakes as I matured. I was devastated and relieved when my father died. Devastated because I miss him, yet relieved that his horrific suffering was over. You may want to consider some professional advice for how you feel about your parents. Sounds like you hold a lot of pain, which probably isn't good for you in the long run. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  14. RizkaFTW, Do nothing for now. No big changes. Give this some time. Are your parents invalids? Do you keep in touch with them on a regular basis? Why do you need to make such drastic changes? You can be their support and have your own life. Do not quit your life. Think about all the options, and again, give this some time. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  15. I am so very sorry for your loss. I have no idea why things happen, and to really good people. I have no answers for you. I do believe you need to talk to your family about how you feel. I lost my brother to a car wreck many years ago. It was horrific and awful, but I can tell you from experience that the pain lessens over time and happy memories come back. It took awhile. Your grief is fresh, and your anger is strong. It is okay to feel that way. Just talk to your family and friends how you feel. Try to be there for his wife and family. You all need each other. Take care of yourself. We will be here with you, ModKonnie