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About ModKonnie

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  • Birthday 08/10/1964

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    Fitness, Reading, Internet, My Children, Martial Arts
  • Loss Type
    Father, Brother
  1. Penny, I am so very sorry about the loss of your precious William. I am going to move your post to the "Loss of a Child" forum. Most parents who have lost their precious children of all ages post in the "Loss of an Adult Child," thread in that forum. That is where they gather; even parents of young children and babies. Please go check that forum out. You will find support and encouragement. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  2. Go to the "loss of a partner" forum, which is down the page a bit. You should be able to see all of the posts about losing spouses and significant others. ModKonnie
  3. Oh my. While I'm no expert, you two need to see a counselor. Your father's illness and impending death is an extraordinary event that cannot be measured by who does what and how long it takes, nor can the monetary expenditures be expected to be normal. Y'all sound like you are fighting over ridiculously petty things, which is an indication that bigger things are going on. I mean, a person's life is waning here. Concentrate on the celebration of what life he has left. Truthfully, a counselor could help you decide what your next steps need to be, and how to work together to either produce a better marriage or to put together a peaceful and productive co-parenting strategy. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  4. Sarah, I am very sorry about the loss of your parents. While feeling angry, jealous, depressed and all kinds of other emotions are normal, you may want to reach out to talk to a professional or join a self-help group in your area. Talking to people is the best way to heal and get through this. Let people know how you feel as you work your way through your pain. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  5. Confused father, I am so very sorry about this tragedy in your daughter's and your life. First off, you have no fault in the behavior of your ex. It was her behavior and her decisions that led to her death, not yours. That being said, I am certainly no professional, but I believe your daughter needs to talk to someone about all of this. I'm not sure a five-year-old has the capacity to feel so "relieved" that she is "over" her mother's death. Make sure she is able to verbally express how she feels and is able to move forward. At the very least, your daughter was seriously neglected and has to deal with the trauma of that. A professional could help steer you on the right path for her. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  6. I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. Most parents who have lost their children gather together to post in "Loss of an Adult Child." Everyone is welcome, including those who have lost their babies at very early ages. You are so welcome to post in that forum. While I have not lost a child like you have, I do know that each child I have had, I've loved as much as the ones who came before. You'll have love for all of your next children. It will come naturally. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  7. Carmen, Please tell someone at school, or go to a nearby hospital, police station or some authority and tell them you've had thoughts of suicide. Tell your mother again how you are feeling. Reach out and tell everyone you love what your are feeling. Are you opposed to going to a church or religious sanctuary to get possible guidance and advice? The other posters have said it all well--suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Things will get better. You have to tell yourself this--even if you have trouble believing it--just keep telling yourself this while you reach out for help. ModKonnie
  8. I am so very sorry about the loss of precious Mia. I have a 15-year-old beautiful cat named Mia. She is not doing well. I've lost several fur babies over the years. It's never easy--ever! They take a piece of me with them. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  9. I am so very sorry about the loss of your brother. I lost my brother many years ago due to a car accident. It was terrible. I learned to take things a day at a time. Perhaps you should consider going to a grief support group. I want you to know it's okay to cry. It's okay to let people know your brother died. Perhaps you can talk to your professors and explain that your head is fuzzy right now. Please do your best to stay in school. You will get through this. My brother died two days before Christmas, and I had to go back to school the week after. It was rough, but I kept moving forward. You can do it too. Talk to as many people as you can about your feelings and your brother, especially your parents. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  10. I am sorry about the loss of your dad. Thanks for sharing your story. I'm a runner; I run marathons. It's my therapy, too. I lost my dad a few years ago, but he died from an alcohol-related illness. I miss him. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  11. Courtney, I am so very sorry about the loss of your best friend. Of course you are reeling from the shock and horror of it all. You may be experiencing all kinds of things--anger, rage, fear, intense sadness, anxiety, panic, loneliness, etc. It's all so normal, unfortunately. Many people experience extreme guilt for being alive while their loved one (and yes, that includes best friends) is dead. It's so confusing and tough. For now, just let yourself feel. Cry if you need to. Take it a little at a time. Just get through each day. Try to talk to others about how you feel. Can you talk to Rob's family? Were you close? Do you have anyone to talk to? We will be here for you, ModKonnie
  12. I am so very sorry about your loss. We have a forum Loss of a Child," and a thread "Loss of An Adult Child," where there are many, many parents who have experienced what you are reeling from. They may be able to offer you support, encouragement, advice and tips for getting through this and eventually moving forward. If you scroll to the top of this page, click on "home" then scroll until you find the forum, you will be more than welcome. They will embrace you and be there with you. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  13. Tina, I messaged you. ModKonnie
  14. Oh I am so very sorry for what has happened. Honestly, it wasn't your fault. It wasn't your husband's fault. Horrible accidents happen. I was on my way to take my cat to the vet, when he ran out the door of my house and jumped into the street and got ran over. It was terrible. I would just be honest and kind when you tell your friend. Expect her to be extremely upset. Can you take a mutual friend with you? I feel so bad for you all. Obviously, you are a caring person. Let us know how your friend is doing. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  15. I am so very sorry about the loss of your grandpa. He sounds like a wonderful man and a great father figure to you. We will be here with you, ModKonnie