ModKonnie

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About ModKonnie

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  • Birthday 08/10/1964

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  • Gender
    Female
  • Interests
    Fitness, Reading, Internet, My Children, Martial Arts
  • Loss Type
    Father, Brother
  1. Oh my KayC, I hope I'm not upsetting anyone with this statement--but I just don't believe in mediums. I've heard of some real quackery, and this is just another story to support that. I'd rather my precious pets die naturally fighting or something rather than being starving or trapped. And, since you live with a forested back-yard, she probably did come in contact with a predator. I was feeding a stray cat for weeks when we saw coyotes in our neighborhood. My stray disappeared that night. I've always assumed the poor thing met its fate with those wild beasts. ModKonnie
  2. Mitchek15, I am so very sorry you lost your father. The best thing I found is for you to continue talking with your mom about your feelings and her feelings. Be there for each other. Share fond memories, cry and just don't be afraid to feel what you are feeling. Try to also surround yourself with friends and family who are supportive of you both. Don't be afraid to ask for help. When I am missing my father, I like to sit somewhere quiet and picture his face, his favorite place in the kitchen and his smile. I picture him talking to me about what is troubling me, and while it may sound crazy, sometimes I can almost hear him telling me what to do. That works for me. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  3. Hi NickJames88, I am very sorry about the loss of your mother and how you feel like you have not moved forward in the past few years. Here are a few books that have been recommended: https://www.fairview.org/fv/groups/internet/documents/web_content/s_021615.pdf http://modernloss.com/6-grief-books-actually-help/ http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/ambiguous-loss-pauline-boss/1112326406 I hope one of these may help you. In the meantime, can you find a support group for grief and loss? What about counseling? We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  4. I'm very sorry about the loss of Leila. I had a young cat who I had just adopted and had a vet appointment one morning. As I was going out to the store, he zipped out of the house, and we joked "he was trying to escape before he got snipped." I didn't think anything of him running off; he usually came home just a short time later. Well, he didn't show up for hours. We looked for him, but didn't see him. As we were hollering for him, our neighbor walked up and said" "Are you missing a cat?" I said, "Yes." She said, "A yellow, tabby cat?" I said, "yes." She said, "Well, it's laying over in my yard dead. It obviously got run over. Can you come scrape him up and get him out of my yard?" She said that in FRONT of my four young children. They took off running toward my poor little cat, and I had to jump in front of them and stop them. My husband ran over there and nearly got sick. He went back to take care of things. I was so very ANGRY at that woman for being so cold and rude in front of my kids! And I felt so bad for my poor fur baby. Someone had hit him and run off. We laid him to rest and conducted a nice funeral. We buried him in a blanket he loved to sleep on. My kids were so traumatized by that woman. We never got along after that, and I was thrilled when she moved. It took awhile, but we were able to move forward from all that, and we've actually rescued four more cats in his honor. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  5. Awww, what a beautiful girl she is. I'm so very sorry. I've lost several of my fur babies over the years, and it's always so hard. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  6. Bibbith, I am so utterly sorry about the loss of your brother and the trauma surrounding it all. It sounds as though you truly may need to seek some professional advice in how to deal with all that you have experienced. I hope your family finds justice, and I hope you can begin to heal when the trial is over. If you feel like talking about what happened, we will be here to listen. Talking is the best way to heal. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  7. TashM, I am so very sorry for your loss, and I am so very sorry I didn't see your post. As hard as it is, just concentrate on getting through a little at a time. Do you have others who can help you? Is there anyone you can talk to? Just keep breathing.. Just keep breathing... We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  8. I am so very sorry about the loss of Jaxton. Have you ever talked to anyone about how you feel? I'm certainly no expert, but it sounds as though you are dealing with clinical depression of some sort with being unable to get out of bed. Perhaps a professional can guide you through your feelings and help you move forward. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  9. I am sorry about your diagnosis, but who told you that you only have 1-2 years left? I have been reading about the disease, and it sounds as though there are many available treatments. Are you currently getting treatment? I would talk to my doctor about how I feel. Perhaps she/he can send you to a professional who can guide you through dealing with your issues. Reach out to your parents and tell them your true feelings. Let them know you are scared. Perhaps this can be an opportunity to repair your relationship with them. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  10. I looked to see if you had posted anything, but I don't see any posts for you.Perhaps when you pressed "submit" it failed to send? Can you add the topic again? ModKonnie
  11. I am so very sorry about the loss of your brother. I am no expert, but I really feel as though you need to try to connect to other people and talk about your feelings. Isolating yourself is not good for you. I'm completely in the dark and have no clue about death metal and how that can be used as a healing tool, or even if it can be used as one. Do you have any friends you talk to? We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  12. Guest 27, I will delete your account. ModKonnie
  13. Do you have other family members--uncles, aunts, cousins? Do you have friends that you can reach out to talk to? So, do you not leave your home for anything? Have you considered a face-to-face self help group or individual, personal counseling? You need to talk to others, whether it is here or in person about how you are feeling. This is the best way to get through this ordeal. We will be here with you, ModKonnie
  14. Mary, Scroll down towards the bottom of the post until you see the box where you can type. Type what you want and then press the "submit reply" tab at the bottom of that box. It will be on the right hand side. ModKonnie
  15. Penny, I am so very sorry about the loss of your precious William. I am going to move your post to the "Loss of a Child" forum. Most parents who have lost their precious children of all ages post in the "Loss of an Adult Child," thread in that forum. That is where they gather; even parents of young children and babies. Please go check that forum out. You will find support and encouragement. We will be here with you, ModKonnie