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Jilty

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About Jilty

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  • Gender
    Female
  • Location
    wales
  • Loss Type
    Daughter by suicide
  • Angel Date
    30th May 2017

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    Jo
  • Last Name
    witheridge
  1. What to say when people ask if you are ok

    I am with you on this. My heartfelt sympathies go out to you. Returning to work this week after several weeks off after my 36 years old daughter's suicide people in the most well- intentioned way kept asking the same."Are you ok?" At first i would weakly smile and say "yes thanks" then I got so fed up of screaming inside of myself no I am not I started to say it to them. It soon stopped. People feel uncomfotable with having to deal with the reality and prefer the easier white lie I am afraid. Do it, tell them. It might help you in that you are not lying and feeling the guilt over that as well as your grief. The pain of my loss is still so raw and I cannot envisage a time when it won't be. Early days I am told although that is no consolation. No one should have to bury their child whatever the circumstances.
  2. Hello, I just want to put a brief synopsis of my story out here hoping people will have advice for me to help with this awful event. My daughter took her own life end of May after a few unsuccessful attempts. She was 36. She had led a troubled life, the underlying cause of her problems I won't discuss on here. My family are all devastated. I live alone, am divorced and my two sons don't live near, one is on another Continent anyway. Whilst I had sort of tucked away the idea that she might one day succeed at the back of my mind, the reality of it when it happened still blew me away.She had a nervous breakdown two years ago and this all just spiralled down out of that really. Still can't grasp the idea that i will never ever see her or speak to her again. I have only just gone back to work, they have been fabulous but I really, really don't want to be back there but am only going because my team cannot support my work load indefinitely and this guilt is adding to my emotional state. I feel torn between wanting to be at home and returning to the normal treadmill of reality. I am still bursting into tears at the slightest thing and it seems to be more often than in the first few weeks. This first week back has been so tiring even though I am office based. I have been drinking a lot more than normal but not to excess on any occasion and i do realise it is not an answer but it does help. (Been there before and have learnt from that experience). I have been in touch with a few support sites but no one has really reached out to me and I am hoping that I can be a part of this to share my story, get help and reach out to others too. Many thanks for reading and my sympathies go out to all of you who are sharing this grief from losing someone close to your hearts.
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