Hi sadandlost, First I would like to extend my condolences for the passing of your mother, I truly understand how painful that can be. Secondly, the death has always been something we as humans can't fully rectify. Speaking of the true God, Ecclesiastes 3:11 mentions "he has even put eternity in their heart", meaning we were not made with the prospect of dying nor with the acceptance of it. That being said, it can be difficult for anyone to deal with the situation. You friend may have only been able to say little due to the fact that's all she could say. Truly, your pain may be felt by her, and she might not know how best to process it and help. While I cannot give you advice, I will relay what an ancient proverb states: "There is a friend sticking closer than a brother." If that is truly how you feel about your friend, you can likely communicate such to her at an appropriate time. Such may help to heal matters. I hope this helps you.