On April 6th, my father had surgery to remove cancer, surgery went very well, all the cancer was removed. The following night and following day, he was feeling great and was optimistic his hospital stay would not be a full week because he was feeling so good. He was a very healthy, active 73 year old who loved being retired, living in Florida and playing golf nearly every day with his friends. His favorite saying after moving to Florida from Ohio was "Life is Good". My parents marriage was wonderful, they were soulmates for 51 years. ANyway, on Saturday April 8th, while still in the hospital, he began feeling more pain and just not feeling well. One thing led to another and he first had no blood pressure, then his kidneys stopped working and was put on dialysis. After much pain and suffering he suddenly passed on Sunday April 9th. I am so completely heartbroken and sad. I think the fact that he suffered before passing is what is killing me the most. Also, I didn't go see him on Saturday as planned, because my mother called and said he was not feeling well and needed to rest. Who knew he would die the next day? The surgeon and rest of the team have no answer as to what happened or what caused his death, except to say that his blood pressure was too low for too long. I have many days that I can't focus on any thing else but how much I miss him and how guilty I feel for not seeing him or comforting him when he was suffering. I know this is all normal, but I don't know how to cope and I am hoping this forum will help. At least talking to others who have been through this.