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  1. Lost of my husband best friend

    Thank u for the suggestions I am going to check on those books. My cousin who has went through the same thing lost of her husband. Suggested for me to watch the movie The Shack. I did and it was like they made the movie and knew exactly what I was feeling. There is also the book called The Shack. I guess I will never understand why God put Don in my life and then he takes him away from me? But I guess one day I will be able 2 ask God. I am sure Greatful God gave me the 6 years with Don.
  2. Lost of my husband best friend

    Thank u for the suggestions I am going to check on those books. My cousin who has went through the same thing lost of her husband. Suggested for me to watch the movie The Shack. I did and it was like they made the movie and knew exactly what I was feeling. There is also the book called The Shack. I guess I will never understand why God put Don in my life and then he takes him away from me? But I guess one day I will be able 2 ask God. I am sure Greatful God gave me the 6 years with Don.
  3. Lost of my husband best friend

    Thank u for the suggestions I am going to check on those books. My cousin who has went through the same thing lost of her husband. Suggested for me to watch the movie The Shack. I did and it was like they made the movie and knew exactly what I was feeling. There is also the book called The Shack. I guess I will never understand why God put Don in my life and then he takes him away from me? But I guess one day I will be able 2 ask God. I am sure Greatful God gave me the 6 years with Don.
  4. Lost of my husband best friend

    wow I am so sorry 4 ur lost. I too thought I would have plenary of years with my soul mate and best friend. But 4 some reason God called him home. We did talk about him passing but I guess I was just not wanting to realize it would really happen. DON really did try 2 prepare me but I just kept saying ok but Don u are not going to leave me 4 a long long time. We have so much more to do together. I just can't let go and I am so glad I get the signs from my best friend. I talk 2 him all the time. And I feel like he answers back in his own way. I am sad I lost my husband Don but I am also very BLESSED THAT I GOT TO CALL DON MY HUSBAND ,MY FRIEND AND MY HERO. AND I MY TRULY BLESSED CAUSE HE WAS MY STRENGHT THEN AND NOW HE IS MY GUARDIAN ANGEL. I FEEL LIKE WE ALL GET SIGNS FROM OUR LOVED ONES. NO MATTER WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK. DON IS ALWAYS WITH ME TAKING CARE OF ME PROTECTING ME LIKE HE ALWAYS DID.SOME PEOPLE SAY I AM CRAZY 4 SAYING THAT BUT I AM ONLY SAYING THAT CAUSE I KNOW IT'S TRUE.
  5. Lost of my husband best friend

    Well if u are delusional then I guess we all are. Cause I have told everyone that I write letters to Don and i know and I believe he is and can read the letter while I am writing it 2 him. I have never been good at expressing my feelings so Don use to tell me just write down how u are feeling & we can talk about it so I know he is reading the letters and helping me in his way deal with all the emonations I am feeling . So may be I am crazy but I will always believe Don reads my letters
  6. Lost of my husband best friend

    Thank you I feel so much better to know that other people still talk to their loved ones and write to them i do tell him the funny stuff that happens even know he sees it from heaven and I can see him laughing. I don't know who will read the letter when something happens to me but it won't matter. I only tell him the good and funny stuff cause he hated hearing bad stressful stuff. I talk to him all the time I always tell him i love him and miss him and I always thank God and Don every day for watching over me and protecting me.just like he did when he was here with me wait he still is with me in my heart. Thank you 4 letting me know I am not the only one who writes letters to my husband.
  7. Lost of my husband best friend

    yea I had to force myself to go out in the snow and play with our dog cause I Knew it was suspose to be Don Survivor and (our other dog Buddy) who is now wth Don & me all playing in the snow and sledding when I seen people having fun I hated it but and when i seen them holding each other it made me sad cause Don use to hold me so I wouldnt fall on the ice. I was jealous. I keep thinking why is their loved one still with them and my best friend had to go home so soon its not fair. But i knew Don wouldnt want me thinking that way. I knew Don wanted me to play with Survivor cause he was in heaven laughing at us. The thought of knowing Don is laughing at me and Survivor from heaven helped me and knowing Survivor had fun really helped me. Its true dogs are a great stress reliever i couldnt get through the the lost of DON and my dog BUDDY without Survivor. I feel like people judge me for grieving but Survior doesn't hope that makes sense
  8. Lost of my husband best friend

    I just wish Don was here we got snow and if Don was here we would of been out side playing in it throwing snow at each other playing with our dogs except one went home to be with Don and if it freezes we would go sledding and come home and lay under a blanket together with our dogs next to us yep we let our fur babies sleep on our bed and couching where they wanted they were our dogs they are our family. I did play with survivor today in the snow but then the guilt started popping its head back up cause i was laughing and enjoying playing with my fur baby and then stated feeling guilty cause Don and Buddy wasnt with us. I guess i am just crazy or is this just part of grieving? I cant let go of Don and my fur baby. Am I crazy like some people say? I write Don letters but I get criticized 4 doing that. Cause they say Don doesn't know I am writing to him. I may be wrong but I believe Don knows I am writingto him.
  9. Lost of my husband best friend

    I'll try but the guilty feeling just keeps popping it's ugly head.
  10. Lost of my husband best friend

    Thank u for saying that cause it makes a lot of sense. But how am I suspose to be strong enough to tell the guilt to go away. I tell myself I have nothing to be guilty of . But I am and was the weak link and Don was the STRONG link he was always there to hold me and make everything ok even if it was just a small thing like having a disagreement with a friend or family memberor from something serious like the passing of my dad or a surgery. He was always my strenght. He was the STRONG link in the chain. I want to be strong and tell grief to leave and stay away but I cant.I know Don always said if he went home b 4 me don't feel guilty or bad cause he is going to be home pain free and he will be waiting 4 me. I just wish I could be strong and tel all the guilt and bitterness I have sometimes to go the heck away and don't come back.
  11. Lost of my husband best friend

    Hello well hope the new year has been good so far 4 everyone. It's hard 4 me but I am still putting up the good fight .I am learning to cherish everyday that I get to wake up and still have my mom here and one of my fur babies. But I must say the depressionkeeps poppingI it's ugly head up. Every time i think ok I am going 2 be ok today the sadness pops back up. The guilt is there and just doesn't let go. I don't how to get rid of the guilt. I understand I didn't do anything wrong but I feel so guilty for smiling when I grieving the death of my husband and one of our fur babies Buddies. Why am I losing every one I Love? It's not fair.
  12. Lost of my husband best friend

    Hello every one well i just want to say I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas & a good new year so far. I just stayed to my self during Christmas just feeling sorry 4 myself. I just could face family with all the smiling. How can I be excepted to smile when I am heartbroken? And as for the new year same stayed to myself just me and our dog. I didn't feel like going out to celebrate. What would I be celebrating a new year meaning Don passed away a year ago in March. Plus if Don was here we would of stayed home maybe rented a movie cause he always said it's safer to bring the new year in at home and as long we were together it didn't matter where we were . I am just very lonely and depressed. And just wonder if anyone else here felt the same ? I know Christmas was suspose to be the celebration of JESUS Christ birthday, but how was I suspose 2 celebrate without the live of my life being here with me? And my family just didn't understand. They keep telling me to go out and have fun that's what Don would want yes that's true he told me if anything happened to make sure I continue 2 live life to the fullest cause he would always be with me but I just can't. I am just not ready. Is there something wrong with me?
  13. Lost of my husband best friend

    Well just wanted to say Merry Christmas to everyone. I know 4 me it's not going to be very Merry with my husband and now I lost one of our fur babies Buddy is in heaven with Don giving Don lots of hugs. I know Don would want me 2 celebrate the true meaning of Christmas Don loved Christmas not cause of the gifts he would get but because he understood the true meaning of Christmas. The birth of Jesus Christ. I know Don would want me to Celebrate the birth of Jesus but how can I celebrate when I am grieving the lost of the best person I have ever known? I don't want to break my promise to Don but I don't see why i should be celebrating when I don't have my husband and my friends and some family members don't understand why i am still grieving and still depressed over the passing of my husband. And they still don't understand why i still feel guilty about him passing. I guess if they never really had true love and lost their true love they will never understand.
  14. Lost of my husband best friend

    Yea I kinda ignored Thanksgiving 2 in a way I stayed in my room with our other furbaby (Survivor) Don always called him Timex. He took a licken & kept on ticken. I just kept asking what do i have to be Thanful 4? The lost of my best friend and my fur baby? I would be stupid 2 be thankful after losing them plus my dad and aunt the year before. Then I get a phone call from Don's sister telling me that Don would not want me to be ungreatful 2 think about how he was always thankful 4 the things he had not ungreatful 4 what he doesn't have. It made sense i still didnt celebrate Thanksgiving but i did take Survivior to a park and played with him and talked to Don cause i know that's what Don would of done after we celebrated Thanksgiving. I guess i knew if I didnt take Survivor like we did Don would be disappointedin me. But it's still going to be very hard to celebrate holidays without Don my dad and BUDDY. Buddy loved to open his Christmas presents and Don Loved Christmas not cause he got Packer stuff but because he knew the true meaning celebratethe true meaning the brith of Jesus Christ. I know Don will be mad if I say this but how do i suspose to celebrate the birth of Jesus if he took my family away from me? That thought keep popping up in my head. I guess i am just feeling sorry 4 myself. I dont know so many thoughts going through my head I feel guilty when i smile and i feel sad and cry when i hear someone talk about Don or something they remember Buddy did. I am just so lost in this world without them.
  15. Lost of my husband best friend

    Its not getting easier its getting harder every day specially sense the holidays are coming Don loved Christmas. He hated the shopping but loved wrapping presents i can just see Don now sitting next 2 the tree shaking the presents trying to figure out what is in it. I remember last year getting a big box and wrapping a set of tools and a green bay packer shirt in it just to make he crazy it was funny the tools made the box heavy. I put all kinds of bubble things to cover he was going crazy to find his gifts. I wish i could do that again this year. DON I LOVE U AND MISS U AND NOW 7 MONTHS AFTER U PASSED I LOST OUR FUR BABY BUDDY. HE IS WITH U DON PLEASE TAKE CARE OF BUDDY GIVE HIM LOTS OF HUGS 4 ME. LOVE U DON & BUDDY.
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