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  1. Complicated Grief

    Hi David...please hang in there...have you thought about seeing your GP? Could you be suffering from depression? Please do seek help, even the strongest people need support some times.
  2. Anxieties after loosing my Dad

    Dear Starlight...you are not alone, I too started having really bad anxiety soon after my mum passed away in January, not sleeping, not eating, lost 2stone in the process...but it does pass eventually, the last couple of weeks felt more "normal" to me, my appetite is back and I'm sleeping better. Maybe try some herbal medicine or see your doctor for some medication. Give yourself time to grieve. Sending you a hug.
  3. Thank you reader, MissionBlue and Drissa...its reassuring to know others are going/went through the same, as sometimes I think I'm going crazy. I think I am now starting to accept that I'm grieving and I just have to give it time, thank you all for your advice.
  4. Hello Ebony, I'm very sorry for your loss. You are not alone, I too started having anxiety and a few panic attacks after my mum passed away, seems to be part of the grief process. I don't have much advice, can only tell you how I'm dealing with mine. I went and saw my GP who prescribed anti depressants, however I have suffered from recurrent depression for many years and it just happened that my mum passed while I was off the meds so inevitably I had to be put back on them. GP also prescribed medication for the anxiety but after reading up on them I decided I didn't want to be dependent on that so I'm trying the alternative route and got myself some Kalms lavender capsules, they are natural and have helped me a great deal, my anxiety is now at a level where it's not stopping me from going about my day. Hope you feel better soon, sending a hug your way x
  5. Just to get it out

    Dear Rachael...I'm so sorry for your loss. I just want you to know that you are not alone. Sending you a hug x
  6. Hi missdad...So sorry for your loss. I don't know how it works where you live but when my mum passed away I had only a few weeks by law to sort out all the legal stuff, like the deeds of the house, bills etc. I also had a massive clear out after my mum passed but it need doing as my mum didn't throw nothing away for over 40 years. Everyone deals with grief in different ways though, maybe that is the way your mom found to deal with her loss? Sending a hug your way.
  7. Hi DeanC so sorry for your loss. I lost my mum suddenly in January and I too suffer from insomnia, my mind just won't stop thinking about my mum, imagining how she died and what I could have done if I had been there, which is silly since I live in a different country. Anyway it just got too much so I went to GP who had put me on meds but even with that I'm up at 4 am every day, I tried all herbal stuff first but no joy. It seems it's quite normal to have insomnia when going through grief, have you thought about going to your doctors? I have also just started bereavement counselling which I'm hoping it will help. Sorry don't really have any good advice, here if you want to chat though.
  8. Hi Erna so sorry for your loss. Sounds like you are experiencing the same as me, my therapist called it "complicated grief". I didnt have a good relationship with my mum and I spent years feeling angry at her and now she is gone and I don't feel angry at her no more just feel very sad, wishing things had been different, even feeling guilty that maybe I could have been a better daughter, but bottom line is I miss her because despite everything she was my mum.
  9. I can only sleep with medication and even with that I'm up at 4 am every day, feel so tired during the day but sleep just won't happen naturally no matter what I do, I have cut off caffeine, I go for a walk/jog everyday but the racing thoughts in my mind just won't stop...I keep imagining how my mum died and what I could of done if I had been there, which is stupid since I live in a different country but there you go, wish I could just stop my brain from overloading.
  10. Hello everyone, I'm new here and feeling lost... I lost my mum suddenly in January, we didn't have a normal mum/daughter relationship and I hadn't seen her for almost 5 years although we spoke regularly on the phone. In the first month following her passing I carried on with life as normal, didn't think it affected me that much but soon it all came crashing down on me. I started not sleeping, I developed anxiety and even had a few panic attacks. Been to GP who has put me on anti depressants plus meds to help with the anxiety and sleep but none really worked, meds have changed and although the anxiety has got better I am still only sleeping 3-4 hours at night, often waking up drenched in sweat. I have lost almost 2 stone in weight as my appetite has vanished. I feel like I'm stuck in a hole and can't find a way out, my children and my husband need me and I feel like I'm detached from everything. I started bereavement counselling and it appears I'm suffering from complicated grief due to the issues in my relationship with my mum. Anyone going through anything like this?
  11. Hi Fletch I'm so sorry for your loss. I was reading your post and it described just how I feel. My mum passed away early January 5 days after she turned 69...cardiac arrest at home, all very sudden. I too started having anxiety with that feel in the pit of my stomach, horrible isn't it? I went to see my GP who prescribed meds but after reading up about them, I thought I don't want to be dependent on this stuff, so I did a bit of research and found Kalms lavender tablets, they have really helped me, it says take one daily but I have had the odd day where I don't seem to calm my racing heart and take another one. Like you I can't pin point what I'm anxious about but I believe it's all down to grieving. I have also started bereavement counselling as I am suffering from complicated grief. I hope things improve for you, sending you a hug x