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kachimo

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About kachimo

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  • Gender
    Female
  • Location
    Michigan, USA
  • Loss Type
    Mom
  • Angel Date
    03/20/2010

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  • Occupation
    Medical
  • Last Name
    C
  • First Name
    Kelly
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    48307
  1. Hugs* and good call on the Buzz Lightyear stocking! ;P
  2. Holiday tradition?

    I buy a Demdaco Willowtree angel for someone different each year for Christmas in place of the one I would have bought for my mom's once growing collection. 1 year I bought one for a co-worker who lost her son, another year I bought one for my grief counselor, another year I bought one for my mom's best friend, another year I bought one for a patient of mine who was going through hard times, last Christmas I bought one for my soon to be mother-in-law... I actually really like how I do this and perhaps this idea could help someone else as well. Buy a Christmas present for someone in place of your lost loved one and gift it to them in honor of your lost loved one. <3
  3. Hi, N_Lou, It has been 7 years for me. I am empathetic towards your situation. After my mom's passing, my dad left me and moved to the other side of the country in order to emotionally survive. 2 months ago, my brother and his family moved out of state with very little warning and we used to live in the same neighborhood. I feel all alone now. I have my 10-year-old son who is truly my savior - he is what gets me through every day and I am also incredibly fortunate to have a really amazing man, but a part of me will never feel complete again. I too get jealous of friends and even strangers when I see them out with their moms and I secretly cry a few times/week (usually while I'm driving alone). My best advice for you is to hold close to the loved ones you have left! Friends, boyfriend, ect. Put your energy into those who are still here! Consume your life with love and positivity and continue to come back to forums and communities like this! I also agree with the journal suggestion. I started one and it's done wonders! I also created a stuffed bear out of one of my mom's old sweaters and it sits on my living room sofa. Perhaps go through your mom's stuff and use her old clothes to make the same or a blanket! And remember that everyone grieves differently and try to accept that. My dad and brother grieve differently than I do and I don't allow that to affect me. I focus on my grief and myself, because in the end, that's what's more important. Best wishes, Kelly
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