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  1. To Babyg1223, I am sending my condolences on the passing of your father . I also lost my father, but to heart failure, when I was younger . I know it wasn’t easy for me when my mother began dating again . I was angry and jealous for my dad . I think those feelings are normal for us children. I have some free reading material on how to cope with the death of a loved one and also on teen depression, which really and be beneficial to all age groups . There is no obligation, but if you need a friend to cry with or just talk, let me know. Sincerely, Frances https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&pub=we&srcid=share https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&issue=2017-02&pub=g17&srcid=share
  2. Dear paperskin, I just came across your post about losing your mother and I want to express my deepest sympathy . I can’t imagine having this happen at such a young age. I also lost my father in death when he was 45 yrs old . The pain of losing our loved ones doesn’t fade away fast, it’s been more than 40 yrs for me and I often think about him . I am making an effort to reach out to young persons especially to offer two sources of reading material . One on teen depression and the other on how to cope with the death of a loved one. Below are the links with no obligations or cost. I also want to offer an invitation to contact me anytime you need someone to talk to . It’s never a bother . https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&pub=we&srcid=share https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&issue=2017-02&pub=g17&srcid=share Sending Gentle Hugs and Condolences Frances Koonce
  3. Nope coping with loss of my Father

    Hello Jannykakaka , I want to personally express my sympathy over the loss of your dearly beloved Father. I also lost my father and it was difficult growing up without him in my life. I just wanted to assure you that all these feelings of sadness and anger are really a normal part of the grieving process. The pushing away of those whom you are close to is also normal because they might not understand the affect that death has on us , how could they if they haven’t had an experience like this themselves ? I would like to offer an invitation to stay in contact with me off of this forum so that you feel more at liberty to express your feelings. I can provide my email address if that suits you . I also am sending a link to a brochure that I supply to our local funeral homes about how to cope with the death of out loved ones. There is no charge or obligations involved . https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&pub=we&srcid=share With Deepest Condolences, Frances Koonce
  4. Missing my mother

    Dear Fani, First of all, I want to express how sorry I am to learn about your mother passing away. The death of any loved one is difficult, but the loss of a parent is especially a heavy burden to bear. I am making an effort to offer free reading materials to persons of all ages and backgrounds on how to cope with the death of loved ones. The reading material can be downloaded to as many devices you wish and can even be passed on to others . It offers practical advice on the grieving process and also gives encouragement that many persons need for comfort. Please follow the link below ... https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&pub=we&srcid=share I have also included the link for a magazine on teen depression . I have other reading materials just for teens if you would like to have access to them . https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&issue=2017-02&pub=g17&srcid=share If you would like staying in contact, I am open to that off this forum. I’m the mother of a teenager, but I’ve lost both parents, my dad when I was 12 yrs old. I know it’s not the same as losing your mom because I know moms and daughters have a special bond. However, if you need someone to confide it or just get some sadness off your shoulders, please know you can get in touch with me. I’m also on Instagram :@fakoonce . With Deepest Sympathy, Frances
  5. Dear Emma, First, I want to offer my deepest condolences on the loss of your mother . I can’t imagine the sadness you and your sister have felt as you both have grown into mature young ladies . There is a special bond girls have with their moms as they reach adolescents that is like no other . I’m grateful that you have been there for your younger sister . I kind of went thru something similar when my dad died. I was a teenager and my mom felt like she couldn’t raise myself and my siblings alone. I didn’t understand her need for companionship and help in shouldering the responsibilities of running a household . She also remarried and it was a step that we lived to regret. Not saying that all marriages after a death are bad, but sometimes the adults do not look out for the interests of the children . Your current situation is especially difficult because of the time frame and the difference in age between your dad’s girlfriend and yourself and sister. I am sorry that you have been loaded down so heavily with responsibility that your father should be carrying himself. It is not fair for you to have to work, care for an adult man who can obviously care for himself, and help manage a household . I understand helping your sister out- she probably needs guidance right now as a teenager . You ask for advice . Aside from the advice that has already been offered to you, I want to extend to you some free reading material for you and your sister on teen depression . https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&issue=2017-02&pub=g17&srcid=share You can download the material to as many devices you want . Save it for future references . Also, I have other reading material for you on how to cope when parents get remarried . Although the situation you are facing is not ideal, perhaps some of the information can be useful to you . https://download-a.akamaihd.net/files/media_books/f5/yp1_E.pdf#page38 On the matter of your mom’s death, I have reading material on coping with the loss of a loved one if you would like the link for that too. Lastly, perhaps your boyfriend is afraid as well. He sees you are under stress and maybe he’s afraid of losing the bond you both have built . Sometimes people get selfish too, thinking we have abandoned them with all of our obligations . They don’t realize what all is going on . You mentioned your culture plays a part in your living arrangements. Things might not improve until you and your sister can move out of that situation . If these links don’t open, I can send to an email address . I’d like to stay in contact with your permission . I can give you my email address off of this forum . I want to be a long distant friend you can turn to for support and encouragement when needed. Sincerely, Frances
  6. Dear A_Person , I also read the whole post to understand your feelings better . Your feelings and regrets are all valid . We think of how things could be different or better if we had only done this or that . What I’ve learned from the loss of both my parents is that each individual makes personal choices in regards to health care . It literally pains us to see our loved ones suffer and sometimes suffer at the hands of professionals . For this I am truly sorry because it appears as though the treatments you described only hastened his passing . As a young person too , you have new challenges . You can’t draw upon the experience and advice of your Father . As you mentioned, there will be things in your life that he will not get to see first hand . Even though you have no religious preference, I make an effort to share a Bible based brochure that provides grieving strategies that are practical .Like when my own Father died, people told my mom to get rid of all his things . The brochure explains not to be hasty in making decisions. It also has advice for others in how to offer comfort . I would love to send the link for you to have the brochure at no cost or obligation . I am also sorry that your friends and acquaintances made you feel like your loss was not important . I have found that talking about my parents helps me tremendously . So what if I end up crying ? I’ve learned that crying is so vital to maintaining my physical and mental well being . Feel free to contact me about the brochure . Sincerely, Frances
  7. Dear Sehiza, I am so sorry for the loss of your dear mother . Even though you knew she was sick , her passing was still shocking . My own mother died in my home from a long time illness. I fully expected her death to play out the way I thought it would , and when it did , the impact was not immediate . There were things that needed taken care of . I had insurance and bills to care for , visitors, cards and letters to read , pictures to sort thru. Two years later , I still long for my mother . Please allow yourself to cry and remember how your mother was in good health . With your siblings , look at her photos and share funny stories . I am at peace with the Biblical thought that my mother is only “ sleeping in death “ . Even Jesus cried over the death of his good friend Lazarus . But , as you well know , a sleeping person can be awaken again . This is exactly what Jesus did for Lazarus. He restored Lazarus back to life ! I just want to reassure you that there is no hurry to grieve for your mother . And the fact that you now are a caregiver to your siblings and father is a heavy burden to bear . I can’t remove the pain you are feeling , but I make an effort to share encouraging strategies and tips on coping with the death of our loved ones in the form of a brochure . We provide it to persons in our communities at no charge . I would love to send the link with your permission and provide the account about Lazarus coming back to life again . Please feel free to contact me and we can speak privately . Again , my deepest sympathy during this difficult time . Sincerely, Frances
  8. why am I the only one still crying?

    Good Evening - I am reading thru posts from teenagers on the loss of friends and I see that you posted something in July about the girl from your class . Im sorry that you were feeling so sad and that were affected by her passing so immensely . How are you doing by now ? I have some reading material that we leave at funeral homes on how to cope with the loss of a loved and another magazine on teen depression . Both are free . I can send the links if you are interested . Also, I have an Instagram page @hope_is_not_lost_ which has tips on how to deal with anxiety and depression . Please feel free to visit me there . With Deepest Condolences
  9. How can I help my girlfriend through this time

    Hello ! I’m read thru various posts here on the forum and wondered how your girlfriend is doing ? Did you find some helpful advice ? I am providing the link to a brochure we deliver to funeral home . It is no cost or obligation . The information explains how each person grieves differently an offers a hope for a brighter future . You can also visit JW.ORG or myself for more information . With Deepest Condolences
  10. I can't go on

    Dear Joshua - I know you have gotten really good advice from the other posters , but if you want to read something on teen depression or other suggestions on dealing with grief, you may contact me for a link to free reading material . I also have an Instagram page all about anxiety and depression @hope_is_not_lost_ I’m deeply sorry about the loss of your father .
  11. Jordan - I am reading thru your posts about the loss of your dad and my heart goes out to you . I also lost my father as a young person . I did not know that there was a grieving process that is normal and it takes time to come to terms with the absence of a parent that is unique to children . I understand how painful and frustrating it must be for you . I tried to hold in my emotions and feelings for years . As a result, it has made me develope my own health issues like high blood pressure and fibromyalgia . At the time , my mom had my siblings to think about , and as a middle child , I was kind of invisible anyway . I am deeply sorry for your loss . I also see that in a way you are protecting yourself from further heartache . What if your mom’s reaction is totally opppsite of what you had hoped for ? What if she makes your efforts to find information about your dad more difficult to acquire ? These are valid concerns . I have free reading material for teens dealing with anxiety and depression what is part of a worldwide effort to bring hope and comfort to all persons . I also have an Instagram page dedicated to persons dealing with anxiety and depression . It has practical tips on how to care for oneself , how to process grief and advice for families dealing with mental health issues . Let me know if you would like the link to the free reading material or Instagram account . I stay in contact with several teenagers to just provide a listening ear also . My teenage daughter has anxiety and depression , so I know there is a definite need for them to have an outlet for their thoughts and feelings . With Sincere Condolences
  12. It's been just over a month

    Hello ! I just read your post and I'm sending my condolences regarding the recent passing of your father . I can't imagine the pain you are enduring and trying to finish schooling to get your degree . My mother passed away almost 2 yrs ago from a long illness . It does take time for the shock and pain to lessen . As you said , the process is long and hard . You asked what others have done to cope with the change or loss ? Something that has helped me tremendously is a brochure that I have provided a link for . It offers practical advice and words of wisdom . We offer this same brochure to persons in our local communities and to the funeral industry . The brochure helps to explain how we can deal with grief and also to provide a hope for the future . I also provided a link to a magazine especially designed for depressed young ones . Maybe there will be something contained in it to help ease the sadness . I am able to be contacted thru this website if you have questions or just need someone to talk with . I can also be contacted on Instagram if that is easier . My handle is :" fakoonce " . I've been making a special effort to connect with teens and young adults who need comfort . Please consider this an open invitation . Best Wishes ! Frances https://www.jw.org/finder?pub=g17&issue=201702&wtlocale=E&srcid=share Teen Depression https://www.jw.org/finder?pub=we&wtlocale=E&srcid=share When Someone You Love Dies
  13. I'm lost without my brother.

    I just want to offer some free reading material that we provide to individuals in our community on how to cope with the death of our loved ones and teen depression . There is no cost or obligation involved . Please accept my deepest condolences ... https://www.jw.org/finder?pub=we&wtlocale=E&srcid=share https://www.jw.org/finder?pub=g17&issue=201702&wtlocale=E&srcid=share
  14. my younger brother

    Chris - I am so sorry for the loss of your brother , but also the feelings of helplessness you feel because of the way your family life was at such tender ages . I'm no counselor , but I have been offering free reading material to persons experiencing grief . There is no cost or obligation involved . If you think that this material can help you or you would like more information , please feel free to contact me . I have been offering comforting Scriptures as well - not being pushy , just letting you know . https://www.jw.org/finder?pub=we&wtlocale=E&srcid=share My Deepest Condolences , Frances
  15. Growing Up and Getting On Without Them

    Amy - I just came across your post about offering help to others with anxiety . I wondered how that is going ? I have something that you can pass along to others . There is no cost or obligation for these materials . https://www.jw.org/finder?pub=we&wtlocale=E&srcid=share https://www.jw.org/finder?pub=g17&issue=201702&wtlocale=E&srcid=share I think what you set out to do was very compassionate and loving . I also wanted to offer my support if you would personally like someone to talk with . Sincerely, Frances