Francine

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    Female
  • Loss Type
    Husband
  • Angel Date
    12/6/2016

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    Stewart
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    Francine
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  1. I've never thought about visiting a medium, guess I'm not a true believer. If that comforts you, by all means I believe you should do it. For me, it's faith in God - HE touched my heart giving his assurance that my husband is OK - that's food for my soul. Psalm 91:4 reads, "He will cover you with his feathers and under his wings you will find refuge". I still ache for my husband and sometimes I literally break down to my core. I constantly ask for God's strength and love to get me through this. And he does - He never said this life would be easy, but he did promised that when it wasn't, he would be there loving us each and every step of the way. Know that he is - God loves us and doesn't want us to hurt. I am so thankful for the many years we had together and that our love is forever. While I still miss him like crazy, I know he's OK and someday, we will be together - together for all eternity. Talk about a 'kodak' moment - much more than that - an "AMAZING" moment. God Bless
  2. KayC I believe you do and it is evident in your post. You have always been so encouraging and uplifting and I appreciate your words of support and comfort for everyone. God Bless you and this website.
  3. LEB80 Be careful and tread lightly. He needs to mourn. Mourning is the open expression of his thoughts and feelings and an essential part of his healing. Give him that time, be gentle and patient - you'll be glad you did. God has put you in his life for comfort; let him know you are genuinely concerned about his well being and will always be there whenever he needs you. Take it one day at a time; If the two of you are meant to be, it will happen. If things don't work out like you want, know that you were there for a friend in need. God Bless!
  4. Julie I feel your pain and I'm so terribly sorry for your lost. Your pictures are beautiful and you both looked so happy and so much in love. That is so refreshing to see in a couple. My husband and I were together for almost 45 years and we too were so much in love with one another and was never afraid to tell one another so. I'm so glad we did. God saw fit to take him from this earth on December 6, 2016. Each day following I didn't know how I would get through the day without him; when I awoke in the morning to start my day, I wondered how would I go on without him. As the day slowly slipped by, I remember how he made me laughed and I smiled without him. At the end of the day, I knew in my heart I could not have gotten through the day without knowing he was with me in spirit and always will be. You are young and finding another partner to share your life is fine. I think we understand death for the first time when God puts his hand upon one who we love and calls them home. There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to trust God that they are OK. Thank God for the time you shared together; no one or nothing can take that away. My prayer is for you to find God's love, strength and inner peace. Open your heart and let God in, He'll do the rest. God Bless! KayC I'm not quite I'm there yet, but I'm closer than I was yesterday. Instead of counting the days, I'm learning to make the days count because my hope for tomorrow is that I've learned something from yesterday. Although my sun (my husband) is gone I still have a light - God Almighty. He is there to light my way until I'm reunited with the love of my life for eternity. God knows I love and miss him with all my being; my body body aches so much missing him. Why they call it heartache when my entire body aches, I'll never know. What I do know is my rejoicing will come. Psalms 30:5 says "Weeping may endure for a night, but Joy comes in the morning".
  5. Numb and Lost Of course you're scared; we all are. Acceptance of a loved one's passing is so hard and difficult - it goes against our normal and affects our head, our heart and our spirit. We think of it as not being "real' and yet we know it is. You may not be there yet, but your're closer than you were yesterday. We don't know what the future brings, but we know who holds our future - GOD. Sometimes in tragedy, we find out what our life's purpose is. Memories are one of the best legacies we can hold on to; some will make you laugh while others will make your cry. Treasure them that comfort you but explore those that may trouble you. As strange as it may seem, difficult memories have their own healing. When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure. I pray your memories don't fade. God Bless and keep you safe. I can relate. I too am 64 and it seems like yesterday that my husband and I were married - we were 20 years old. Life passes in a blink of an eye. Enjoy life's little things for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things. As we age we begin to not remember days, but remember moments instead. Love is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away. Life is a gift and is what we make of it, always has been and always will be. We're here for only a short time, an experience God wanted us to have. Live, Love and Let God. God Bless.
  6. So true. After all, they were our companions, our better halves (if you will), someone we loved, lived with and depended on; in other words, our world. Not having that world any longer can be unimaginable and quite terrifying. Sometimes we may be uncertain if we have the energy or desire to continue without them - that (I think) is normal. Sometimes I think that if I had a single flower for every time I thought about him, I could walk forever in a garden. When reality checks me and I realize I can no longer touch him, feel him or love him, I get depressed, saddened and heavy-hearted. What helps me though those times is just knowing the love we shared was endless; the times we spent together were countless and I know when we meet again (and we will) - that will be eternal. Your post is so on point. Our loved ones are our angels sent by God to protect us and they are doing just that. I'm sorry you think it unfair. I believe some things are not meant for us understand - we don't see the whole picture or what the end project looks like - only God does. HIS thoughts are so far beyond our thoughts, his ways so above our ways. Knowing and trusting things we don't understand is very difficult - that's where our faith comes in - trusting the unknown. We all have a purpose and task to complete while on this earth. This place is definitely NOT our home; a way station, if you will, and we're merely passing through. Once our earthly task is complete, we too will be taken home - and guess who will be front and center rejoicing your return - the love of your life. Remember, God makes no mistakes. My prayer is for you to continue to trust, and love the Lord. God Bless you and keep you safe.
  7. KMB Your statement is so real and true. Life is so precious, a gift given by God and we must live it to its fullest. Losing a spouse can sometimes be so devastating that all kinds of notions come to our minds; some unhealthy and others (some would say). unstable. Unfortunately, bad things happen to good people; that's just the way it is. We don't always understand and sometimes it's not meant for us to. God never said the journey would be easy, his promise to us was when it wasn't, he would be there comforting, loving and holding us up every step of the way. While we may not know what the future brings, we do know who holds our future. - God. I pray you find God's love strength and peace. God Bless us All!
  8. KayC Like you and George, Charles and I paid bills from both our incomes and then our retirement funds. We lived very modestly but enough for our wants and needs. After Charles death, I was not eligible for any of his benefits because of a non-tax pension annuity. That was a shock not only to me but to our bank account. Reduced to one income is difficult. Needless to say, moving forward, changes will in deed have to be made. I know my God did not bring me this far only to let me go. I trust in him implicitly, and know he will bring me through this as well. We do have an attorney looking into other matters on our behalf. Thanks for the advise.
  9. Oh my God! Simply Beautiful. There's a song my choir sings, "Don't be discourage, Joy comes in the morning". Well, here it is - in the flesh - JOY. God bless and keep you and your "JOY" safe. Hugs and kisses!
  10. Stonesie I feel your pain and am so sorry for your loss. My husband of nearly 45 years died suddenly on December 6, 2016 and I still feel like I'm in a dream - no it's more like a nightmare and I can wake up. I can only imagine the lost you are feeling now is beyond words. Shock, disbelief, hurt, anger, confusion are some of the emotions I had when my husband was taken from this earth and some I still have. We are inseparably and did everything together. I wanted desperately to know if he (his spirit) was OK and prayed for an answer. It was revealed to my spirit that he was OK and a weight was lifted from my heart. Know what you and your husband had will always be - nothing can change that - it's in the atmosphere - it's forever. Thank God for designing a man specifically for you, allowing you 30 years together, two daughters, a grandson and sharing the love you had for one another. Many are not awarded those blessings. Please continue to post - this website is a good source of thoughtful people giving words of comfort and encouragement - something we all need. My prayer is for God to send you his unwavering love, his strength and inner peace to help you get through this most difficult time. One other thing - God sends angels to protect and watch over us. Guess what? Kevin is the angel assigned to watcher over you and the girls - he's there and doing the job God assigned him to do. God Bless
  11. Tommie I'm so sorry for your loss. Your wife was such a beautiful lady and so very young; I know how devastating you must feel to know an accident took her from this world. I read somewhere that "When grief overwhelms you look into your heart and you shall see that in truth, you are weeping for that which has been your delight". What a true statement that is. Our heavenly Father makes no mistakes. We are spiritual beings living an earthly experience. We were only meant to stay on this earth for a short period of time and then return to heaven. She went back home - home where there is no pain, no hurt, and no suffering. Believe me the angels are rejoicing her return. Her responsibility now is to be that angel for the ones left behind mourning her and that's what she is - your angel - the children's angel. She's there watching over all of you. You can't see her, but she's there - believe it! Be grateful to God for putting her into your life for whatever time you had. Know that the time and love the two of you shared on this earth will always be - nothing and no can take that away. I pray God gives you the strength, love and inner peace to get through this difficult time; all you need do is open your heart - he'll do the rest. God Bless you and the children.
  12. Willow Girl, I'm so sorry for your lost. Few events in life are as painful as the death of a spouse and I know how much pain you are experiencing. I lost the love of my life of 45 years just over 6 weeks ago and I'm hurting like hell. I wanted to blame the world and hated the fact that I was here and he wasn't. I realized that if it was left up to my husband, he would still be here - you see, he promised that he would never leave me and I know he would not. It was God's will to take him - it was his time - it was suppose to be - and it was. So don't blame yourself. God's Will be done on earth as it is in Heaven. I know how deeply wounded you are and naturally your wounds need to be attended to. You'll experience all kinds of emotions (shock, confusion, fear, guilt, anger, pain, numbness, etc.) after all, this was your companion, someone you shared your life with and someone that was part of you. As strange as these emotions may seem, they are normal and healthy. Know that his spirit lives on - it returns to God from whence it came. If it's any comfort, know that he is no longer in any pain - Concentrate on the love you two shared and know that nothing or no one can ever take that away. Please continue to post. This website is wonderful with words of comfort and encouragement. I pray that God gives you his overwhelming love, his strength and his unending peace at this most difficult time in your life. Open your heart and let God in - he'll do the rest. God Bless
  13. KayC: You are so inspiring - your post are so positive and uplifting. I thank God for you and the many others on this website whose offered such inspirational words - words that motivate and energize us. I saw my grief counselor today (you know - the one that actually knows what he's doing ) and told him about this website and how I found so many amazing people who are experiencing the same thing I am going though. I told him how my story mirrored so many others and sharing our stories were just incredible. When I got home from the my appointment with the grief counselor, I got the mail that arrived. A letter from the hospital came asking for payment. Livid, I called the hospital and was ready to give them a peace of mind when a lady answered the phone and after telling her that my husband had passed away, she was so compassionate. She told me how she too lost her husband in '05 and recently lost her 43 year old son 3 months prior. She was truly God-sent - we struck up a conversation that was (I think) beneficial to both of us. We literally forgot about why I called in the first place and when it came back to the nature of the call, we both had a good laugh. She offered that I call back if just to talk and/or needed prayer. Needless to say, God knows are pain and puts people in my path when we are most vulnerable. God loves us and is here with us during this most difficult time. God Bless you all!
  14. B7176 You touch my heart - and yes, you know we are here for you whenever you need. God Bless you - Hugs and kisses.
  15. My prayers are with you and the children at this time. The children are still angry and in shock; they don't know they're still grieving. They are wounded by their loss and their wounds need to be attended to. I'm glad you sought grief counseling to help them with their feelings of loss and loneliness. It can also teache them ways to hold onto the things they love, the things they are and the things they never want to lose. Give them time; their grief is unique because no one else had the same relationship they had with their mom. As strange as some of these emotions may seem they are normal and healthy. Don't be surprise that out of no where they suddenly experience surges of grief at the most unexpected time Bottom line, give them time, give them love and let them know you are and will always be there when they need you. My prayer is that God continue to bless you and the children and give you the strength you all (we all) so desperately need at this most difficulty time. God Bless