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  1. Dear Vandana, Thank you for your kind words. I'm so sorry, I know life is not easy and it is hard to work through all the raw emotions. Keep taking it day by day. We will somehow get through this phase. Please know we are here with you. Sending you hugs.
  2. Dear Babyg1223, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know losing your beloved father is very hard. It is understandable that you find it hard to see your mom dating another man after 6 months. If you want to maybe consider talking to a grief counsellor or joining a support group. Keep talking it out. Please know were are here for you as well. Thinking of you. Sending my thoughts and prayers.
  3. lost my younger brother...

    Dear Blue, Thank you for coming back and letting us know how you are doing. I know its really hard and I'm sorry to hear about the breakup with your boyfriend. I know that only adds to your pain and sorrow. Thinking of you. I know grief is a long and hard road. But please know we are all still here with you. Take care. Sending my thoughts and prayers.
  4. Dear Jonathan, My deepest sympathies and condolences. I am very sorry for your the loss of your beloved father. Having feelings of guilt and regret is part of grieving. Please know its normal to go back and think, why didn't I notice this or that? I could have saved dad. I had this thought too. We all desperately want to have our parent till they are a healthy 100 year old. I know this is an extremely difficult time. Please be kind to yourself. We all do what we can with what we know. I know it feels empty right now, but hopefully with more time it will feel more bearable. Thinking of you and your family. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  5. Loss of mom

    Dear Danni, My deepest sympathies and condolences. I am very sorry for your loss. Please know what you are feeling and thinking is normal and natural. Having a sense of disbelief is part of the grief. One writer wrote "I knew my dad was dying but I never really believed he would die." That's how I felt when the doctor called me at work to tell me my father had passed. I had just left his beside at the hospital two hours earlier. I fully believed I would see him the next day. I even went about my day afterwards, getting gas, getting something to eat, thinking about seeing the social worker on Monday. I was raw. Everything felt so surreal. I could pretend my father was still alive but it wasn't true. I think it took me almost a year to come to terms with my new reality. I hate change at the best of times, but the finality of death was not something I could fully understand when it finally happened to me. Please know we are all here to listen and support each other. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  6. Dear Vandana, We all miss our parents so dreadfully. It is almost unimaginable that we have not talked to them in so long. The first year is unbearable and the grief hits us so hard. Please know we are all here together. With hugs.
  7. Dear John, I am sorry to hear about your diagnosis and your current journey. I am sure it is overwhelming. I hope your doctor or nurse can help with additional resources in the community or through church. There are two memoirs that people recommend When Breath Becomes Air and The Bright Hour. Life is so unfair. And I feel it takes a long time to come to terms with any acceptance. Maybe talking with a minister or pastor or a spiritual leader might help as well. Thinking of you. Sending my thoughts and prayers.
  8. Dear Jillian, I am very sorry for your pain and sorrow. I know its devastating and an extremely difficult time. Everything you are thinking and feeling is part of the grief. Every one of us asks but what could I have done? It's only because we loved the person so much, but in reality there was nothing we could have done. I know this hurts a lot. Please know you are not alone. And if you want to consider grief counselling or accessing resources in the community or through church. Take care. Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  9. Dear Neer, I am very sorry for your pain and sorrow. You are a loving son. Grief hits us all very hard. Try to be kind to yourself and keep taking it day by day. Please know you did the best you could for your mom. You didn't know my friend. None of us do. My father passed on a Friday and I too continue to find Fridays very difficult. My grief counsellor said for most people around 12 months to 18 months the pain and intensity of the grief will lessen. There is hope but it takes time to reach. Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  10. My mom just died

    Dear Crash, Thank you for coming back and letting us know how you are doing. It is hard. But you are so right and its all day by day. They say grief is like a wave and we all have to prepare a little for the bad days to hit us. Please know we are all here. We will always be here to listen. Sending my thoughts and prayers.
  11. Dear Nonita, My deepest sympathies and condolences. I am very sorry for your pain and sorrow. That is one of the hardest parts of grief. Wishing we could go back in time. We all do it because we think we have the ability to save our parents, but its not true. I know its not easy. Try to take it moment by moment for now. Thinking of you. Sending you all my thoughts and prayers.
  12. Dear Tessa, Thank you for sharing this advice. I think this one of my barriers to healing. I could not accept change easily. Dear mn1414, I'm very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you.
  13. My Mom passed away and I'm so lonely.

    Dear Astral, Thank you for keeping us posted. I know grief is hard and dealing with family members is never easy to begin with. I hope you find peace, my friend. Thinking of you.
  14. My mom just died

    Dear Crash, How are you doing today? I know its scary making arrangements. I hope a trusted friend or family member is with you. Please know everything you are thinking and feelings is normal. We are all here with you. Take care. Thinking of you.
  15. Dear backrow, Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am so sorry to hear about everything you have gone through. I wonder if a family therapist, counsellor might be needed to guide this conversation with your dad and brother. Families are so tough. It is hard to know what to say or do sometimes. I hope others will add more insight. Sending my thoughts and prayers.
  16. If in Need of Help/Comfort

    Thank you for sharing Alenah.
  17. Thank you for sharing QueensGal8787. I will have to think about this some more, but hopefully others can add to the playlist.
  18. Dear Sonia, I'm so sorry for your pain and sorrow. Losing a beloved friend at a very young age is hard. Please know grief can be a long journey, there is no fixed timeline. Keep taking it day by day and yes, I think you will be ok. There will always be a bit of hurt inside, but, yes, we will be okay and we will keep living to honor our friends and family. Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  19. Dear Steph Rae, My deepest sympathies and condolences. I am so sorry for your pain and sorrow. Please know you are not alone. We are all to listen and support each other. Sending you love and hugs. I know you loved your mom very much and those moments are extremely hard. We all want our parents with us as long as possible no matter what age we are. Keep writing and reaching out. I know its really hard. Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  20. dreams?

    Dear Cuzzy, I think your mom wanted to offer you some comfort and let you know she is still in your life. When we have been thinking of our loved ones a lot, they end up in our dreams in some form. I sometimes think its our minds way of just working out all the thoughts we have. Take your time and I hope your mom will visit you again soon.
  21. Dear Sara, I am sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I hope others will come forward and it will help with your course work. Thinking of you.
  22. Dear Ulhas, My deepest sympathies and condolences. I am very sorry for your loss. I know its horribly painful and shocking right now. Please know you are not alone. We are all here to listen. Try to take it moment by moment for now. It will be raw for a long time. I hope you will surround yourself with loving friends and family. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  23. The guilt is literally chocking me

    Dear Guilt8, I am so sorry for your pain and sorrow. Please know, you did nothing wrong. I can assure that three days is not going to make the difference. There was something else going on with your dad. There was so much on your young shoulders and you did the best you could. I know it hurts badly and we all wish we could go back in time. I too wanted to save my dad. I thought I could, but I too felt I made a horrible mistake. It was only after more time I was able to come to terms that my father's health was not something I could fix. Keep talking it out with us. Or if you want to consider talking to a grief counsellor or joining a support group. I think you will hear from many others that struggle with the same questions. But in the end, we have to realize, there was nothing that we did that caused this tragedy. Thinking of you. Sending you love and hugs. Please try and be kinder and gentler with yourself.
  24. My mom just died

    Dear Crash, I'm so sorry, I know the sorrow and pain is unbearable right now. Please know you did the best you could. Thinking of you. Sending you love and hugs.
  25. Dear Janny, I'm so sorry for your pain and sorrow. I know its really hard. Please know we are all here to listen and support each other. During my own grief journey, I have tried the following things and found the following websites helpful. What's Your Grief The Grief Healing Blog Grief in Common Grief Share The Grief Recovery Method. If you want to maybe consider talking to a grief counsellor or joining a support group. Others have suggested yoga, meditation, art classes, journaling, reading, exercise classes. Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
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