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  1. I just don't know

    Dear Xray08, My deepest condolences and sympathies. I'm very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your beloved dad with us. It is very difficult to navigate this part of our lives without our beloved parents. I know you are still working through your own grief but still trying to be strong for your family. It is not easy. If you want to, consider talking to a grief counsellor, therapist, or joining a support group. Continue to take it day by day, moment by moment. I also find these websites helpful: What's Your Grief The Grief Healing Blog Thinking of you and your family. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  2. Dear Flintstone, I know you love your girlfriend a lot and doing everything you can to support her during this extremely difficult time. It is so hard. But I don't think there is anything you can do to "fix it." Grief is a long journey and there are many different phases. I would just say continue being there for her and let her know you are available to talk. I don't know if she is receptive to the idea, but maybe a grief counsellor, therapist or support group might be helpful. I also find these websites helpful in understanding the grief journey: What's My Grief The Grief Healing Blog
  3. Dear Hannah, I haven't tried a medium but I am very curious about it. I would love to hear how your experience went. I know some mediums exploit people's grief for profit, but I feel some might be legitimate. I guess it depends on people's experiences. Be careful. Please let us know how you feel afterwards. I hear you. I too want to maintain a connection with my dad too. I have seen white butterflies around the house and at his cemetery plot, but I can't be sure. I don't know if there are any mediums in my area that I could trust. I will have to consider this more. Take care.
  4. Suicidal

    Dear Nicky, Please know you are not alone. I have included some information. People care and want to help you. Get Help Help is available! We are here to listen, here to help – 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, call 1-800-784-2433 (1-800-SUICIDE), or call your local crisis centre. Language Service: Both of the 310-6789 and 1-800-SUICIDE phone lines are available in over 140 languages using a language service. Let us know which language you require, and we will try and provide an interpreter. Contact us: Anywhere in BC 1-800-SUICIDE: 1-800-784-2433 Mental Health Support Line: 310-6789 Vancouver: 604-872-3311 Sunshine Coast/Sea to Sky: 1-866-661-3311 Seniors Distress Line: 604-872-1234 Online Chat Service for Youth: www.YouthInBC.com (Noon to 1am) Online Chat Service for Adults: www.CrisisCentreChat.ca (Noon to 1am) Crisis Lines in BC Crisis Lines in Canada Are you in Crisis? Feeling suicidal? Is someone you know feeling suicidal? —————————————- Promotional Materials Print promotional materials can be distributed by your agency or group, or be displayed at your office, clinic, or community centre. There are limited amounts and for-profit agencies will be asked for a small fee when ordering cards. Request Promotional Materials Get Help Help is Available! We truly are here to listen, here to help 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, call 1-800-784-2433 (1-800-SUICIDE), or call your local crisis centre. Learn More > Volunteer Volunteering at the Crisis Centre is a great way to make a contribution to your community. Our vital programs could not exist without our team of more than 450+ volunteers.
  5. Suicidal

    Dear Nicky, I'm very sorry for your pain and sorrow. I know its very hard right now. Please know there is help: Get Help Help is available! We are here to listen, here to help – 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, call 1-800-784-2433 (1-800-SUICIDE), or call your local crisis centre. Language Service: Both of the 310-6789 and 1-800-SUICIDE phone lines are available in over 140 languages using a language service. Let us know which language you require, and we will try and provide an interpreter. Contact us: Anywhere in BC 1-800-SUICIDE: 1-800-784-2433 Mental Health Support Line: 310-6789 Vancouver: 604-872-3311 Sunshine Coast/Sea to Sky: 1-866-661-3311 Seniors Distress Line: 604-872-1234 Online Chat Service for Youth: www.YouthInBC.com (Noon to 1am) Online Chat Service for Adults: www.CrisisCentreChat.ca (Noon to 1am) Crisis Lines in BC Crisis Lines in Canada Are you in Crisis? Feeling suicidal? Is someone you know feeling suicidal? —————————————- Promotional Materials Print promotional materials can be distributed by your agency or group, or be displayed at your office, clinic, or community centre. There are limited amounts and for-profit agencies will be asked for a small fee when ordering cards. Request Promotional Materials Get Help Help is Available! We truly are here to listen, here to help 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, call 1-800-784-2433 (1-800-SUICIDE), or call your local crisis centre. Learn More > Volunteer Volunteering at the Crisis Centre is a great way to make a contribution to your community. Our vital programs could not exist without our team of more than 450+ volunteers.
  6. My brother

    Dear Emma, I'm so sorry for your loss. Your brother sounds like an amazing young man, so giving and kind to his friends and family. I know its hard. Coping with grief is a long journey. Have you considered talking with a grief counsellor? or joining a support group? It might help to talk with someone who has more experience with different types of grief. I also find these websites helpful: What's Your Grief The Grief Healing Blog Please know you are not alone. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  7. Shattered

    Dear theRTRP, My deepest condolences and sympathies on the passing of your cherished and beloved grandmother. I know its very hard. Please know your feelings and thoughts are natural and normal. It will take a long time for our minds and bodies to accept this loss. There is no right way or wrong way to grieve. Please know there is help. I find these websites helpful: What's Your Grief The Grief Healing Blog If you feel like consider talking to a trusted friend, pastor, minister, grief counsellor or join a support. Sending you all my thoughts and prayers.
  8. Dear Marie, Sorry to hear about everything you are going through. I know life can get really though. Please know there is help. I found the following information and hope it will help you: Need help now? If you need to talk to someone, here are a number of helplines you can contact for confidential non-judgemental support. If you or someone you know is at risk of suicide or self-harm, you should make contact immediately with one of the following: Phone or go to your local doctor Go to the Accident & Emergency department of the nearest hospital Call 999 Most helplines will provide a listening service, give information and advice, provide emotional support and point you in the direction of other services. They are often free-phone services which are staffed by trained volunteers or employees. The Samaritans www.samaritans.org Free phone: 116 123 Email: jo@samaritans.org Aware (Depression, Bi-Polar Disorder & Anxiety) www.aware.ie Tel: 1800 80 48 48 National Suicide Helpline (Pieta House) 1800 247 247 Pieta House (Suicide & Self-harm) www.pieta.ie Tel: 01 623 5606 Grow (Mental Health support and Recovery) www.grow.ie Tel: 1890 474 474 Bodywhys (Eating Disorders Associations of Ireland) www.bodywhys.ie 1890 200 444 Irish Advocacy Network (Peer advocacy in mental health) www.irishadvocacynetwork.com Tel: 01 872 8684 IACP (Counselling & Psychotherapy) www.iacp.ie Tel: 01 230 3536 Irish Council for Psychotherapy (Counselling & Psychotherapy) www.psychotherapycouncil.ie Tel: 01 905 8698 Shine (Supporting people effected by mental ill health) www.shine.ie Childline www.childline.ie 1800 66 66 66 24hr a day One to one chat – 10am-4am Text BULLY or TALK or HELP to 50101 from 10am to 4am Text for help Childline www.childline.ie 1800 66 66 66 24hr a day One to one chat – 10am-4am Text BULLY or TALK or HELP to 50101 from 10am to 4am Children/ Teens Childline www.childline.ie Helpline: 1800 66 66 66 One to one chat – 10am-4am Text BULLY or TALK or HELP to 50101 from 10am to 4am OutReach – Online youth mental health service www.ie.reachout.com Sexuality Gay Switchboard Dublin gayswitchboard.ie Helpline: 01 872 1055 Parentline parentline.ie Helpline: 1890 92 72 77 or 01 873 3500 Abuse, domestic violence & rape Amen Support Services Ltd. amen.ie Helpline: 046 902 3718 Aoibhneas Women and Children’s Refuge aoibhneas.ie/index.php/services Helpline: 01 867 0701 Children at risk in Ireland (CARI) cari.ie Helpline: 1890 92 45 67 Rape Crisis Network Ireland – Rape Crisis Help rapecrisishelp.ie 24 Hour Helpline: 1800 77 88 88 The Dublin Rape Crisis Centre drcc.ie/get-help-and-information/helpline/ 24 Hour Helpline: 1800 77 88 88 Email: counselling@rcc.ie Women’s Aid womensaid.ie Freephone: 1800 34 19 00 Share Twitter Facebook Linkedin Pinterest Email in your area Local Associations Learn more useful numbers Need help now? Learn more courses & seminars EMPOWER YOURSELF We run a range of courses and seminars across the country Learn more BECOME PART OF The Solution Join the Mental Health Ireland family Learn more DONATE NOW Subscribe To Newsletter Subscribe now to get a copy of our Manage and Reduce Stress booklet and stay informed about mental health and wellbeing updates, events and information. Don't miss things! First Name Last Name Email address: LIKE AND SHARE FOR REAL
  9. Need help now? If you need to talk to someone, here are a number of helplines you can contact for confidential non-judgemental support. If you or someone you know is at risk of suicide or self-harm, you should make contact immediately with one of the following: Phone or go to your local doctor Go to the Accident & Emergency department of the nearest hospital Call 999 Most helplines will provide a listening service, give information and advice, provide emotional support and point you in the direction of other services. They are often free-phone services which are staffed by trained volunteers or employees. The Samaritans www.samaritans.org Free phone: 116 123 Email: jo@samaritans.org Aware (Depression, Bi-Polar Disorder & Anxiety) www.aware.ie Tel: 1800 80 48 48 National Suicide Helpline (Pieta House) 1800 247 247 Pieta House (Suicide & Self-harm) www.pieta.ie Tel: 01 623 5606 Grow (Mental Health support and Recovery) www.grow.ie Tel: 1890 474 474 Bodywhys (Eating Disorders Associations of Ireland) www.bodywhys.ie 1890 200 444 Irish Advocacy Network (Peer advocacy in mental health) www.irishadvocacynetwork.com Tel: 01 872 8684 IACP (Counselling & Psychotherapy) www.iacp.ie Tel: 01 230 3536 Irish Council for Psychotherapy (Counselling & Psychotherapy) www.psychotherapycouncil.ie Tel: 01 905 8698 Shine (Supporting people effected by mental ill health) www.shine.ie Childline www.childline.ie 1800 66 66 66 24hr a day One to one chat – 10am-4am Text BULLY or TALK or HELP to 50101 from 10am to 4am Text for help Childline www.childline.ie 1800 66 66 66 24hr a day One to one chat – 10am-4am Text BULLY or TALK or HELP to 50101 from 10am to 4am Children/ Teens Childline www.childline.ie Helpline: 1800 66 66 66 One to one chat – 10am-4am Text BULLY or TALK or HELP to 50101 from 10am to 4am OutReach – Online youth mental health service www.ie.reachout.com Sexuality Gay Switchboard Dublin gayswitchboard.ie Helpline: 01 872 1055 Parentline parentline.ie Helpline: 1890 92 72 77 or 01 873 3500 Abuse, domestic violence & rape Amen Support Services Ltd. amen.ie Helpline: 046 902 3718 Aoibhneas Women and Children’s Refuge aoibhneas.ie/index.php/services Helpline: 01 867 0701 Children at risk in Ireland (CARI) cari.ie Helpline: 1890 92 45 67 Rape Crisis Network Ireland – Rape Crisis Help rapecrisishelp.ie 24 Hour Helpline: 1800 77 88 88 The Dublin Rape Crisis Centre drcc.ie/get-help-and-information/helpline/ 24 Hour Helpline: 1800 77 88 88 Email: counselling@rcc.ie Women’s Aid womensaid.ie Freephone: 1800 34 19 00 Share Twitter Facebook Linkedin Pinterest Email in your area Local Associations Learn more useful numbers Need help now? Learn more courses & seminars EMPOWER YOURSELF We run a range of courses and seminars across the country Learn more BECOME PART OF The Solution Join the Mental Health Ireland family Learn more DONATE NOW Subscribe To Newsletter Subscribe now to get a copy of our Manage and Reduce Stress booklet and stay informed about mental health and wellbeing updates, events and information. Don't miss things! First Name Last Name Email address: LIKE AND SHARE FOR REAL
  10. Dear Marie, I'm very sorry for all your pain and sorrow. I know things are tough right now. Please call the following numbers for assistance. Please know there is help and people that care about you. Your mam would not want you to suffer like this and your son needs his mother. Need help now? If you need to talk to someone, here are a number of helplines you can contact for confidential non-judgemental support. If you or someone you know is at risk of suicide or self-harm, you should make contact immediately with one of the following: Phone or go to your local doctor Go to the Accident & Emergency department of the nearest hospital Call 999 Most helplines will provide a listening service, give information and advice, provide emotional support and point you in the direction of other services. They are often free-phone services which are staffed by trained volunteers or employees. The Samaritans www.samaritans.org Free phone: 116 123 Email: jo@samaritans.org Aware (Depression, Bi-Polar Disorder & Anxiety) www.aware.ie Tel: 1800 80 48 48 National Suicide Helpline (Pieta House) 1800 247 247 Pieta House (Suicide & Self-harm) www.pieta.ie Tel: 01 623 5606 Grow (Mental Health support and Recovery) www.grow.ie Tel: 1890 474 474 Bodywhys (Eating Disorders Associations of Ireland) www.bodywhys.ie 1890 200 444 Irish Advocacy Network (Peer advocacy in mental health) www.irishadvocacynetwork.com Tel: 01 872 8684 IACP (Counselling & Psychotherapy) www.iacp.ie Tel: 01 230 3536 Irish Council for Psychotherapy (Counselling & Psychotherapy) www.psychotherapycouncil.ie Tel: 01 905 8698 Shine (Supporting people effected by mental ill health) www.shine.ie Childline www.childline.ie 1800 66 66 66 24hr a day One to one chat – 10am-4am Text BULLY or TALK or HELP to 50101 from 10am to 4am Text for help Childline www.childline.ie 1800 66 66 66 24hr a day One to one chat – 10am-4am Text BULLY or TALK or HELP to 50101 from 10am to 4am Children/ Teens Childline www.childline.ie Helpline: 1800 66 66 66 One to one chat – 10am-4am Text BULLY or TALK or HELP to 50101 from 10am to 4am OutReach – Online youth mental health service www.ie.reachout.com Sexuality Gay Switchboard Dublin gayswitchboard.ie Helpline: 01 872 1055 Parentline parentline.ie Helpline: 1890 92 72 77 or 01 873 3500 Abuse, domestic violence & rape Amen Support Services Ltd. amen.ie Helpline: 046 902 3718 Aoibhneas Women and Children’s Refuge aoibhneas.ie/index.php/services Helpline: 01 867 0701 Children at risk in Ireland (CARI) cari.ie Helpline: 1890 92 45 67 Rape Crisis Network Ireland – Rape Crisis Help rapecrisishelp.ie 24 Hour Helpline: 1800 77 88 88 The Dublin Rape Crisis Centre drcc.ie/get-help-and-information/helpline/ 24 Hour Helpline: 1800 77 88 88 Email: counselling@rcc.ie Women’s Aid womensaid.ie Freephone: 1800 34 19 00 Share Twitter Facebook Linkedin Pinterest Email in your area Local Associations Learn more useful numbers Need help now? Learn more courses & seminars EMPOWER YOURSELF We run a range of courses and seminars across the country Learn more BECOME PART OF The Solution Join the Mental Health Ireland family Learn more DONATE NOW Subscribe To Newsletter Subscribe now to get a copy of our Manage and Reduce Stress booklet and stay informed about mental health and wellbeing updates, events and information. Don't miss things! First Name Last Name Email address: LIKE AND SHARE FOR REAL
  11. Big Brother Passes

    Dear Soph, I'm very sorry for your loss. I wanted to suggest these websites for additional supports. I hope you find them helpful: What's Your Grief and the Grief Healing Blog. Take care of yourself. I know its an extremely difficult time.
  12. Dear @Lisa k, Been thinking about you. I hope your treatment is finished and you are doing well. Hard to believe its already September going into October. Take care my friend. Hope you are well. With much love and hugs.
  13. Dear Anonymous2468, My deepest condolences and sympathies. I know its hard. We all think our dads are the strongest and will pull through. It would be too much to think otherwise. Please try and be kind to yourself. Grief takes a long time to process. Since my dad passed, I have gone for grief counselling and joined a support group. I also find reading articles from these websites helpful: What's Your Grief and the Grief Healing Blog. Please know you are not alone. We are all here to listen. Thinking of you.
  14. Dear Marie, Thank you for coming back and sharing your experiences with us. I'm so sorry my friend. I know losing your mama is very hard. It takes a long time to understand our new world without our parents. I'm not sure about your dream. I too have had dreams about my father, but mostly they dreams where I try to save him. I hope others can give more insight.
  15. Now what?

    Hi fletch14, I think everything you are saying and thinking is natural part of the grief journey. It takes a long time for our bodies and minds to process our loss. I'm sure it still feels surreal. During this difficult time its best to be as kind and gentle as possible with yourself. Its moment by moment, day by day for now. When my dad passed 11 months ago people told me that my intense feelings would lessen over time. The pain is still there but it is getting a little easier. I am trying to adapt to my new reality. I've tried a variety of things to cope with my grief. Everything from reading, writing, joining a grief support group, counselling, going to the cemetery to visit my dad. Take care of yourself.
  16. Loss of Mother

    Dear Wholeagain, My deepest sympathies and condolences. I'm very sorry for your loss. It is very hard to transition so soon after losing your mother. It was so good of you to care for her and spend those years with her. I feel it takes time to rebuild our lives after a long period of caregiving. Please know its not a betrayal to move forward and make new plans. I'm sure your mom would want you to live the fullest and happiest life possible. You have already honored her with your time and love. Its been 11 months since my dad passed and I too am struggling with finding a new purpose. I made my dad my reason for being and without him there are many days I don't know I'm even here. Be kind to yourself. Take it easy for now. Day by day. Moment by moment. I am sure you will ease back into the real world but it just takes time.
  17. Heart broken lost friend

    Dear Jack, Sorry to hear how you feel and the pain you are feeling at this lost friendship. I know its tough. We would all like the people we care about to return our feelings. It does hurt deeply. I know this is easier said than done, but it will take time. Try not to think about him and focus on yourself. Your interests. Your goals. It takes time but I am confident you will meet a new friend and develop new supports. Slowly reach out and consider joining a MeetUp group. Be kind to yourself. More than ever must be your own best friend. The best thing to show anyone in the world is that we will carry on and live our best life.
  18. Losing my Mind

    Dear justshade, I'm very sorry for your loss. I know the pain and sorrow is deep. I'm so sorry David's parents are bombarding you with texts and emails that are upsetting. Instead of saying anything during this raw and emotional time, I wonder if you will consider just blocking them. Put their phone number and email address on a blocked list. I fear if you confront them they will take it the wrong way during their grief as well. Or consider opening switching phone numbers or email addresses just to get away from their messages. Thinking of you. Sorry to hear what you are going through. I hope others can add more insight. The forum also has a Loss of Partner thread that might be able to answer this question as well.
  19. horrible guilt and shame

    Dear Maria, I'm very sorry for your loss. I know its hard. You loved cat so much and from everything you said you tried so hard. I know during these early days we grievers tend to be very hard on ourselves. We go over every moment and berate our self. Be kind to yourself. You loved her! You took care of her! I hope with more time you will see how devoted you were. Thinking of you during this difficult time.
  20. Newbie - Not Coping.

    Dear Stacey, I'm very sorry for your loss. I know losing your beloved dad is devastating. Please know you are not alone. We are all here to listen. I know its hard but I hope you will consider going back to therapy just to have the additional supports. I wanted to share these two websites with you: What's Your Grief Grief Healing Blog Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  21. Big Brother Passes

    Dear Zain, I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved brother. He sounds like an amazing young man like you. I'm glad you are here sharing your experience and memories. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  22. Dear Fletch14, I hear you. Families are tough and during this difficult time when everyone is still grieving talking about your mom's possessions brings up a lot of emotions. Because the ring means so much to you, I hope your brother will come around and let you have the ring. I know he only wants to show his girlfriend that she too is now part of the family and very important to him. But also maybe this is his way of including your mom as part of his major milestone in his life. I don't think he means to hurt you. In my family, my one sibling wanted a watch that belonged to my father. I never thought twice about not giving it to her, but part of me has this regret as well.
  23. Dear Hannah, I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. I know its hard to go through your first birthday without him. I too have been asking for signs from my dad. And I would like to believe as you do that the spirit of our loved ones is watching over us. Reading others stories it does seem like some people are getting signs and even feel the presence of their loved ones. Hard to know sometimes but in my heart, I believe your dad is looking out for you. Maybe he did not know what type of sign to give. Something you would recognize without a doubt. After my dad passed last year, I found a coin by the car, the light bulbs were going out in the house and at one point I thought I even heard foot steps in his room. Just last month, I asked for a sign and received an "I love you" text from an unknown number. Honestly, I just don't know if they were from my dad or just a coincidence. I hope others will share more.
  24. Struggling with guilt

    Dear Cat1, I'm very sorry for your loss. Your kittycat was a cherished member of your family. I can see he was deeply loved. You did the best you could for him. Thinking of you during this sad time.
  25. Tired of life

    Dear Marila, I'm very sorry to hear about everything you are going through. I know life is not easy. And you have a lot going in a short period of time. We all go through moments when we want to give up on life. Please know a lot of people love you and care about you. And would not want you to suffer in silence. There is help in the community and through church. I know its very hard to do sometimes, but you have to hang on. Things do get better but they take time. I try to do simple things, like read, write, watch a happy movie. Try to reach out to family and friends. I'm not sure how old you are but I found this information since you are in Canada: Welcome to our general, non-counselling contact form. If you are a young person and are struggling with a problem big or small, please call 1-800-668-6868. We are always available, 24/7/365. For more information about fundraising and event opportunities across Canada, please visit our Regional Information pages. Contact us | Kids Help Phone https://kidshelpphone.ca/contact
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