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  1. Loss of sister

    Dear Ryan, Sorry for your pain and sorrow. Your sister sounds like an amazing person. She was lucky to have you too. I know it hurts a lot. Try to lean on friends or consider finding some other supports in the community or through church. I find it helps to talk to people that are going through the same loss. Please know you are not alone. Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  2. Angry because I fail

    Dear Ryan, I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a beloved sister is very hard. The anger you are experiencing is part of grief. Please know you are not alone. Have you considered talking to a grief counsellor? Or joining a support group? I find these websites helpful in understanding my pain and sorrow. What's Your Grief and The Grief Healing Blog. Be kind to yourself. Don't push too hard. The raw emotions take time to work through. Leave the household stuff for now, they are not going anywhere. Hopefully a friend or another family member can step in to help with these.
  3. Dear DDN, My deepest sympathies and condolences on the loss of your cherished and beloved mother. I'm very sorry for your loss. I know the pain is raw. Try to be kind to yourself. Be gentle. It is hard to understand and accept this terrible loss. None of us want to be in this situation. Please know you are not alone. And we are all here to listen and support you. Remember your friends and family, they care and want to help too. Sending you love and hugs during this very difficult time.
  4. a hard day

    Dear Mary, I'm very sorry to hear about your hard day. I think losing a parent is one of the hardest things any of us can go through. Please be kind to yourself. We all grieve differently and the emotions can hit us out of no where. It takes a lot of time to come to terms with our thoughts and feelings. Please don't be hard on yourself about your visits during your dad's illness. Sometimes in those moments we all feel paralyzed about what to do or say. I just wanted to let you know are you not alone. And that everything you are saying and feeling is normal. If you want consider talking to a grief counsellor or joining a support group. I also find these websites helpful in understanding my feelings. What's Your Grief and the Grief Healing Blog. Sending all my thoughts and prayers. Please know we are all here to listen and support you in anyway we can.
  5. trust me as I grieve

    Thank you for sharing this link. No truer words were written.
  6. Dear Olivia, I'm sorry for your loss. Good luck your project. We all grieve so differently so the more options the better. Please keep us posted as to what you find.
  7. Dear sadandlost, I'm very sorry for your pain and sorrow. I know its hard. I wish there was something I could say to make it a little easier. Good of you to support others on this forum. I received one piece of advice during my grief journey that I think helped me a lot. This lady told me to keep writing and to let the hurt out. Keep letting it out till it gets easier. It feels so inadequate, but I think it did help me in some way. Thinking of you.
  8. Saturday

    Dear Browneyegirl29, I'm very sorry for your loss. Please know that everything you are feeling and thinking is a normal part of grief. There is no right way or wrong way to grieve. I know its hard on family members to understand and even dear friends, but you have to do what you feel is right for you. Be kind to yourself. Baby steps every day. The pain and sorrow is hard to work through. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  9. Dear Genna, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know its an extremely difficult time right now. Please know we are all thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  10. Lost my last relative

    Dear Christianos, I'm very sorry for your pain and sorrow. I know losing your mum is very hard. The hardest thing in the world any of us can go through. All your feelings are natural and normal given how much you have been through. I know its not easy but have you considered talking to a counsellor or going to a support group. Please know you are not alone. On this forum you will find many that feel exactly the same way. I also found these websites helpful in understanding my emotions. What's Your Grief and The Grief Healing Blog. Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  11. One day....I hope

    Dear sadandlost, Thank you for sharing your feelings with us. I know its a very painful time. I know we all just have to keep hanging on and holding on to each other through this forum and hopefully one day it will be a little lighter. Take care.
  12. Lost my mum

    Dear Brightspark, I'm so sorry for your pain and sorrow. I know its hard. Hang in there my friend. Please know we are all here in the same boat, trying to hold each other up. Take care. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  13. Feeling lost

    Dear Julie, I'm very sorry for your loss. I know its hard. Losing a parent is a terrible shock and not something that anyone can easily come to terms with. About seeing a therapist, I had the same thoughts. Different things work for different people. I think people suggest talking to a therapist because they are supposed to be a neutral person that will listen without any judgement about our sadness. I think friends, colleagues and family try to understand but sometimes they don't have the patience or even willingness to listen. I had regrets and a lot of anger about what happened leading up to my father's passing. The therapist tried to help me do some role playing and also tried to give me another perspective about how to think. I keep trying because even after one year, I feel so strange without my father in my life. I also found these websites helpful in understanding my grief. What's Your Grief and the Grief Healing Blog. Take care and please know we are all here to listen. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  14. Dear StevieC, I'm very sorry for your loss. I know there is a lot on your young shoulders right now. Please don't feel like you have to be strong for your family right now. Whatever your feelings are right now, they are ok. There is no right or wrong. Losing a father is terribly shocking. I'm sure it doesn't even feel real right now. I know its hard going through the ritual of the wake and funeral service. I know no one wants to ever imagine this day. Do what you feel is best for you. But if you can, I would try and go and be there for your mother and brother. Its a horribly painful and confusing time, but know you are not alone. Please know we are all here to listen and support you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  15. Dear Andy, I'm so sorry to hear about your beloved dad and friend. It is very hard to understand life sometimes. I know you mentioned you tried face to face counselling before and it wasn't the right fit at that time. It is hard to find a person one feels connected to enough to talk freely. I would suggest trying again to find a different counsellor or support group. I know some counsellors will do sessions over the phone or Skype. I find these websites helpful: What's Your Grief and the Grief Healing Blog. Don't be afraid to reach out and get some additional supports. I too felt like was I was going down a dark path, but I found being around people who could validate and acknowledge my feelings made a difference. I know others have suggested meditation, journaling, painting, try to do whatever feels right for you. Please know you are not alone. Take care of yourself.
  16. Dear Sazza, My deepest condolences and sympathies. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know the pain and sorrow is unbearable. It is a terrible shock. Try to be with family and friends during this difficult time. Be kind to yourself. It will take a long time to work through all your thoughts and feelings at this very difficult loss. Sending you all my love and hugs.
  17. 9 months later

    Dear sadandlost, Thank you for sharing your experiences with everyone here. I know its hard. Grief has so many ups and downs. When you are ready, give this friend a chance. She might be able to give you some support. In these difficult times, I'm sure she will understand. I see your kindness in supporting others here on this forum. I know everything is easier said than done, but I hope you will also show yourself some kindness as well. Don't be afraid to share your true feelings with others. I know we all feel the need to put on a mask, but in reality people cannot support us if they don't know. Give them a chance. For myself, I felt I was turning a corner but at 12 months, I still have my grief attacks. Take care of yourself the best you can. Sending you hugs.
  18. I can't go on

    Dear Joshua, I'm very sorry for your pain and sorrow. Losing a beloved father is one of the hardest thing anyone can go through. I know its hard. Please know there are people that care and love you and wouldn't want you to feel this way. I hope you will reach out to a trusted friend or adult who can help you access some resources. Maybe talking to a counsellor or joining a support group with other people close to your age will help you know, you are not alone in your thoughts and feelings. I'm a lot like you and I too didn't want to show my emotions to strangers as it were. But my counsellor was very compassionate. Don't keep the hurt inside. There are people that understand and will want to help you to find ways to cope. I also find these websites helpful: What's Your Grief and the Grief Healing Blog. We are all here to listen and support you in anyway we can. Sending all my thoughts and prayers to you.
  19. Funeral

    Please don't think that, I'm sure its very common across the globe. Life happens. And many communities will have a plan in place regardless of your nationality. I hope you can find the answers are you looking for and it will ease your mind.
  20. A bit late

    Please don't think that. I'm sure they wouldn't mind helping you. Grief is tough. It does affect our memories and makes us feel crazy but in reality its normal. It never hurts to just ask and even if the answer is "I don't know" that will be okay.
  21. Dear Sgtkeebler, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis. I know it's very hard on you and you are doing everything you can to help your mom during this extremely difficult time. It is a terrible shock. I too lived with my dad and to watch him suffer was the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. Please try to take this time to be with your mom and dad. Be together. Let your mom know you love her and will support her in anyway you can. I'm sure she knows already but never hurts to say it out loud. I'm not sure if you can talk to the doctor about accessing some resources. It might help to talk to a counsellor or join a support group. Please know you are not alone in your thoughts and feelings. Thinking of you and your family. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  22. Dear Shirley, My deepest sympathies and condolences on the loss of your mom and dad. I'm very sorry for your losses. Please know that everything you are feeling and thinking is part of grief. It is only normal to feel lonely after losing your beloved dad and mom. I feel it too and its been almost a year since my father passed. I know it's hard, but please know there are resources in the community and through church. If you feel like it, maybe consider counselling or joining a support group. Please know you are not alone. I also find these websites a great resource in understanding my feelings: What's Your Grief The Grief Healing Blog Grief in Common GriefShare Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  23. Funeral

    Dear Existential1, I hear your concern. Depending on where you live the government might provide a basic funeral. I would check with local town office for more information. Hopefully others can also provide more information.
  24. A bit late

    Dear Legatus, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. I think we all grieve differently. Please don't be hard on yourself. Take the time to mourn this friend. If you want to, consider talking to a grief counsellor or joining a support group. It is hard to look back on friendships, because the chance to change things is now gone. I think that is why it is so hard. Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  25. Far away sick mother

    I'm so sorry Hassan. I know it's hard waiting for information regarding your mom's condition. Please know you have friends on this forum. We are all thinking of you and your mom.
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