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  1. Loss of sister

    Dear Ryan, Sorry for your pain and sorrow. Your sister sounds like an amazing person. She was lucky to have you too. I know it hurts a lot. Try to lean on friends or consider finding some other supports in the community or through church. I find it helps to talk to people that are going through the same loss. Please know you are not alone. Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  2. Angry because I fail

    Dear Ryan, I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a beloved sister is very hard. The anger you are experiencing is part of grief. Please know you are not alone. Have you considered talking to a grief counsellor? Or joining a support group? I find these websites helpful in understanding my pain and sorrow. What's Your Grief and The Grief Healing Blog. Be kind to yourself. Don't push too hard. The raw emotions take time to work through. Leave the household stuff for now, they are not going anywhere. Hopefully a friend or another family member can step in to help with these.
  3. Dear DDN, My deepest sympathies and condolences on the loss of your cherished and beloved mother. I'm very sorry for your loss. I know the pain is raw. Try to be kind to yourself. Be gentle. It is hard to understand and accept this terrible loss. None of us want to be in this situation. Please know you are not alone. And we are all here to listen and support you. Remember your friends and family, they care and want to help too. Sending you love and hugs during this very difficult time.
  4. a hard day

    Dear Mary, I'm very sorry to hear about your hard day. I think losing a parent is one of the hardest things any of us can go through. Please be kind to yourself. We all grieve differently and the emotions can hit us out of no where. It takes a lot of time to come to terms with our thoughts and feelings. Please don't be hard on yourself about your visits during your dad's illness. Sometimes in those moments we all feel paralyzed about what to do or say. I just wanted to let you know are you not alone. And that everything you are saying and feeling is normal. If you want consider talking to a grief counsellor or joining a support group. I also find these websites helpful in understanding my feelings. What's Your Grief and the Grief Healing Blog. Sending all my thoughts and prayers. Please know we are all here to listen and support you in anyway we can.
  5. trust me as I grieve

    Thank you for sharing this link. No truer words were written.
  6. Dear Olivia, I'm sorry for your loss. Good luck your project. We all grieve so differently so the more options the better. Please keep us posted as to what you find.
  7. Dear sadandlost, I'm very sorry for your pain and sorrow. I know its hard. I wish there was something I could say to make it a little easier. Good of you to support others on this forum. I received one piece of advice during my grief journey that I think helped me a lot. This lady told me to keep writing and to let the hurt out. Keep letting it out till it gets easier. It feels so inadequate, but I think it did help me in some way. Thinking of you.
  8. Saturday

    Dear Browneyegirl29, I'm very sorry for your loss. Please know that everything you are feeling and thinking is a normal part of grief. There is no right way or wrong way to grieve. I know its hard on family members to understand and even dear friends, but you have to do what you feel is right for you. Be kind to yourself. Baby steps every day. The pain and sorrow is hard to work through. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  9. Dear Genna, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know its an extremely difficult time right now. Please know we are all thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  10. Lost my last relative

    Dear Christianos, I'm very sorry for your pain and sorrow. I know losing your mum is very hard. The hardest thing in the world any of us can go through. All your feelings are natural and normal given how much you have been through. I know its not easy but have you considered talking to a counsellor or going to a support group. Please know you are not alone. On this forum you will find many that feel exactly the same way. I also found these websites helpful in understanding my emotions. What's Your Grief and The Grief Healing Blog. Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  11. One day....I hope

    Dear sadandlost, Thank you for sharing your feelings with us. I know its a very painful time. I know we all just have to keep hanging on and holding on to each other through this forum and hopefully one day it will be a little lighter. Take care.
  12. Lost my mum

    Dear Brightspark, I'm so sorry for your pain and sorrow. I know its hard. Hang in there my friend. Please know we are all here in the same boat, trying to hold each other up. Take care. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  13. Feeling lost

    Dear Julie, I'm very sorry for your loss. I know its hard. Losing a parent is a terrible shock and not something that anyone can easily come to terms with. About seeing a therapist, I had the same thoughts. Different things work for different people. I think people suggest talking to a therapist because they are supposed to be a neutral person that will listen without any judgement about our sadness. I think friends, colleagues and family try to understand but sometimes they don't have the patience or even willingness to listen. I had regrets and a lot of anger about what happened leading up to my father's passing. The therapist tried to help me do some role playing and also tried to give me another perspective about how to think. I keep trying because even after one year, I feel so strange without my father in my life. I also found these websites helpful in understanding my grief. What's Your Grief and the Grief Healing Blog. Take care and please know we are all here to listen. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  14. Dear StevieC, I'm very sorry for your loss. I know there is a lot on your young shoulders right now. Please don't feel like you have to be strong for your family right now. Whatever your feelings are right now, they are ok. There is no right or wrong. Losing a father is terribly shocking. I'm sure it doesn't even feel real right now. I know its hard going through the ritual of the wake and funeral service. I know no one wants to ever imagine this day. Do what you feel is best for you. But if you can, I would try and go and be there for your mother and brother. Its a horribly painful and confusing time, but know you are not alone. Please know we are all here to listen and support you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  15. Dear Andy, I'm so sorry to hear about your beloved dad and friend. It is very hard to understand life sometimes. I know you mentioned you tried face to face counselling before and it wasn't the right fit at that time. It is hard to find a person one feels connected to enough to talk freely. I would suggest trying again to find a different counsellor or support group. I know some counsellors will do sessions over the phone or Skype. I find these websites helpful: What's Your Grief and the Grief Healing Blog. Don't be afraid to reach out and get some additional supports. I too felt like was I was going down a dark path, but I found being around people who could validate and acknowledge my feelings made a difference. I know others have suggested meditation, journaling, painting, try to do whatever feels right for you. Please know you are not alone. Take care of yourself.
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