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  1. Dear Alicia, I'm so sorry. I know the pain and sorrow are unimaginable. Please know you are not alone. We are all here to listen and support you. Losing a parent is a terrible shock. Sending all my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.
  2. Dear Ndigwe, We all handle grief differently. There is no right way or wrong way. Please consider talking to a therapist, counsellor or joining a support group. Try accessing some resources through the community or church. I also find these websites very helpful, What's Your Grief and The Grief Healing Blog. Also considering writing, drawing or painting as another way to express your feelings.
  3. Dear Ali Jane, I'm so sorry. Its so hard to accept death. I still struggle every day with my dad's passing. Because its been 5 years, have you considered talking to a therapist, counsellor or joining a support group? There are also some wonderful websites like What's Your Grief, The Grief Healing Blog, The Grief Recovery Method, Tiny Buddha and GriefShare.Org that might be able to help and comfort you during this difficult time. Thinking of you. Sending you all my thoughts and prayers.
  4. Dear Mike's Girl, I'm so sorry for your pain and sorrow. I know this is a very difficult time. Please know you are not alone. And we are all here to listen and support you in anyway we can. Thinking of you. Sending you all my thoughts and prayers.
  5. Dear AimeeLynna, I'm so sorry for your pain and sorrow. It is hard to cope with such a major loss. Everything you are feeling and thinking is normal. Please know we are all here to listen and support you in anyway we can. Thinking of you. Sending you love and hugs.
  6. Dear Ndigwe, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad's passing. I know you were looking for your dad's support regarding your anxiety. Its only natural to feel pain when our parents dismiss our feelings. In that moment when you were angry you didn't know that your dad would pass. You probably felt there would be time to make up. I would think the same thing too. I know its not easy right now. All parents and children know that we all say things we regret. Its human nature. We want to take things back but sometime our pride prevents us. I too have regrets since my dad's passing. Please don't think your dad did not love you. He did. It was the pain of the cancer talking. In his heart, he loved you and wanted the best for you. If you feel like it, write him a letter, or talk to him out loud about everything you are feeling right now. I can't tell you how many times I have visited my dad's gravesite asking him for his forgiveness. I say "I'm sorry daddy, I'm so sorry." And it still hurts, but I keep trying. I know its easier said than done, but try to be kind and gentle with yourself during your grief. Life is so hard. Thinking of you.
  7. Dear northern harvest, My deepest condolences and sympathies on the passing of your beloved and cherished mom. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hear you my friend. It is a terrible shock and trauma to lose our parents. I'm with you because I too still wish my dad was alive. I want so badly to turn back time. Please know everything you are saying and feeling is normal and part of grief. I know that is cold comfort during this difficult time. If you want to, consider talking to a grief counselor or joining a support group. I still have a lot of anger over my father's death. I hate the whole world tonight. Try to make myself keep going but its been a struggle. I just want you to know you are not alone. Please continue to write and express yourself here. Thinking of you.
  8. Dear Cindy Jane, Thank you for your encouragement and kind words, its much appreciated. Sending love and hugs to everyone.
  9. Dear Lisa K, I've been thinking about you. I know the treatment is hard. Sending you love and hugs during this difficult time. And if there is anything I can do, please let me know. Till next time, my friend.
  10. Dear Orestes, Its a terrible shock to lose a parent no matter the circumstances. Please know we are all here to listen and support you in anyway we can. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
  11. Dear Jackie, My deepest condolences and sympathies on the passing of your beloved and cherished mom. I'm so sorry for your loss. They say that hearing is one of the last senses to go. I am sure your mom heard you and knew how much you loved her and appreciated her. I know it hurts right now. And its only normal to think back on those last moments. I have the same thoughts as well. I visited my dad the day he passed but left for work thinking I would see him the next day. Instead the doctor called me two hours later to say he had passed. I deeply regret not being there when my father passed. Only the nurse was there to witness his passing. She told me it was very peaceful but it hurts. I wish I had told my dad a lot more or realized the severity of the situation so I could get all my siblings around him before he passed. But its all too late. Thinking of you. Sending you all my thoughts and prayers.
  12. Dear fletch14, I'm so sorry for your pain and sorrow. I know its hard. Its been 6 months since my dad passed. I don't know if I am really moving forward or just existing sometimes. I try to find some joy every day but even those short moments of joy remind me that my father is no longer here. I found this link about how do you know when grief is getting better: http://connect.legacy.com/inspire/page/show?id=1984035%3APage%3A3306 I hope it helps. Take care. Thinking of you.
  13. Dear Rick and More, I am so sorry for your loss. I know this is a very difficult time. Please know you are not alone. We are all here to listen and support you in anyway we can. Sending you all my thoughts and prayers.
  14. Dear Angela, Thank you for sharing your brother Chris with us. He sounds like a beautiful person that we should all emulate. Sending you all my thoughts and prayers.
  15. Dear Frances, My deepest condolences and sympathies on the passing of your beloved and cherished mum. I'm so sorry for your pain and sorrow. Thank you for sharing your mum with us. Please don't be hard on yourself. My father also passed when I wasn't in the hospital room. I think it was our parents away of protecting us one final time. I too wanted to be present, I wanted the whole family to be there. But it was the nurse that witnessed my dad's last breaths. Its something I still struggle with 6 months after my dad's passing. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time. Sending you love and hugs.