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  1. Dear all, I'm very sorry for your loss. I know its an extremely difficult time. You all give me hope and strength. I, too, have to turn my grief into something productive. It is a daily struggle sometimes. Thinking of you all.
  2. Dear @Akc123, My deepest sympathies and condolences on the passing of your cherished mum. I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your mum with us. I know this is an extremely difficult time for you and your family. Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  3. Dear Olgaflor, I'm so sorry, I know it hurts a lot. I'm glad you have the support group to lean on. I think these thoughts and feelings can last years. One counsellor said to me it could take you up to 5 years to come to terms with it. And for some even longer. We are all so different. Moment by moment for now. Thinking of you.
  4. Dear mills89, I'm very sorry for your loss. Please know you are not alone and all your feelings are normal and natural. Grief is a terrible journey and there is no fixed timeline. I think it takes a long time for our minds and bodies to adjust. Its been 9 months for me and I still can't believe it. I've tried counselling, grief support, reading different websites and books. I am still struggling to come to terms with my new reality. I would like to suggest these websites: What's Your Grief The Grief Healing Blog I found these websites really good about validating and acknowledging all my feelings. Try to be kind to yourself. Moment by moment for now. People tell me the pain will lessen in intensity over time, I can only hope so. Take care my friend. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  5. Dear Jenn, I'm very sorry for all your pain and sorrow. I know this is an extremely difficult time. I hope you can lean on friends and family for now. Moment by moment. Its all any of us can do during this very sad time. Please know you are not alone. We are all here to listen and support you. Thinking of you and your family. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  6. Dear @cindyjane Good to hear from you. Congratulations on your retirement. As always, thank you for your encouraging and hopeful words. We all need to know there is hope at the end of this dark tunnel. Hard to believe 9 months has gone by and I am still tearful wishing for the past. Thank you for your prayers and kind words. Take care my friend.
  7. I'm very sorry for your loss and all your pain and sorrow. I know its an extremely difficult time. Families are tough. Its been 9 months and I am still struggling. Please know you are not alone. Anger is a normal part of grief. Glad you have your therapist to talk to. But also know there are other resources in the community and through church. Maybe a support group would also help. I also find these websites helpful: What's Your Grief The Grief Healing Blog The Grief Recovery Method Griefshare.Org. Take care and please know we are all here to listen.
  8. Hi Kazvlz, Please know everything you are thinking and feeling is normal and natural. There is no strict timeline for grief. My one counsellor said it could take up to 5 years to adapt to my new normal. The pain and sorrow is always with us because we long to have them still with us on earth. We want to tell them all our news in person. Please don't feel stupid. Its not stupid at all to miss one of the most important persons in our lives. I don't know if this will help, but it was suggested to me. To write in journal, write a letter, or talk out loud to my dad as if were alive. I know others have put letters into balloons and released them. Some ritual to help cope with the grief. It is a terrible shock and for me, I don't know if or when I will come to terms with this loss. I wished I was in my 50s or 60s like my colleagues who lost their parents. But I realize now, no matter what age you are, it will always be one of the hardest moments in life that any of us go through. Please know you are not alone. We are all here to listen and support you. Take care.
  9. Dear Fran, My deepest condolences and sympathies on the passing of your beloved mom. I'm very sorry for your loss. I know the pain is deep. I know you tried to do the best you could for your mom. You did the best you could with the knowledge you had at that time. I know you wanted a different outcome. I had a similar situation with my dad. The doctor had told me my dad had 6 months to one year to live with his heart failure but he passed two days later. 9 months later I am still so angry about his final months, weeks and days. I regret so much. And I replay in my mind all the different things I would've have done to help or prolong my dad's life. I saw him every day so I am very angry at myself for not being more aggressive in his care. He depended on me a lot and this why I feel I let him down. It is a terrible struggle to accept a beloved parent's passing. I have tried many things to help me cope including counselling, support groups and reading different books and websites. Please know you are not alone. And if you need to talk it through some more, we are all here to listen and support you. Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  10. Dear Heyitsme, I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your dear friend and mentor. I know the pain and sorrow is deep. Please know its okay to express your feelings. If you feel like your family and friends won't understand, then please consider talking to a professional grief counsellor or joining a support group. There are many resources in the community and through church. I also find these websites helpful: What's Your Grief and the Grief Healing Blog. Please know you are not alone. Thinking of you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.
  11. Dear More, Thank you for continuing to share your poetry with us. And expressing how we all feel so well. Take care my friend. Thinking of you.
  12. Dear @thesadgirl I'm so sorry for your loss. I know the pain and sorrow is very deep. I can hear how much you loved and admired your dad. He was very lucky to have you as his daughter. I know its hard. Looking back we all wish things could be different. The what ifs fill our mind and won't let go. I still do it and its been 9 months since my dad has passed. Everything you are thinking and saying is normal and part of grief. I know that doesn't make it easier though. Please know you are not alone. We are all here to listen and support you. Lean on your mom during this very difficult time. Be kind to yourself as much as you can. Thinking of you. Sending you all my thoughts and prayers.
  13. Dear Sweetheart346, I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through, I know its not easy. I think its very normal so soon after a traumatic loss to relive those last months, weeks and days. Our mind won't let us rest. We are desperately searching for answers. We want to know why this happened? I too have terrible anger and guilt about what happened with my father in the hospital. I keep screaming at the universe about how fair everything is. I keep talking it out with people who understand. Right now, its moment by moment. Try to be kinder to yourself. And if you want to please consider talking to a grief counsellor or joining a support group. I find these websites very helpful in understanding my feeling. What's Your Grief and the Grief Healing Blog. Please know you are not alone, we are all here to listen and support you in anyway we can. Thinking of you. Sending you all my thoughts and prayers.
  14. Dear bravelittletoaster, My deepest sympathies and condolences on the passing of your beloved mother. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know its hard. From what you are saying it sounds like you are going through delayed grief. I know you mentioned how your emotions feel bottled up. I grew up in a family where we didn't talk about feelings or how to deal with grief. Since my dad's passing I am struggling with all my feelings as well. I know everyone is different but I have tried the following things: counselling, grief support, reading websites like What's Your Grief and the Grief Healing Blog, journaling, taking classes and meditation. I think its hard for those around us to support us experiencing grief. I'm sure your boyfriend is doing what he can and he means well. Please know we are all here to listen and support you and you are not alone. Thinking of you. Sending you all my thoughts and prayers.
  15. Dear rayaneaj, My deepest condolences and sympathies to everyone here. I'm very sorry for your loss. It is a terrible shock. The pain and sorrow is so deep. I think it takes a long time for our minds to work out this new reality. Its been 9 months for me and I am still struggling. Trying to do different things to cope. I am sad if I try and I am sad if I don't. I can't seem to win. But I keep putting one foot in front of the other in hopes that eventually something will shift in my mind. Thinking of you all. Sending all my thoughts and prayers.