KayC

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About KayC

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  • Birthday October 7

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  • Gender
    Female
  • Location
    Oregon
  • Interests
    Making cards, singing, hiking
  • Loss Type
    Husband
  • Angel Date
    06/19/2005

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    Retired Bookkeeper & Office Manager
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    Kay
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  1. This is part of my "purpose"...I feel everything we go through is not a waste. This morning I read this article and I couldn't agree with it more, although I know it's impossible to see in the beginning of our grief journey... https://grievewellblog.wordpress.com/2017/04/09/93/
  2. Mrsviden, You've spent over half your life together, this is a huge adjustment. You are trying though, that's about all we can do. You are someone's day one girl, that is special. Even death cannot rob us of that! But it sure is hard not being able to be with them right now.
  3. Sounds like something to strive for. I'm glad you got to visit with your friends. My best friend from high school passed a couple of years ago, just as we were planning to get together. it's neat to have friends from way back. I'm sorry about the trial date. It will come though!
  4. It might help to have a visit with the doctor too if you have ongoing depression.
  5. That's so good to hear! I hear you about the hospital, that's tough at first!
  6. It does take a while for the cat to adjust if they're not used to dogs, but they do eventually draw a truce. The dog is usually easier about it, although they should not be allowed to chase the cat, nor the cat to hurt the dog, which they can do out of defensiveness.
  7. I don't know what to say...it is the hardest thing in the world to find life worth living, purpose, something good to get up for...we get that by hoping, looking for, anticipation, learning to appreciate what good there still is, and this practice takes great effort. Keep trying, we all need to...
  8. We go on because we need to hope and we continue looking for good...
  9. It is a hard thing to grasp. I do hope you've gotten help from a professional grief counselor. Sometimes a grief support group is of help too. Take some time to read some posts here and I hope you'll continue to come here and express yourself, it helps and this is a safe place to do it. I'm so sorry.
  10. Thinking of you today... It's hard, we not only lose them but lose our hopes and dreams, those secondary losses can be really tough. I'm really sorry. Everyone handles it different, some choose to do what they would do if they were here, some choose to ignore it, some put messages in balloons and release them...whatever you do, I hope it brings you some comfort.
  11. It's the best therapy in the world to express how you feel, it helps more than you know. Maybe you can start by reading others' posts... http://www.griefhealingblog.com/2012/12/grief-and-burden-of-guilt.html http://www.griefhealingblog.com/2012/03/guilt-and-regret-in-grief.html
  12. KMB, Tell me about it, everyone I know is old! I've lost seven friends to death in the last 12 months! Good luck with your friend's dad...
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    Micky, It's not that it gets "better" so much as we learn to adjust to our "life without" as I call it. Our coping skills get honed. It's good to see a professional grief counselor, you can look for a grief support group, it's important to build a good network of support. http://www.griefhealingblog.com/2012/10/seeing-specialist-in-grief-counseling.html http://www.griefhealingblog.com/2010/04/finding-grief-support-that-is-right-for.html http://ezinearticles.com/?Youve-Got-the-Power-How-to-Know-If-You-Are-Doing-Your-Grief-Work&id=9047323
  14. Skip, I'm so sorry, that has to be the hardest way to lose your spouse. I hope you're in professional grief counseling. There's also organization for survivors of suicide. I hope you will go to these links: http://www.griefhealingblog.com/2013/11/surviving-spouses-suicide.html http://www.griefhealingblog.com/2012/03/grief-support-for-survivors-of-suicide.html
  15. aww, I couldn't make it without you all, you have no idea!