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  1. I am so very sorry for the tragic loss of your beautiful wife. I read your post and my heart broke. I lost a dear friend in a tragic car accident 6 years ago, he was 21. I can only try to imagine the pain you would be going through at this time. The mixed emotions,shock, sadness, anger, denial, these are all normal parts of grieving. I do not know if you are religiously minded or not,but I personally have found great comfort in prayer and God's promises from the very near future. If you are religiously inclined I encourgae you to pour your heart and mind out to God in prayer, you can tell him everything that's on your mind as he will not judge your grief. I personally, have screamed at him, cried to him and just got everything out, it really helps Agin I am so sorry for your loss, and wish you some comfort. Kind regards and best wishes, Bianca
  2. I Don't Know What To Believe...

    Dear MissKylie, I am so so sorry for the loss of your darling little girl. I can not imagine the pain her loss must have caused your family. I have lost my grandparents and some very close friends, but nothing could compare to the loss of a child. Cancer is such a horrible disease. I was also so sad to read that you have been told that God will be angry with you if you grieve too much or ask why this has happened. I am not in any way trying to change your opinion or anything, I would love to share with you some truths from the bible to show you that God is I no way upset with you for grieving or asking why. My faith in God and the bible is very strong and I have many times asked why has this happened? Or why haven't you done anything to fix this God? In fact the bible has many examples of faithful people of old asking why. For example, a faithful prophet named Habakkuk wrote a whole chapter in the bible asking why. Habakkuk chapter 1, verse 2 says: "How Long, O God, must I cry for help, but you do not hear? How long must I ask for help from violence, but you do not intervene?" Jesus also encouraged us to "keep on asking... on seeking" Luke 11:9 If God did not want us to ask questions he wouldn't have put examples in the bible. So please continue to ask questions. On the matter of grieving, even jesus shed tears when his good friend Lazarus fell asleep in death. (John 11:33-37) I'm sure your remember the story of Lazarus, how Jesus resurrected him after he had been dead for 4 days. Jesus had healed many sick ones at that time and he knew he was Going to resurrect Lazarus, but that didn't stop jesus from showing emotion for the loss of his friend. Please, do not let anyone tell you that there is a right or a wrong way to grieve. You grieve ho ever you feel is appropriate for you. I hope that these scriptures can help you re-build your faith a little that God is not a horrible, distant, evil God, but he is Love and hates to see us suffering. He wants us to find answers to all of our questions through his word the bible. You might actually be pleasantly surprised at what the Bible actually teaches about death and suffering, and the future. God promises that very soon he will end death, sickness and pain for ever. (Revelation 21:3,4) I would be very happy to discuss this further with you if you want more information, no obligation attached. Please stay strong and il keep you in my prayers. Best wishes Bianca