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  1. Sudden loss of a mother.

    Grief comes in waves and guilt is part of that. We all grieve in our own way and it is normal to have guilt. We can't make our bodies be sad. I had the same feelings as you when my father passed. I felt guilty that he died at 54 in prison. I felt like I should have done things differently and that it was unfair that I was cheated out of a relationship. I found myself being triggered by people talking about family members and running off and crying. I cried a lot before the funeral and then it was like I felt guilty and numb. Around the Christmas holiday it hit me and I couldn't stop crying. I then was like why am I so sad? Now I know it was my body and spirit cleansing its self of my loss. Whatever you are feeling feel it. There is no right or wrong way to be. I had a good friend that I just cried on. It wasn't pretty but I trusted him and he let me be vulnerable. It's okay to be vulnerable.
  2. Honoring a loved one

    You could write him a letter while listening to his favorite music, telling him how you guys are doing and how the boys are growing. What did he enjoy doing?