Everything posted by phonetherapyline
Im extremely sorry to hear about your loss. I hate to hear people suffering. The loss of a loved one can be profoundly painful. There many avenues out there to help people cope with their loss. The hard part is finding someone that truly cares and wants to make you feel better about your life again. Their are many defining steps in finding happiness in your life again. Talking with a trained professional may be able to help you. Wish you all the luck in the balance of happiness.
It seems to me your guys are meant to be together. After all your travels and then ending back up together. He needs you. From my experience your boyfriend might want to reach out to his daughter but does not want to relive his past with the mother. It happens all the time. Its selfish but human nature. First you should focus on building a great trusting relationship with him and in time he wont care about his past with the daughters mother and be able to give the proper love to his daughter. A lot of the time people have a hard time expressing themselves vocally. Its great that he sends gifts around the holidays but ask him one time to write a letter to his daughter expressing his love and affection for her. He doesn't have to explain the past. Children just want to feel loved, that's it. And over time he will open up more and more to you and his daughter.
Im sorry to hear about your loss. I have also been dealing with a sudden loss. The loss of a loved one can be a profoundly painful experience. I have noticed the grief that follows may permeate everything from making it hard to sleep, eat, or muster up interest in the life that is going on around you. the emotional stress can affect behavior and judgment. It's common, for example, to feel agitated or exhausted, to sob unexpectedly, or withdraw from the world around you. I found myself struggling with feelings of sorrow, anger, guilt, and anxiety. What I found that helped me cope was keeping active and changing my daily routine. By doing that I didn't run into those familiar triggers that made me lose it.