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daddys_little_girl

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About daddys_little_girl

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  • Gender
    Female
  • Loss Type
    father
  • Angel Date
    August 18, 2013

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  1. Grief - sex - relationshop.

    Yesterday was the first anniversary of my dad's passing. My boyfriend and I have been together for close to 3 years now and I noticed that although we didn't necessarily fight a lot over the past year, when we did they were really bad fights. It's a hard thing to be going through and you may just have to give her time. However, if you are thinking things aren't ever going to be the same, I would suggest avoiding hurting you both more and ending it now... Maybe take a break from each other for a while and see how you feel? We stopped doing stuff for a while but once we started again, we just got closer to each other and felt much better about our relationship. Keep that in mind... I don't know if this helps at all but hopefully there is something that you can take away from this... Good luck and trust me, I've been on the other side. It's hard and every day hurts and she might feel guilty thinking her mom is gone and she is enjoying life without her...
  2. First anniversary

    This Monday is going to mark the first anniversary of my dad's death... On top of that, we are going to be burying his ashes that day. Any tips on how to get through the hard days to come?
  3. Suggestions?

    I really feel like communicating with my dad would help with my healing process... Does anyone know of any mediums that I could talk to about him or have other suggestions as to what I can do to feel like there is communication?
  4. Coping

    How do I cope with the day-to-day feeling of depression? Nobody understands how I feel and I feel guilty talking to my mom and brother because it brings up their feelings about our loss too... I just don't know what to do anymore and I'm starting to feel hopeless... Please help!!!
  5. is there an app?

    Is there an app that I can download from the google play store for my phone?
  6. I can kind of relate to how you feel. I am 16 and 9 months ago I watched my dad die in front of me in the hospital after being taken off life support... I also have friends that don't understand what I need sometimes. A counselor I was seeing told me to tell them to not try and help fix me but to just listen to what I ask of them and just be an ear and a shoulder to cry on... Maybe talking to your friends about that may help them better understand how to help you?
  7. i miss my dad

    My dad passed away about 9 months ago and I am 16... I too have found that each day gets harder and harder because the shock of the loss is wearing off and I'm starting to realize that it really happened... My dad was one of my best friends and losing him was such a tragedy! I find it so hard to get through day to day things without thinking of him. Do any of you have coping ideas to help get through the hard times?
  8. Time seems to make it worse, not better...

    Correction: August 18, 2013
  9. In July of 2012, my dad was rushed to hospital by ambulance after he started to throw up buckets of blood. After 3 weeks of being in the hospital, my dad was sent home with a diagnosis of hereditary cirrhosis of the liver. On too of that, he was also told he had a very rare disease called Hepato Pulmonary Syndrome. This disease is a rare form of cirrhosis where the lungs start to get micro-tears in them as well as the deterioration of the liver. Not only was my dad in that tiny group of people, but he discovered he was even more rare. His form of the disease also caused his oxygen saturation levels to drop to about 75-85% (the normal is 98-100%). What we had discovered very quickly is that cirrhosis causes the veins in your esophagus to enlarge. Picture blowing up a balloon. It stretches, but only so far before it pops. That is essentially what happened with the veins in my dad's esophagus. When the veins ruptured, the blood dripped into his stomach, causing him to feel bloated and throw up. The veins were banded to stop the bleeding and slow the process of enlargement down. Luckily this worked! Unfortunately, my dad had to live with oxygen 24/7 until about a year after he was able to have a liver transplant. Close to a year after his first trip to the hospital, my dad went back to see a doctor to check the bands and see if any new ones needed to be put on. A few more were places around veins and he was sent home that day. We figured this meant we were clear if any issues for a while. A week later, my dad was rushed back to the hospital after another bleed. This time, the bleed was worse than the first. My dad didn't even have the energy to walk to the front door, the paramedics had to,carry him from the bathroom. Early the next morning, my dad was transferred to a different hospital where his liver transplant team was. This way, if they felt he was able to be operated on, they would be able to do it. My dad was in a ventilator for 2 days. They then put more bands in his esophagus and was woken up. After a few days, he was moved out of ICU to the normal in-patient floor. A few days later, he was told he was allowed to go home. But my dad wanted to stay one more night just to be on the safe side. The next morning he woke up and was feeling great! He couldn't wait to go home! But not long after, my dad felt like he was going to be sick. He was then rushed back up to ICU after having such a huge bleed that they almost lost him between the 5th and the 8th floor... A week went by with him being on a ventilator. Then his kidneys started to shut down... Late Saturday night we were told to call the family to the hospital because things didn't look good for him. A few hours later, my mom, brother, I, and all of the family on both my parents sides (mothers, brothers/sisters, nieces/nephews) were told that once again, my dad was bleeding inside. At that time my mom, brother, and I had to make the decision to take away all meds except for sedative and pain meds and turn down the ventilator to almost nothing. A couple hours went by and we all stood in the hospital room to watch my dad take his last breath. I stood in the room telling my dad "one more minute daddy, one more minute" and he did it. For you see, my brother was born at 12:40, I was born at 5:40 and it was 6:39... My dad managed to hold on for that last minute and he died at 6:40 am on August 18, 2014. 8 months later and the shock is just starting to wear off... I find I am in more pain and more upset about the whole thing now than I was as I watched my father die. Everyone keeps telling me it gets better with time, but it really doesn't. My dad never made it to a transplant, he was never given the gift of life. But luckily, he was able to help make 2 people's lives better. Both of his corneas were donated that morning. One to a young adult make and the other to a young adult female. And I am so proud to tell the world that my dad's legacy will be able to live on through other people and that he was able to make something positive out of this horrible tragedy. I love you dad and miss you terribly! <3
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