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ripDavid

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About ripDavid

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  • Gender
    Female
  • Location
    va
  • Loss Type
    my younger brother, best friend, soulmate
  • Angel Date
    3/10/2008
  1. Share pics of the angels you love

    David, rip my love. I miss and love you so incredibly much.y You're the best little brother anyone could ever ask for.
  2. We all want the people we love to be remembered forever, and to be shown and shared with the world. Post the pictures of your lost loved ones for everyone to see
  3. Sudden loss of little Brother

    Lobe the pics!!! I'm going to try to start my own topic and add mine
  4. Sudden loss of little Brother

    I to have lost my little brother. It was a car accident... I can't get into details because I am already so depressed right now. It has been almost 6 years for me. We were so close, only 22 months apart in age, lifelong friends. He was only 21 and I 23. I have dealt with a lot of different issues since I've lost him. I to have suffered from anxiety since I was younger, but after losing him it got so bad I couldn't even go to a gas station! No logical reasoning behind it, I just had panic attacks in any public situation. I went through meds and counseling. Well not really, I quit the counseling because when you're grieving as intensely as we are, its hard to sit down and listen to a 'professional' tell you how to feel when she's never experienced what I have. Anyways, sleeplessness, sleeping alllll the time, tightness in chest, body aches, depression, anger, hating everyone in the world who wasn't crying 24/7....I've experienced it all. Im not a doctor and I can't say what you are going through, but if everything checks out medically, id have to guess its anxiety and stress. Anxiety can give you physical pain. Also stress causes tension which can cause headaches, muscle aches etc. Sadly I have no advice well nothing no one else has already told you.... I guess I'm just posting because I feel a connection in our loss. Totally different scenarios, but our brothers. People tell me about losing grandparents or distant uncles or a guy they were friends with when they were young etc....But I feel like they just don't get it. Nobody understands the bond siblings have. Especially when you're best friends. And the siblings who are best friends that still have theirs here can't comprehend BC its not something you can truly understand until you go through it. People always hear of things happening to other people and say oH my goodness that's terrible thank god it wasn't my family and may actually for a moment try to imagine if it was, but our human minds cannot begin to imagine anything close to what its really like. I'm rambling. I just want to tell you I understand your pain and I'm so very sorry. Especially knowing Elliot was such a sweet innocent boy and it was such a tragic and senseless act .....you must have terrible anger. I did...I still do....and I have no one to blame. But god? Brings me to my next topic...I tried reading books about heaven and god in the beginning but I got so mad I ended up throwing them across the room. If gods there then why didn't he care about my brother enough to answer our prayers? Yea. Anger. Anyways, I don't know what you believe in, but I'm going to suggest something that's maybe a little strange? Obviously you don't live in america, but here there is a show called long island medium....I don't know if you're familiar with mediums? Anyways I started watching it recently and no kidding, for the first time I found something that brings me a sense of peace. I know David is here with me. I know he's OK. If you watch it you will understand what I mean. I found an interesting book to...I've been reading it, haven't finished yet but its a different medium and she's sharing her knowledge of the afterlife. Its really interesting and brings me peace. Elliot is with you....talk to him...look for signs...they may be the most normal insignificant thing for other people but if you're looking, something will happen and you'll know its him. A song he loves comes on the second you turn your car on, a truck drives by and the company happens to be his name, a butterfly lands on your shoulder....call me crazy but I truly believe its them. Message me if you need to talk. I wish the best for you. P.s. here's a quote I LOVE...its from the corniest movie ever but who cares, its a movie I love "his love is like the wind, I can't see it, but I can feel it" <3
  5. Sudden loss of little Brother

    I to have lost my little brother. It was a car accident... I can't get into details because I am already so depressed right now. It has been almost 6 years for me. We were so close, only 22 months apart in age, lifelong friends. He was only 21 and I 23. I have dealt with a lot of different issues since I've lost him. I to have suffered from anxiety since I was younger, but after losing him it got so bad I couldn't even go to a gas station! No logical reasoning behind it, I just had panic attacks in any public situation. I went through meds and counseling. Well not really, I quit the counseling because when you're grieving as intensely as we are, its hard to sit down and listen to a 'professional' tell you how to feel when she's never experienced what I have. Anyways, sleeplessness, sleeping alllll the time, tightness in chest, body aches, depression, anger, hating everyone in the world who wasn't crying 24/7....I've experienced it all. Im not a doctor and I can't say what you are going through, but if everything checks out medically, id have to guess its anxiety and stress. Anxiety can give you physical pain. Also stress causes tension which can cause headaches, muscle aches etc. Sadly I have no advice well nothing no one else has already told you.... I guess I'm just posting because I feel a connection in our loss. Totally different scenarios, but our brothers. People tell me about losing grandparents or distant uncles or a guy they were friends with when they were young etc....But I feel like they just don't get it. Nobody understands the bond siblings have. Especially when you're best friends. And the siblings who are best friends that still have theirs here can't comprehend BC its not something you can truly understand until you go through it. People always hear of things happening to other people and say oH my goodness that's terrible thank god it wasn't my family and may actually for a moment try to imagine if it was, but our human minds cannot begin to imagine anything close to what its really like. I'm rambling. I just want to tell you I understand your pain and I'm so very sorry. Especially knowing Elliot was such a sweet innocent boy and it was such a tragic and senseless act .....you must have terrible anger. I did...I still do....and I have no one to blame. But god? Brings me to my next topic...I tried reading books about heaven and god in the beginning but I got so mad I ended up throwing them across the room. If gods there then why didn't he care about my brother enough to answer our prayers? Yea. Anger. Anyways, I don't know what you believe in, but I'm going to suggest something that's maybe a little strange? Obviously you don't live in america, but here there is a show called long island medium....I don't know if you're familiar with mediums? Anyways I started watching it recently and no kidding, for the first time I found something that brings me a sense of peace. I know David is here with me. I know he's OK. If you watch it you will understand what I mean. I found an interesting book to...I've been reading it, haven't finished yet but its a different medium and she's sharing her knowledge of the afterlife. Its really interesting and brings me peace. Elliot is with you....talk to him...look for signs...they may be the most normal insignificant thing for other people but if you're looking, something will happen and you'll know its him. A song he loves comes on the second you turn your car on, a truck drives by and the company happens to be his name, a butterfly lands on your shoulder....call me crazy but I truly believe its them. Message me if you need to talk. I wish the best for you. P.s. here's a quote I LOVE...its from the corniest movie ever but who cares, its a movie I love "his love is like the wind, I can't see it, but I can feel it" <3
  6. Question about long-term grief and coping

    I know your brothers anniversary date has passed, but I know it doesnt get any easier and I hope replying can help you in sone way. I know exactly how you feel. I struggle every birthday, anniversary, holiday etc. What helps me is to celebrate my brother. Decorate his grave or a memorial site for him...even if its in your front yard, and do it to the extreme, don't let anyone forget him and for the people who didn't know him, they will now. Post a status on Fb about him, remind everyone to have a moment of silence in his memory, have a memorial gathering with everyone who loves him....have them all write messages on balloons and release them. celebrate his life, his memory and your love for him. Making the loss of my brother as important to the world as it is for me makes me feel good. Never letting him be forgotten, remind people how amazing he is. And the most important thing is don't let anyone make you feel like you shouldn't do something for him or that your methods are 'weird'. You know your connection with him and no one else feels what you feel. No one else will understand exactly why you do the things you do for him but yourself and your brother, and in your grieving process, you two are the only two who matter. Hope this helps.
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