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About Karen.Lyn

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  • Birthday November 1

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    Marysville, WA
  • Interests
    at this time, not many. I read, ride my motorcycle as much as possible, fiddle with my camera and do lots of time killing puzzles.
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  • Angel Date
    July 17th, 2013


  • Occupation
    "Fix It Technician" for Radio Shack part time
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    photography, reading, motorcycles, glass fusing/slumping, ceramics.
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  1. Advice

    First I would try to find a therapist who deals with grief issues. You may have to shop around to find the right fit. Therapy helped me a lot. Second I would write my concerns in a letter and go visit my father and ask him to let you read the letter so you can get it all out. Make sure it doesn't place blame on either of you so at the end you can discuss it with both of you on the same level. ymmv Best wishes
  2. I lost my husband to cancer just over a year ago and I doubt I can offer you any words of wisdom that will make you feel better. An antidepressant may be a good short term solution for you. Or if you just want to talk to someone who knows how it feels, pm me and I'll give you my number. Karen
  3. I forgot my anniversary

    I'm so sorry SJ! I wish there were something I could do to help. I'm not even sure what I'm going to do for myself. My first anniversary without Andy is coming up in June. (((hugs))) Karen
  4. Stopped by to say Hello!

    Hi! It's nice to hear you're doing well. I miss seeing you in the chat room but I'm finding I don't make it in any where near as much as I was. The lawsuit still hasn't been resolved. My next court date is the 29th. Hopefully the judge will make some kind of decision one way or the other. I'm not sure if it was a good idea, but I've decided to try dating. My first was last week and I probably won't make a second with that person. Didn't click at all. Getting busier in my volunteer work. I still have a horrible time staying home alone. I try to work but I can't help but think of Andy and end up not getting anything done. I have to keep trying though. I keep trying to fill up my calendar so I don't have any empty days. I'm going to have to stop doing that. I need to work in the yard and bad. Anyway, it's nice to hear from you. Take care Karen
  5. maybe some Help??

    I finally got in this morning. It feels like coming home. I hope your access is fixed as well. (((Hugs))) Karen
  6. Good Bye Letter

    I'm so sorry for your loss. My husband died of complications related to his cancer therapy last July. I think I was numb for the first month, then I fell apart. I started coming to this site and visiting in the chat room. Everyone is so wonderful here. As soon as I felt a little better I started out by doing as many things as I could to keep busy. I tried things we had never done as a couple so I wouldn't be reminded. I told the story of his passing to anyone who would listen and now it's been nine months and I can get through it without breaking down completely. It still hurts but life still goes on. Get counseling if you can. It helps some people. Visit the chat room. You can just watch the banter or you can talk about anything you want and everyone will listen. You're not alone. Karen
  7. Haven't been on here for awhile

    Hi Betsy, It's nice to see you again. I'm sorry to hear you're feeling down. I'm not sure if there's anything I can do to help. For me, leaving the radio on helps with the quiet in the house. It's not a perfect solution but it helps. I forced myself to go out and join different groups until I found the right fit. Right now I do tai chi and yoga twice a week and volunteer with "The Road Back to Life", a non-profit foundation aimed at helping people with kidney failure. Along with that, I go out dancing with a friend of mine nearly every Friday night. Right now, I feel the best I can hope for is for the ache to fade to bearable over time.
  8. Question

    I think it might be an individual thing. I forget that Andy is gone sometimes and other times I remember stuff from years back that I had thought I'd forgotten. And even when I'm crying, he can still make me smile.
  9. hi kl ! havent been on in a long while. stopping to say hope all is well! take care!

  10. Karen Dehn

    For now, pics of Andy.
  11. Progress

    I'm so glad you're getting a break. It will happen more often later. I'm on a plateau myself but I don't know if it's normal or because my mind has been on the law suit. I have court on Friday and I hope that's the last of it.
  12. Control?

    I think you should take your comfort where you can find it. I think it's less crazy than me weaving in and out of traffic on my motorcycle.
  13. Don't Leave me Behind

    I can tell you it will get better because I'm 6 months ahead of you. I've smiled and laughed. And I've felt guilty for doing it. Then learned to leave the guilt behind. There are lots of hills and valleys. I'm on the flat today hoping to find a hill with a nice view while trying to avoid traveling through the valleys because they're dark and when I go in I don't know if I can find the way out. I know those dark places and I want to help if I can. Call me, any time.
  14. How can I help you or be of service?

    The most frustrating part of my husband's funeral was that his side of the family wanted a bunch of extra stuff but have never offered up a cent to help out. I don't think you can program for that K
  15. I think you're doing well in your attempts to help. I believe you need to talk to him. Admit to him you don't know what to do to help but tell him you will be there for him. Only time will ease the pain and trauma of seeing his grandmother's face. I still see my husband's face as he's lying in the casket. The mortician did a horrible job preparing him for the viewing. That is the one thing I wish I could forget. Try not to take any of it personally. Sometimes we do things in our grief that can be hurtful. I wish I could be of more help, Karen