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      HI everybody, I'm sure by now you have all figured out we have some changes on the forums. These were due to the security of the forums; we try very hard to keep spam off the forums but it occasionally get through and causes problems. The new updates should help with this kind of problem.  I'm sure you've browsed and figured out that the posts are listed in order of the very first post to the latest. For Loss of An Adult Child, this means there are more than 2,000 pages to go through. The easiest way I've found is to click on the double arrows by the page numbers, get to the last page (it usually goes right to it for me) and then scroll down the page. You should be able to read all the posts for the day.  We are trying to see if there is a way to reverse the order. I'll let you know what we find out, and I will post more suggestions and tips as we go forward.  I want to apologize for any inconveniences and stress this update has caused. We value each and every member, and we will work to make this transition as seamless as possible.  Sincerely, ModKonnie
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      Posting to forum should be fixed   04/18/2016

      Hello! I sincerely apologize for the recent issues with posting, a number of people reported being unable to post and receiving a white page instead of anything else. I spoke with a member of the community today and we were able to figure it out and find a fix for this. Posting should now be fixed, if you continue to have trouble please let us know!

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  1. Here is a link to the latest Rebecca Carney post for those interested: https://onewomansperspective02.wordpress.com/2016/07/17/trust-once-broken-is-not-easily-mended/ She lost her son, Jason in 2002 by a drunk driver. Both her son and his passenger were killed.
  2. This is for you Gretchen..I held this visual in my mind often, for myself…I don’t know exactly why…perhaps it will help you.
  3. Georgina, so good to see your James’s face on the forum. Hope you are feeling a little bit better. Becky, the new kitty is so pretty. My daughter has a cat that adopted us. She had her spayed and now it looks like she might have to be an indoor kitty. We even have a family of raccoons trying to adopt us – a mama and 2 babies – but there are limits! Sherry, thanks for the reply on what I posted to Mary Anne. I know many of us have turned to pets that our loved ones owned to help us through. My sister and fiancé had a cat named Brownie too. He lived until about 19 years old. Thanks for your faithful postings. Francesca, how good it is to read that you have found a niche in the church you are attending. And that there is another mom there who you can share with who will understand. Having someone to talk with can be so helpful if you can find it. Dianne, I understand why you stayed in the house during that going away party. I had 3 other invites to other milestones from good friends, I just could not bear the thought of attending any functions like that. I know I would have went into melt down mode. So I just sent a card with money. Even now, I will have to pick and choose functions and there may be a limit to what I can tolerate. Donnah, it is hard to imagine winter right now – do you get snow at all where you are at? Or is it just rain and dampness? Christle, I am sorry for the loss of your dear son, Jon Thomas. It sounds like even though things could be tough between you both, there was a love that he could feel as evidenced by his last posting to you. How we treasure those last conversations – unbeknown to us that they were the last. Share as you like, there are many active people here…and maybe there will be some things that you can find here to make the journey a little less lonely. KATE, I know you are out there! Saying Hi to you and Ross. =) Dee, thanks for continuing to share the journey with us all. Sherry Too! Susan, thanks for all the postings. I know your date is coming up…I look at John David’s pic on my shelf upstairs with Jesse. Christina has your star fish on her dresser. She just changed rooms and it went with her.
  4. Yesterday was so intense in many ways. It was the first time I went to an event for a friend's daughter that was a life milestone. In this case it was her daughter's wedding shower. I knew it would be emotional. I would not have been able to attend this type of event before this. As I was driving in, I looked up in the sky, and I noticed some clouds taking shape. It looked like a face, actually like Jesse's face...at that moment I had a strong impression of his presence before noticing this cloud formation. The actual event went well. I sat next to a mom, Jayne, who also lost her son about 2 years before Jesse. Her connection to me: The day Jesse passed, she insisted on calling me, even through the shock we were going though to share a special happening that she experienced with her son when he passed. She felt it would give me hope in the days ahead. Back to the event: My daughter who was working was in between shifts so she was able to quickly swing by and join in as well. I think it was good for her. There were many people there she knew too. After this, I felt the strong need to go to Jesse's resting place. I picked up more flowers to replace those that have faded. I keep a large ceramic pot out there filled with loose dirt, and just replace the flowers as they fade off. Little mementos are placed in it as well. I noticed when swapping out the flowers, that someone had placed their own in with mine. Whoever did this, has no idea how much that touched my heart -- that someone remembered Jesse. I think of all the small kind gestures that can make the difference in someone's world. I know, seeing those flowers there, did that for me.
  5. Mary Ann, saw this poem today and thought of your Steve's kindness to animals. My son, Jesse loved his cat Betty. Animals play a special role to us I believe. Shortly before my son passed, the fall before, both of our beloved dogs of many years suddenly passed. After Jesse passed his cat became very ill, so I sent her on ahead. Here is the poem: Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind. They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster. You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together.... Author unknown...
  6. Wendy, the first birthday without your son is so very tough...I basically hid away that day. I still don't celebrate my birthday, just not in me to I guess. Sending gentle thoughts. Susan, thanks for sharing the cloud pics. The one almost looks like there is an angel in it. Becky, I too send prayers on Gretchen's behalf. Georgina, how are you feeling, I know there were some health struggles going on. Let us know. Dee, thanks for sharing the story of going to your girl's resting place. The last time I went to Jesse I too met a family. They wanted to know how to care of a gravesite stone. I never imagined myself as "being an expert" in that field... I am going to share a link to a woman's blog I often read. She is also further out in the grief journey. In this particular post, she mentions the secondary losses that many endure. Here is the link https://onewomansperspective02.wordpress.com/2016/07/10/the-high-cost-of-losing-a-child/ Sherry, thinking of you today also. The finches are coming in full force by us as we have a bunch of thistles that are seeding out. Not good to have thistles but the birds love the seeds.
  7. Thanks to all who shared pics. Donnah, what a beautiful tribute to your son, Dylan. The one tattoo is just amazing how detailed it is. The getaway to Australia sounds like it was what you all needed to gain some strength back, sometimes a little distance helps. At least it does me. Susan, thanks for the writings you post. Becky, the poem was very touching, thanks for posting it today, I appreciated the words you wrote. Thinking of everyone. Real rest can be elusive these days and nights but wishing all a peaceful night.
  8. Thinking of you Dee. Sending gentle thoughts. Erica, from 1998
  9. Thinking of you today Colleen and of your dear Brian.
  10. I am having a tough time too this weekend...just want it to be over...
  11. Gretchen, there are those days...when the grief attacks just hit full force....hugs. Here is one of the videos for Forest I found. Forest, Forest, Forest, we remember you... ....may gentleness be in your day Gretchen.
  12. This is a very nice photo of you both.