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Jesse David & Taylor Mom

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  1. Loss of an Adult Child

    Lesley, Sending gentle thoughts for your friends, and the death of Tommy's friend. Take care of yourself too, as these kind of events can send one into a spiral. Sherry, I think the yellow roses were fitting...thank you for mentioning Taylor...I am sure they grow up in heaven and they will meet us to help guide us as we too make our transition. Dee, your son might try taking Curamin and also Bromalein, (spelling might be off) I took both for my back, and it aids in the healing process. Back surgery takes a long time to heal from.
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    Dee, it looks like it is going to be a process yet through the legal system. She has to visit the mom's, check on Benton's school, etc. The woman doing this seems like she is too overloaded which doesn't help. I am hoping maybe 3 more months. But the court system moves at a snail's pace. How is your son's back by the way? Also your hubby? I remember they both had some surgery awhile ago now.
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    I saw this in one of my Facebook groups. It is an Near Death Conference in Texas that is going to have Dr. Jeffrey Long as a speaker. He is a lead researcher on near death experiences and consciousness surviving after this life. Also, John Burke who just authored a new book on NDEs is supposed to speak as well. Here is a link, it is to the Facebook page on this https://www.facebook.com/events/135600520495495
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    Mary Ann, thinking of you today and sending you gentle thoughts for Steve. I am going to share a portion of a dream I had with my son within the last couple weeks. In it, he held a small diary-like book. As I looked closer at the inside cover this is what is said, "I love you now, I loved you then, and I will love you forever." Peace.
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    Sherry, sending gentle thoughts your way on this angel day of your baby girl, Lisa.
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    Ted, is the last picture of your daughter?
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    Jean, I am so sorry for the loss of your dear son, Wesley. Please share as you are ready. Hugs. All, the home visit for my grandson was Sat., and we think all went well. Benton (and Jennifer) are my youngest adopted son's children (Thomas). Thomas still lives with us as he can be on-the-road at times as a welder. Benton was born in the February after Jesse transitioned. He is a rainbow grandchild (an unborn child that is coming at the same time of a recent passing). The posting of Margerate Thatcher's quote was well said, and there are some battles that might be fought more than once for sure, the most important ones are. Lesley, thank you for your words of support! T Bear, I am sorry that you are hurting so much. Your Nick is a handsome man. I remember your postings as also Wade's. Sending gentle thoughts. Please share as I know it is difficult to find a safe place -- a soft place to land. Somersky, thank you for sharing the lovely pics of the basilica. I also have used the tradition of lighting prayer candles, somehow it makes me feel more connected to the Divine side of life. My mom, (who also had 2 child losses) does the same. Susan, the note that your John David wrote was so touching and thoughtful. What a beautiful treasure. Happy Belated Birthday Dear One. Kate, I had to smile at the attention that Ross and Jamie must have received for being red-heads. Benton has a bit of red tinged hair too. We always have to watch how much sun he gets. I thought the fruit cake sounded good, I have heard there is a big difference between the store bought ones and the home made ones. Dee, hope your cold is getting better. I have heard a lot of coughing lately...it is going around for sure. Try some freshly grated ginger with freshed squeezed lime. Just put the ginger gratings in a garlic press for the juice. The more ginger juice you add, the hotter it is, and great for clearing sinuses. Tina, sending you gentle thoughts. There are times when the realness of this reality is too hard. Hugs. Dianne, thinking of you as your angel date for Michael is nearing. Luanne, I am not sure if I am ready for winter, but it is here! I have to buy a set of tires myself. Thinking of everyone tonight. Prayers for rest and strength. .
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    Lesley, thanks for sharing the picture of your son. I always like to see our kid's pics on here. Thanks Dee and Georgina for the prayers... Thinking of your Georgina as you near your son's birthday this month. Kate, I read your story about the careless driver...glad you and Ross are okay. You might have answered this, but how far out do you live from Gimli? Is it a bit of a drive? Becky, Good to see your post, especially of your new bird. My sister is really into birds, and has raised and rescued many. Parrots are especially smart, she has one I always like to see. You can actually take them out with you, she had a carrier for doing that. Devianz, your pottery pieces are beautiful, do you sell them? My daughter used to work for a lady who would go to craft shows and sell her pottery pieces. Dee, sorry to hear you are ill, you might try some elderberry tea for yourself, it is soothing and a great home remedy. Dianne, I agree that keeping busy can help from sinking too low. I am trying to manage my time and try to arrange my morning hours in a way that I am focused on something. Mornings are best for me to just hit the floor running... Sherry, how are things with you? Susan, thanks for sharing the pic of your smiling grandson! He is a cutie.
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    Thank you Susan. (And all!)
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    Sorry for such short snippets, we are are waiting on the home study for my grandson, Benton. I am just about over the edge on that not knowing if we will have him or not. Our home study is on Saturday, 11/11. I did not want to dump this here but I am asking all here to pray, that he gets assigned to us. Thank you.
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    All, I have been reading along. This group has been so special to me, I want to say thanks to all here. It actually snowed here yesterday! Enough for a snowman. Tina, we all have had those moments when the hard reality or yet another part of this new reality hits us full in the face, bringing us to our knees. Somehow we are moved forward day by day, propelled by the force of time. There are no words to adequately describe some of the moments and feelings one goes through....however with the gentle caring of kindred spirits we continue to walk the path together... Sending gentle thoughts to all. I thought it was important to post the NDE story here...It was just amazing, and my sister and I still have no idea what prompted the woman to just randomly tell my sister what she did...but it was meant to be.
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    Dee, sending prayers for your lawyers family with the loss of their son. Susan, gentle thoughts and prayers for your cousin.
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    My heart is just pounding from that.....
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    My sister Valarie was just at the Catholic store at the Holy Hill Basilica Wi. I had sent her there to pick up some rosaries for both of the grandchildren. She was at the shop and was not certain which to buy so she called me for advice. I then had her turn over her phone over to the salesperson there so I could speak directly with them about what I wanted to buy. As I was talking with the salesperson on the phone, a woman approached my sister who was still looking through the rosaries. This lady started to talk to my sister about the near death experience she had. This person had a code blue and was floating above her body. While she was above her body watching everyone work on her, her deceased son came to her. This conversation was totally unsought, and my sister does not know this person. We don't even know what prompted the conversation. Maybe divine intervention. My sister just called me now to tell me what happened. It is also a Wednesday, which is the day of the week Jesse left. It is always hard, this day. Angels are at work.
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    Leah, Sending gentle thoughts today as you are missing your JaBoa.
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    All, I have been reading along. Susan, loved the pic of your grandson...great photo. Do you know of the documentary on grounding from Amazon that you could post? If not, is all okay. Dee, the ice skate practice sure brought back memories. There are not too many indoor ice rinks left. On Christmas, I know for many years that my mom did not celebrate Christmas after my sister passed. We just did a small gift exchange and a dinner. We were okay with that. With myself, it has been pretty much the same, a nice dinner and a gift exchange. I doubt I will ever do a tree again. However, as with many things in the grief journey, whatever works the best for you and your family is what you should do. I have a friend who is a Messianic Christian, so she does not celebrate any of the traditional American holidays but follows the Jewish Holidays instead. We just recently joined them in a Sukkot festival. It was enjoyable and was a learning experience. It is a holiday celebrated in the fall by traditional jews. One thing a person does is to build a tent or sukkot outside. This is to represent how the Jewish nation traveled through the desert before reaching the promised land. I have posted an example below of a tent or sukkot that is used. (I wish I had the picture of my friend's sukkot, she was able to sleep in hers as she constructed it with durable materials). Her and I had a spiritual discussion of meaning of sukkot . I believe it eludes to our sojourn upon the earth until we leave for our true home, taken from the bible, "For we know that if the earthly tabernacle we live in is destroyed, we have a building from God, an eternal house in heaven, not built by human hands."... That was the verse that Obama used when he delivered the address to the Connecticut school shooting to bring comfort to the parents there. Somehow it seemed fitting to take part in this Jewish holiday this year. We have also joined our other friends in celebration of Hannukuh, which is in December. Something to consider as alternatives. Dianne, thinking of you as you near Michael's Angel date later this month.
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    Wishing everyone a restful night. I am still working two jobs and one job bumped up their work hours. We are still working through the court system trying to gain full placement of my grandson. We have a home study coming up soon. However, I am so fatigued lately. But I am taking vitamins and other supplements and doing health smoothies. My daughter has decided to attend a local catholic church. One of her elderly co-workers who recently passed away belonged to it and he was a super nice person. So far, it has been good for her For me, I enjoy the artistry found in their churches and cathedrals. I feel a connection to Mother Mary and some of the artworks portrayed about her mourning. My first time there, a full size Mary and Jesus Pieta was in the front of the sanctuary. Art can speak volumes where words fail. My previous faith was blown away.....in some ways it helps to see these artistic pieces and know that a mother's suffering is okay. My sister-in-law is facing losing her husband eventually to COPD. This has been a process of re-discovering her own identity. One thing she mentioned to me is the practice of grounding or also known as earthing. I know about it because of my mom. There are different forms of it, but the basics is to make sure your bare feet touch the earth. Good to do on a warm sunny day. Here is a link to it for any interested. https://draxe.com/earthing/ Sending gentle thoughts to all.
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    CWT143, I am so sorry for the loss of your precious son. I thought what you posted really spoke to my heart. ..."I told my mother the other day that now I feel as if I am a member of a seceret society. Seceret because you cannot tell by looking who else has been through this and seceret because the pain is so indescribable that only those who have expierenced it can even begin to understand what another is feeling who now walks this path. Here we are all one."
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    Thanks Dee for the poetry. I think you might find this pic of a Labyrinth relaxing.
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    I thought I would share from Dr. Mary Neals newest book on her thoughts on grief. She lost her son Willie in 2009. Just click the link below and it will open to an image. She shares about what it was like for them, and the myth of moving on. http://forums.grieving.com/index.php?/gallery/image/2568-drmarynealongriefpng/&imageSize=large
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    Thank all for remembering Jesses Angel day....it means so much to me. I am sorry for the new ones who have come, but this is a loving place, with compassionate parents. It has helped me so many times when I had no where to turn. Thinking of everyone here. Laurie Also, to Tina, we homeschooled for many years, I am so glad we did. I have known of many who graduated from it, and it taught them to be self-starters in their learning throughout life.
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    Colleen, sending you well wishes on this trip to Hawaii...and on your special remembrance for your Brian. Pam, remembering your Andy on his birthday in Heaven.