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Jesse David & Taylor Mom

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    Jesse David 8/2/84-10/10/12; Taylor James 6/25/87-8/87

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    I thought I would share from Dr. Mary Neals newest book on her thoughts on grief. She lost her son Willie in 2009. Just click the link below and it will open to an image. She shares about what it was like for them, and the myth of moving on. http://forums.grieving.com/index.php?/gallery/image/2568-drmarynealongriefpng/&imageSize=large
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    Thank all for remembering Jesses Angel day....it means so much to me. I am sorry for the new ones who have come, but this is a loving place, with compassionate parents. It has helped me so many times when I had no where to turn. Thinking of everyone here. Laurie Also, to Tina, we homeschooled for many years, I am so glad we did. I have known of many who graduated from it, and it taught them to be self-starters in their learning throughout life.
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    Colleen, sending you well wishes on this trip to Hawaii...and on your special remembrance for your Brian. Pam, remembering your Andy on his birthday in Heaven.
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    Dianne, Lesley, Leah, Kate, Dee, Susan, Lou Anne, thank you for the wishes for Jesse's Angel Date. It was quiet this one, a little less intense than the last angel dates. We put out 3 dozen roses on his site. Thank you for the remembrances. Below is one of the pics a mom made for me last year.
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    Prayers for your brother Sandy as he faces his transition... Georgina, sending prayers of healing for you...that is a huge kidney stone...may you get some rest and care. Kate, and Lou Ann, I just had so much of this kind of garbage said, I really am to the point of just telling anyone who ventures into that area to take a flying leap. Susan, how are things down by you? Been thinking about you. Leah, sending healing prayers for you as well.
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    Thanks to all who like Jared's Lion Pic...I thought it was one of the best ones I had seen. Dee, hope your grandson is okay...maybe it is just a bad sprain.
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    Lou Ann, NO YOU ARE NOT A LOSER. I also live in a small gossipy town. I left my job after Jesse died. Way too many memories. Somedays I am good and other days I struggle, with the insanity that is my life. However, I have not ever been much a follower. Don't care either. People often do very stupid things in crowds. (or to please others). And I would say to anyone looking down on bereaved parents, and the complications that can arise --- here is a good swift kick in the Arse for them. I do get into some awful ornery fits about the idiotic responses from people, don't have much tolerance for that kind of stuff anymore. Especially when they start opening their mouth as to what they would do if they were you or get this plan up about how you should be responding or doing. Not that they themselves would ever do anything that is flying out of their mouth, -- I have seen some of these same individuals fly into fits about other stuff that is the equivalent to "I think I have a hangnail"...and other such nonsense. Now, we -- my husband and myself -- have personally had to confront some very idiotic people since Jesse's death about gossip that ensued, and fought for 3 years in court, just recently won the appeal...at five years out. the most recent idiotic happened about 1.5 months ago...a church couple who "befriended" my daughter who turned out to be worse than the comforters of Job. My husband confronted the man...said that was enough. Bereaved moms and dads are the bravest people I know...we have to face our deepest fear, pull the oars even when we have no more to give, and those here, in their deepest hurt reach out to others, giving words of kindness and healing. Most of those people aren't worth thinking about, best to spend your time on what can be done, For me, it means following a spiritual path, family, and giving Honor to my son in his passing. Nothing else really matters to me. However, I have learned to be quiet about my mourning just to make it easier to be around me. That is why I only tolerate short time spans with others now, except for my family. My mom, and sister have some spiritual giftings, so we are more on the same page on understanding that life continues on. It may be passed down from my mom's grandmothers- don't know. I need time in spiritual spaces, to quiet myself. That is why I often visit Holy Hill which was known to be a healing site. Finding our path, with all its obstacles, and enduring. Loving our children gone ahead, and lighting another's torch when it is about to go out....no one can truly know how hard this is until they themselves walk it.
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    Lou Anne, what you wrote reminds me of Joan Didion's Book, The Year of Magical Thinking. Although it is about her husband's loss, I found some of her quotes to fit. Here is one. “Grief turns out to be a place none of us know until we reach it. We anticipate (we know) that someone close to us could die, but we do not look beyond the few days or weeks that immediately follow such an imagined death. We misconstrue the nature of even those few days or weeks. We might expect if the death is sudden to feel shock. We do not expect this shock to be obliterative, dislocating to both body and mind. We might expect that we will be prostrate, inconsolable, crazy with loss. We do not expect to be literally crazy, cool customers who believe that their husband is about to return and need his shoes. "...
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    Becky, sending gentle thoughts to you for Jared...if it had not been for your sharing on this forum, our court case would have not had gone well. Hugs to you. From one of the JDs Laurie
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    And... Thank you all for being here, I pray for restful nights, and for a gentle touch to all here. I have been working so many hours, so haven't had a chance to get to post much and with Jesse's angel date around the corner...I have been running on empty it seems..
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    Georgina, I am sorry for the loss of your dear mother. I have been saying prayers on your behalf lately, just has been on my heart. I agree with what the others said, that we all have greeters that meet us, those who loved us and more. I believe in the communion of souls -- and so many have posted signs that are undeniable. I send gentle and loving thoughts to you and your family at this time.
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