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    My Mother To Suicide
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    12/1/12

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  1. He's just gone!!!

    Dear Jaxx, My heart breaks for you. I so remember the extreme pain. It is still so new and raw for you. Talking about him and the tragedy will help you so much. I went to some counseling but the thing that helped most was my amazing co-workers. I know i talked their ears off and cried and cried for at least a year. They were patient and understanding and I forever grateful. It has been 5 years this month since my Mother shot herself and my daughter and I found her so that is an image forever in my head. Yes, the confusion and pain does lessen and a new norm, a new routine will develop. As I said previously, be so good to yourself. Your nerves and emotions have been shattered into a million pieces and they are now slowly trying to heal. Don't hesitate to ask for help. Like I said he is safe and secure now with God and would want you to carry on a enjoy this life he was incapable of being happy in. My thoughts and prayers are with you and I have faith in you. You are a survivor and have already proven how strong you are and have had to be. It will get better, please hold on.
  2. Young widow

    I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. This tragedy is still so very raw for you. Your life has been changed forever and you will go through so many emotions. You will have a million unanswered questions and you will feel tremendous guilt. A recovery process from suicide is different from natural or accidental. They chose to leave us so therefore we also feel abandoned or unworthy. Know that it had nothing to do with you. He was tired and did not have the coping mechanism to carry on. Be good to yourself. Cry alot, sleep alot, pray alot. Seek counseling, a support group, join a gym, exercise, and talk about it until you are tired of talking about it. Your nerves and emotions have been shattered into a million pieces. Your life will never be the same. Give yourself time to begin to heal. It has been 5 years this month that my mother shot herself and left notes for us. My daughter and I found her so that is an image forever in my brain. I cried uncontrollably everyday for a solid year. It took me a good 3 years before I stopped crying everyday. I promise you as time goes by the extreme pain will lessen. Concentrate on you and your children. Your husband is now well, safe and secure with our Heavenly Father. He would want you to heal and go forward to find happiness. You are a survivor and have had to be stronger than you ever thought possible. Unfortunately this is one more challenge in life but I have faith in your ability to get through this nightmare. May God wrap his arms around you and your family and give you comfort, peace and strength. Sincerely, Sherry.
  3. He's just gone!!!

    I am so very sorry for your loss. It truly is a nightmare and your life has changed forever. You will go through so many ups and downs but as the years ago by you do find a new norm and the intense pain will lessen. Be gentle and good to yourself. Don't blame yourself or feel guilt. He was a troubled soul and did not have the strength to cope with life or his emotions. Now, he is safe and secure with our Heavenly Father. Be sure to take as much time as you need to cry, sleep and pray.Seek out counseling, a support group, join a gym and exercise and talk about it with whoever will listen until you are sick of talking about it. It will take a long time to begin to heal but as I said things will get tolerable again. Have faith in your strength and know that we are here if you need to talk. My thoughts and prayers are with you. May God wrap his arms around you and give you comfort, peace and strength. Sincerely, Sherry.
  4. loneliness

    I am just now seeing your post. I am so very sorry for your loss. The loss of a loved one, especially to suicide, alters one's life in a way we never imagined. The grief does become unbearable at times but you must be a true survivor. It's hard to understand why we must go through the things we do but you must always have hope. Continue your journey. Become active in a hobby or organization you may have a passion for. Write a journal, take art lessons, join a gym or dare to fall in love again. It's your story and only yours. Write the next chapter. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Sincerely, Sherry.
  5. Lost my mom

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your Mom. My heart breaks for you and what you are, and about, to go through. It is probably the most difficult thing you will ever go through. Almost three years ago my Mom shot herself and I found her. She left notes and the clothes laid out she wanted to be buried in. So, I still see those images everyday. We had no idea she was contemplating this. I cried uncontrollably everyday for a solid year. The amount of guilt one feels is unbearable. Your life has changed forever and your outlook on life has changed and never be the same. Please realize that it wasn't your fault she chose this tragic outcome. Your nerves have been shattered into a million pieces and it will take a very long time to begin to heal. Get counseling, talk about it until you are exhausted talking about it. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Pray, cry, get out of the house, exercise, join a gym or volunteer. Talk to others that have lost a loved one to suicide. The pain never completely goes away but it is true as time goes by the pain will lessen and you will be able to cope and create a new norm. May God wrap his arms around you and give you comfort, peace and strength. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Sincerely, Sherry.
  6. Mayra, I am so sorry for your loss and the pain you are experiencing from this nightmare. Unless someone has experienced this they do not have a clue what you are going through. One does feel tremendous guilt but realize he had issues way before he met you. Millions of people have arguments or disagreements but do not resort to ending their life. He had coping issues which was something within himself and had nothing to do with you. He would have more than likely done the same thing with whoever he was with when times got hard. Please do not blame yourself. Pray, cry, get counseling, keep busy, exercise, talk about it until you are exhausted talking about it, be kind to yourself, give yourself lots of time to begin to heal and to find a new norm. Your life will never be the same, your outlook on life will be different and you will have trouble for a while focusing. But it is true that in time the pain you feel will begin to lessen. May God wrap his arms around you and give you comfort, peace and strength. My thoughts and prayers are with you and write anytime. Sincerely, Sherry.
  7. lost and broken

    Dear Kmarie, I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. Our trials in life are so difficult and my heart hurts for you. You are experiencing a true nightmare. You were created and for a purpose in life long before you met your husband. I know you miss him terribly and you have a million questions and hundreds of emotions you are dealing with but I promise it will become more bearable as time goes on. Your journey is not complete. Your precious children need you and they will be a great comfort to you. Continue your counseling, cry, pray, talk about it until you are exhausted talking about it. Get some help with the children so you can get some rest and sleep. Your emotions have been shattered into a million pieces, like a glass vase, a will never quite good back the same. You will have to create a new norm and new routines. As a Mother of 4 children, you must be a strong woman so I have faith in you. You can do it. Sadly, it is through pain that we grow. Beautiful swords are made out of fire and foraging, lovely diamonds created through pressure, cutting and polishing. You Kmarie are a diamond in the rough and I know you being polished into a compassionate survivor. You are a bright star and example for your children that while life is hard and unkind sometimes, it goes on and we have to make the best of it I hope you can read some of my comments on other's posts. May God wrap his arms around you and your family and give you comfort, peace and strength. I will be praying for you. Sincerely, Sherry.
  8. How to go on?

    No I don't think you ever stop but it will get tolerable and you will create a new norm, a new routine. Yes there are so many arrangements to be made. You are not erasing him just closing out this chapter in his unending story. I'm sure they never even realized what we will be left with. Once again, my heart is hurting for you. Hold on and be strong. You have your journeys to complete. I have faith in you. God bless you and your family. Sherry.
  9. How to go on?

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your son. Your lives have been turned upside down and will never be the same. I lost my Mother to suicide and I know there are no words to comfort you. I can only imagine losing a child, I am so sorry. My Mom shot herself and my daughter and I found her. She was the dearest, sweetest person you would ever meet. Never in a million years did I think that she would have done that. I never saw any signs. You cannot eat, you are sick at your stomach, you cannot focus, you cannot sleep, you feel tremendous guilt, you have a million questions and you cannot stop crying.You will go through so many emotions like a roller coaster. I cried so hard everyday for a solid year. It has been 3 1/2 years since Mom passed and I still think of her everyday and what we saw. The things that helped me was crying, praying, talking to a counselor or friends until you are tired of talking about it, and please know that it wasn't anything you did to cause this. I have a theory that the problem lies in their coping mechanism. Whether depression, drug or alcohol related, medication related, whatever, I think super sensitive people may have issues coping and after a while, they get very tired and weary of their struggles and inner thoughts. They don't think things will get better and usually things will get better but they go through their inner downward spiral again and again until they can't cope. Unless one has experienced surviving the loss of a loved one most people do not understand the intensity of this nightmare. You will never be the same. You look at life differently, your priorities are different and you have less tolerance for drama and bull crap. Life becomes so precious. I know you do not realize it now but time does help. He has completed his short mission here on earth and gone on to his next journey. He is still watching over you and waiting until you see each other again. You must continue your journeys as hard as that may be. Look how strong you have had to be. Look at the compassion you now have for those that are also experiencing this pain. Unfortunately it is through pain that we grow and build character. If you are angry at God, don't be, maybe he answered your son's prayers instead of yours. Your son is now safe and secure in loving arms. I don't think they realize how it would affect us, but I don't think he would want you to be sad. He would want you to laugh again, smile again and dream again. It is still such fresh, raw pain for you and it will take a long, long time before you start to heal. Be kind to yourself, go to your happy place whether in your mind or a vacation. Give yourself as much time as you need to begin to heal. I am so, so sorry you have had to experience this. I never imagined I would have to deal with this issue or pain. Hold on to each other and know it wasn't your fault. May God wrap his arms around you and give you comfort, peace and strength. My prayers will be with you. Sincerely, Sherry.
  10. Destiny

    SerenaMae, I am so sorry for the loss of your sister. Bless your hearts. It sounds like you both had a horrible life and my heart goes out to you. First of of all, please do not feel guilty. It was not your choice it was hers. She was tired. Tired of battling life and her demons. She could no longer cope and it isn't your burden to bare. Being left behind from a loved one's suicide is a nightmare. Unless one has experienced it themselves one cannot fathom the deep range of emotions one goes through. It has changed your life forever and will never be the same. It will take a long, long time to begin to heal. Cry, pray, keep busy, exercise, reach out to others in pain, get counseling, talk about it, talk about it and talk about. It will be hard to carry on as normal for a long time. You will have to find a new norm in life. Be kind to yourself and it's okay to escape to your happy place often. She is now with our Heavenly Father safe and secure. She can rest now. She will be with you and watching over you. I am so sorry for the pain you will have to go through but you can do it. We are survivors and stronger than you ever imaged. You will be more compassionate and hold life more dear and precious than before. May God wrap his arms around you and give you comfort, peace and strength. Please feel free to write anytime. Sincerely, Sherry.
  11. I am so sorry for your loss. Us, those left behind, do feel tremendous guilt. So many unanswered questions and a feeling of abandonment. Please realize that it was not your fault. Millions of people have problems and issues but do not chose to end their lives. I feel that they lack a coping ability. Also as you well know alcohol is a depressant which makes things worse. We have gone through a nightmare that those that have never experienced this tragedy will never understand. Our lives have been changed forever and life will never be the same. Concentrate on your daughter and being good to yourself. May God bless you and your daughter, give you comfort, peace and strength. Sincerely, Sherry.
  12. Just checking in to see how you are doing? Praying for comfort and strength for you.
  13. Mother committed suicide

    I am wishing you a speedy recovery. I know you do miss your Mom and you are right we never stop missing them. This afternoon I was wishing so much I could see my Mom and give her a big hug. It is still such a fresh wound for you. You have been through so much. Even though they left us behind, for reasons we are not sure why, I am confident that they are watching over us, they will help us and they will show themselves to us in nature, sounds, scents, intuition and many, many ways. I continue to pray that God gives you comfort and strength. You are a survivor and remember to still be kind to yourself. Hugs, Sherry.
  14. Mother committed suicide

    TaraLynn, praying you are continuing to heal. Wishing you peace and blessings this Easter.
  15. Tam, I am so sorry for the loss of your Mother. 4 years ago, my Mother also shot herself during the holidays, in between Thanksgiving and Christmas, and my daughter and I found her. An image ingrained in my brain forever. Never in a million years did I think my Mother would do that. So, I understand the journey you have been through. As you know, our lives will never be the same. We have had to find a new norm and we will probably never truly trust another human being. You have been through a lot. Even though your relationship with your Mom was strained, you still loved her and any of her things left behind materially was and is precious to you. When that person robbed your home, it was like they were taking away a piece of what little you have left of your Mom. It also has shaken your faith in people once again because someone has betrayed you and hurt you. Plus, it is one more hurt in life and you feel like you just can't take anymore pain. You will always be sensitive but you have been through the hardest part and proven you are a survivor. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about my Mom or what happened. But you become somewhat more at peace. Continue to pray and talk about it. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Sincerely, Sherry.
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