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    Mom (Sept 2011) and Dad (Dec. 2012)


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    Single mom, middle daughter of two deceased parents, mother to wonderful son...grieving losses but thankful that I have had them to grieve. Healing from abuse: newsong4him.blogspot.com...
  1. Thank you BreathofAngel: It DOES help to share my grief recovery here on this forum and I appreciate your kindness.
  2. I am so sorry to see and hear about so many others who are suffering grief from the loss of their parents...my heart goes out to you. I thought I understood how HARD it would be when my mom passed away last September but it was not fully grieved and so my father's death Dec. 1st. finalized the necessity of fully grieving BOTH of their deaths. They were both cremated and this has been a disgusting taste in my mouth as neither of them "planned" for their burial, etc and it was left up to me personally to set up cremation, according to my dad's wishes and then my mothers body was also cremated, due to her wishes for economic reasons and I am made because there is "no final resting place" and no place where I can visit and "talk" to them. I am angry about this. My mother and I were best friends. From the time I was born until my first marriage; I spent a lot of time with her. After the first divorce, I managed to spend more time with her and then she and dad came to live with my new family in a home where I took care of them until dad went into a nursing home in 2008. Mom stayed with us until 2009 and I never saw her after that. I had seen my dad about 5 times after 2008 and the most current and last time I saw him was in June at my nieces graduation. I guess this "is the place" to grieve. I feel that if I can just write about my grief, share how my parents influenced my lives (sometimes with "negative warnings" rather than by example) that I can work through the grief process to recovery... I appreciate this board...thank you for being here and for reading and commenting if you like.
  3. The loss of both parents

    Kaycee...You are not alone hon. I lost my mom to cancer in Sept 2011 and dad, unexpectedly, like yours, just Dec. 1st....I think that we are faced with the realization that WE are now the oldest generation and I feel overwhelmed that I don't have my mom to turn to to talk to...she was my best friend and I miss her so much. Dad's sudden passing really hit me hard. I had not seen him for several months; my niece's graduation from high school in June, and he was "doing fine". Passing on well wishes, hugs and hope for a successful healing journey through grief as we all enter the holidays...Peace to you!
  4. The loss of both parents

    'heartbroken73'; I am so sorry for your loss...my mom passed last September; the 16th of cancer at age 87....we expected her to have a much longer and healthier life but she was diagnosed in June in 4th stage...My dad passed away Dec. 1st at age 88, unexpectedly...dealing with the loss of BOTH of them seems to be overwhelming to me. I do not work outside the home but am a stay at home mom of a wonderful Asperger/Autism Spectrum son...I run the home for my Love and our two mastiff puppies and cat and two macaws. I am thankful to not have to "put on a face" at work but I have trouble "holding it together" at times at home, but it is "at home" so that is ok...grieving takes TIME...time for us to set aside and "let it out"... Have you considered a "grief recovery" group in real life? Many churches have them and I actually participated in one in 2005 without having to grieve the physical loss of anyone, grieved the loss of relationship, etc. We are all in the same boat. You are NOT alone. Please continue to work THROUGH your grief here and "let it out" in healthy ways. Wishing you the very best...
  5. First holiday season w/o my Dad

    I am so sorry (((UnderHisWings))) for your loss... I lost my father Dec. 1st. I have not spent the past few Christmases with him so I am spared some of the household grief that way. I had to find a new way to "do christmas" when my mom passed last September. My heart goes out to you...you sound like you are doing well...continue the grieving journey and "be gentle" to yourself...wishing you the very best for the holidays.