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Mermaid Tears

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    Female
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    Brenham, Texas
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    Artist
  • Loss Type
    lost adult son
  • Angel Date
    August 3, 2012

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  1. Loss of an Adult Child

    Leah....the news that your sister-in-law will release you from paying rent should be a great positive. I hope CPS/Social services can be contacted real soon to let that be a factor in your overall income. How many times money is seen as the all important reason for being a loving parent/grandparent. I do understand that they have certain rules/regulations to go by. I do understand. But....there should be certain circumstances/situations where a loved one...who really wants the child/children ...should have a platform to put all the facts out in the open. You have an amazing circle of love, support and compassion around you. Here, also. Please keep us informed. We are cheering you on.
  2. Loss of an Adult Child

    I know this to be true....
  3. Loss of an Adult Child

    Jaesmom17....we have all been placed on this grief journey....I am on my 5th year....we lost our son, John David, in 2012....he was 42. Still.....we all have a heart that breaks another piece off when we hear of another parent losing a child. She is gorgeous.....and we know how very hard and dark life can be and grief is so exhausting and heavy. You honor yourself and your girl...and grieve deeply....just bend into it. This is a time to mourn and weep. There is no right or wrong way....just take it one day at a time.....some days....you will feel as if you can make it hour to hour. That is ok, too. Please be very kind and gentle with yourself and 'self care'....drink lots of fluids and try to walk around outside for a few minutes each day. Please let us know how you are doing.
  4. Loss of an Adult Child

    Georgina.....you will really need some healing time....REAL time to heal.....you are in such a circle of care and love with your amazing family.....bask in their support. Remember only you can give yourself some time out for healing. Dee....I love his 'pink'....pink is power. The color in sunrise and sunsets. I think...(????)...someone told me years ago that Hallmark made the distinction of pink for girls..and blue for boys.....ages ago....babies only wore white. Hope he adjusts....little ones do heal very fast. Dianne....geez....you did have some kidney problems....aren't they the worst ? How is the situation with your daughter and family being transferred ? Keep praying and crossing our fingers..... Leah....you have left no stone unturned....please get some of that healthy rest.... I know some of you love the Fall....my DNA is just wired for summer....sigh.....but this was John David's favorite time of the year...Dove/Duck/Deer hunting and football....
  5. Any good websites re grief and loss

    Stephanie....please go to the site called..'Loss of Adult Child'.....there are many active parents on that site....in fact....some have dealt with suicide. I am so sorry that you are having to grieve that loss. I think that in the past years....suicide was such a taboo subject to talk/read about. I don't know what all is out there...but...am sure you may find a group to talk to.
  6. Loss of an Adult Child

    Leah.....I can understand the dread in facing that meeting....but....please remind yourself what you bring to that meeting. A heart full of care and love for your family. Am so proud of you for losing all that weight....please keep on doing what you are doing.
  7. Loss of an Adult Child

    Laurie....am glad you found peace....and had that quiet sacred time to share with Jesse....you and I have shared this grief journey...both of us are in the 5th year....we shared crazy thinking...foggy thinking...dismal days...weeks...months...years....falling down...getting up....both you and I took it one day at a time...learning how to lead our family...our boy's siblings...through this dark and exhausting grief. I am giving you a hug...pat on the back...applause for you....for all that you have been through..and still standing...still surviving.
  8. Loss of an Adult Child

    Sweet Laurie.....sorry I am a day late....we went to Matagorda....thought of you almost all day.....and what this date means to me.....how connected we are with all the 'dates'.... I hope the day opened up for you...and that you let it have it's way with you.....I know you led your family with honest courage...but also....honest grief....letting yourself and family find loving ways to honor that boy.....all is well.
  9. Loss of an Adult Child

    Oh Dee.....I hope the fracture is a small one....little ones seem to heal pretty fast....but...keeping them in line and safe is the hardest part. Years ago a friend of mine had a little boy that broke his arm....he did just fine....but the parents were simply worn down being frantic about it. Leah....I know that visit with Sena was healing for both of you. Being there with her will give her a lot of love and support. You are the bridge over troubled waters. Remember...'self care'.....for no one is going to take care of you better than you.
  10. Loss of an Adult Child

    Thank you, Lou ann for sharing....I care very deeply for you...and your grief journey....I am piecing all your stories together for my thoughts and care for you... Dianne....I so hear you....sometimes....I find...that many are placed in a place....where they never thought they would be....with a 'slight change' of attitude...we change our whole world within our world...more on that later...it is late...
  11. Loss of an Adult Child

    Louanne....thank you.....may I ask when you and your husband lost your jobs ? Did you both work at the same place ? What year did that happen? You mentioned you moved...what year did you move ? Did you move far away....or near to where you use to live ? Was the move because of your losing your jobs ? How old were your sons when your girl passed from this earth home ? Once again....if I seem intrusive...I apologize....I am just trying to string together your story. I do honor those who let me hear their story.
  12. Loss of an Adult Child

    Laurie...I so remember you posting about the facts/research..that Becky gave you helped you out so much....sharing is caring. Thank you, Louanne....will ponder on all these facts...never too many.... Cheers for all my Hockey fans on this site.....in South Texas...we don't do too much hockey....but from what I have observed..it is a very fast game...
  13. Loss of an Adult Child

    Becky....that is some good news that your diabetes is in control. In fact...wonderful news. I will say a prayer that the new eye Dr. can help with your eye issues....I think with time...faith...positive thoughts...and good Dr.s and medical team....you are gaining a little ground in the right direction. Please continue to be vigilant on the things you 'can't ' do...and not fall again....sometimes when we start feeling good....we tend to reach out of our boundaries....and end up back at square one. Just take a patience pill every morning... I don't know if you saw this...but I so believe this is so TRUE......
  14. Loss of an Adult Child

    Louanne....if you don't mind me asking some questions.....I only ask to have a little more insight...and little more knowledge of you and your girl. When did you go to this therapist and he/she gave you all the prescriptions ? Were you medicated soon after her passing ? How many years were you on medications ? Was your husband going to the same Dr. and was he given the same medications ? You mentioned that you got off your prescriptions last winter and how bad it was. Are you seeing a new therapist now?
  15. Loss of an Adult Child

    Becky ..our Warrior Mom....sorry I am a day late...but you and your boy have been in my heart ever since I have been on this site....and I always felt like I was a part of your fight for justice for your son...because you shared your tireless work and research with all of us....I think you and yours honored your son with deep love...I also believe that going back to the 'place' is very common and normal for parents and families....another way of honoring your child.
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