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rkdoescher

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About rkdoescher

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    Member

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  • Gender
    Female
  • Location
    Washington
  • Interests
    Animals, crafting, Wicca, Nature, Meditation, Paranormal activity, reading, music
  • Loss Type
    Significant other
  • Angel Date
    8/6/2011

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  • Occupation
    disabled
  • Last Name
    Doescher
  • First Name
    Ronna
  • Zip
    99354
  • Country
    United States
  1. An Old Indian Prayer

    An Old Indian Prayer: Do not stand at my grave and weep, I am there, I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow; I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the Sunlight on ripened grain; I am the gentle autumn's rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft star that shines at night Do not stand at my grave and cry. I am not there: I did not Die
  2. An Old Indian Prayer

    An Old Indian Prayer: Do not stand at my grave and weep, I am there, I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow; I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the Sunlight on ripened grain; I am the gentle autumn's rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft star that shines at night Do not stand at my grave and cry. I am not there: I did not Die
  3. An Old Indian Prayer

    An Old Indian Prayer: Do not stand at my grave and weep, I am there, I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow; I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the Sunlight on ripened grain; I am the gentle autumn's rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft star that shines at night Do not stand at my grave and cry. I am not there: I did not Die
  4. An Old Indian Prayer

    An Old Indian Prayer: Do not stand at my grave and weep, I am there, I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow; I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the Sunlight on ripened grain; I am the gentle autumn's rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft star that shines at night Do not stand at my grave and cry. I am not there: I did not Die
  5. An Old Indian Prayer

    An Old Indian Prayer: Do not stand at my grave and weep, I am there, I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow; I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the Sunlight on ripened grain; I am the gentle autumn's rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft star that shines at night Do not stand at my grave and cry. I am not there: I did not Die
  6. An Old Indian Prayer: Do not stand at my grave and weep, I am there, I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow; I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the Sunlight on ripened grain; I am the gentle autumn's rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft star that shines at night Do not stand at my grave and cry. I am not there: I did not Die
  7. An Old Indian Prayer

    An Old Indian Prayer: Do not stand at my grave and weep, I am there, I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow; I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the Sunlight on ripened grain; I am the gentle autumn's rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft star that shines at night Do not stand at my grave and cry. I am not there: I did not Die
  8. how do I go on

    Hi: my name is ronna and I need to know how to go on without my soulmate and best friend. Although not married, we were closer than any married couple. I am having a hard time adjusting to life without him. And with no support from his family I feel adrift n a sea of loneliness and despair. What do ou do?
  9. Help, feel like joining loved one

    I am with family (mine right now). His family won't talk to me because they do not understand this was accidental and caused by addiction to pain pills. I was with him, but not like ou think. I did not realize how much he was taking each time he took some. It should have been one of each, but apparently it was more. When I awoke to find him dead, I was so in shock. While we were living 1399 miles from our home towns, we were together. I am going back to the place we last were for several reasons: 1) last place fiance and I were and the happiest we were 2:) I am supposed to start college there 3) got approved for DVR services 4) Have great therapist there. I have talked to family and they want me to do whats best for me. I hope to keep going to web sites like this and maybe find a group that I can join in person. I am trying to get though minute by minute. I light a candle to him every night in his favorite scent and am developing the last pictures taken of him. Although his family has taken almost all of his stuff and some of my stuff from me, I will be sending copies to them. He did not keep in contact with them the last 19 months of his life and I want to be able to share this with them so that they may have closue and find some solace. My hope is that eventually they will want to talk to me about our time there besides trying to figure out how or why this happened. I want them to know how happy we were. We had our problems at times, but we were always together. We made a commitment to each other and kept it. We were so close after we moved we knoew what each other was thinking. That is why it is so hard to be without him.
  10. Help: i do not know how to cope with loss of fiance of 4 years suddenly to accidental overdose. He passed away 2 weeks ago today and having real issues today, Is this normal? how long will i feel like there is a hole in my heart? How do I go on? How do I cope with being alone? He was my everything. I feel like I just want to join him. is this normal? I don't know where to turn as his family will not even talk to me.
  11. I lost my finance of 4 years on 8/6 to an accidental overdose. He was on chronic pain management and had a tendancy to over take medication. This started long before I met him. 3 days before his death, his doctor accused him of abusing meds, then increased them and added additional sleepers. These were almost all various types of narcotics. I woke up and found him dead next to me in bed. I called 911 and turned him on back (he slept on stomach) to see if could revive him, but he was too far gone. I was in such total shock, that I couldn't even remember what I did the day before. We were living in another state. I called his mom immediately and told her of his passing. This was a saturday (8/6/11). His sister went down monday morning, and made herself his power of attorney. Because I did not have anything notorized, she was allowed to do this even though he wanted me to be his power of attorney and had written it down several times. They now have taken everything away from me. I came back to the state we were from, because that is where his services were supposed to be held. It has been two weeks and still no services. I was told to leave the family alone and to not bother coming to funeral. They even took some of my personal possessions. The only way I can get them back is if I take them to court. I am having a hard time dealing with his death as I really don't have anybody who knew him to grieve with. How do you go on? How do you consider life alone? I have thought of volunteering with animals because we both liked them, but am not sure yet. All I do know is I am going back to state where we lived and he died. Although have few friends, it was last place we were together and where we made our commitment together. WE even wore wedding rings, although not legally married, we considered ourselves married. Is this a good idea, or should I stay where my family is?
  12. My Soul....HELP!!

    I am so sorry for your loss. But you were his next of kin if you were legally married. The family cannot do that to you. I just my siginificant other of 4 years to a sudden death. His family took everything away from me. I have no rights as we were not married, but I too an dealing with being unable to say goodbye. I could take the family to court to get my personal possesions back, but I just don't want to hassle about it. It won't bring him back, and most of it was sentimental with no real value. But you need to stand up for your rights.
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