DawnFisher

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  1. Marilyn, I didn't get your friend request. I am not from Missouri - but Indiana. Are you sure you got the right Dawn? Take care, Dawn
  2. To my dear BI Forum friends, Thank you for your prayers and posts following the loss of my husband this past April. I am slowly getting back into the swing of things here at Beyond Indigo...I thank you for your patience and understanding. As many of you know, my husband and I worked together in our family funeral business. I am now wearing many new hats - but with the help of my oldest son and our wonderful staff - we are carrying on the legacy of compassionate service that was my husband's ministry - not "work." One of the things I am working on is a social experiment of sorts with our funeral home business page on Facebook. I am writing an article for a national funeral directors' magazine on the impact of social networking and need your help in increasing my Facebook fan base. I want to see how quickly a FB fan base can grow. Can you click on the link below and become a fan? (You can always hide my business posts in the future if you don't want to read them by clicking "hide post" on the right hand side whenever my post is displayed.) Here is the links: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Lafayette-IN/Fisher-Family-Funeral-Homes-Fisher-Loy-Funeral-Chapel-Lafayette/118570622967 http://www.facebook.com/search/?q=fisher%5C&init=quick#/pages/Logansport-IN/Fisher-Family-Funeral-Homes-Fisher-Funeral-Chapel-Logansport-IN/150651937904?ref=ss If you can help me out with this - I really would appreciate it! Thanks, Dawn
  3. A poem for Colleen - Brian's Mom My Child's Name The mention of my Child's name May bring tears to my eyes, But never fails to bring Music to my ears. If you are really my friend, Let me hear the beautiful Music of his name. It soothes my broken heart And sings to my soul. Author Unknown
  4. Below is a summary that is less technical that people might find easier to read and understand. I am glad that you think the results of our study is worth posting; this allows us to give something back to you and all who helped us. Thanks again. Brian Stressful life events like bereavement can change people's beliefs about the world, causing them to conclude that the world is meaningless or that they themselves are morally bad. We are interested in what kinds of coping may be helpful to people in coming up with explanations for events that preserve these core beliefs. Because many people seek understanding in religion, religious coping has been found to be particularly relevant to the outcomes of people facing difficult times. Deferring coping and self-directed coping are two types of religious coping which represent different types of relationship with God. In deferring coping, people tend to place responsibility for explaining and solving life's problems on God and trusting that God will make things right. In self-directed coping, people tend to believe that God is supporting them, but that they must take responsibility for solving problems themselves because God will not intervene directly. There has been some research showing that each of these coping styles can lead to positive or negative outcomes depending on the problem people are facing. In our study, we were interested in the effects of these religious coping styles on people's beliefs about the world and themselves after stressful life events. When we analyzed the survey results, we found that deferring coping led to more of a belief that the world is meaningful, while self-directed coping led to positive beliefs about self-worth. As has been found in other research, it appears that there is no one coping style that is most effective for all people. Different coping styles offer different advantages: deferring coping appears helpful in finding meaning in events answering the question "Why?" while self-directed coping allows people to maintain a sense of self-worth answering the question "Why me?" In addition to the loss study, we ran a parallel study asking similar questions of people diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes, to find out more about the effects of religious coping under different kinds of stressful circumstances. We found that the effects of religious coping (described above) were similar for both groups. We also found that bereaved participants saw the world more negatively than did participants with Type 2 diabetes, and those who had experienced the death of a child were particularly likely to see the world as meaningless and random. This highlights the particularly devastating nature of grief; it can shatter people's worldviews. However, we also found that the amount of time since the loss corresponded to belief in world meaning. As time passed, most people's belief that the world is a just, predictable, meaningful place began to increase again. We are grateful to you for taking the time to participate; we could never conduct the research we do without your help. Brian Vandenberg Ph. D. Rachel Hibberd
  5. I just wanted to post that message to remind you all how important you are to Beyond Indigo! Thanks for the positive comments! Dawn Beyond Indigo
  6. I just want to remind everyone that we receive many private messages from Beyond Indigo users - people who are grieving but have not been able to post for whatever reason. Many are shy, many are wary of posting online, many don't know what to write, some feel inadequate when it comes to writing their emotions into text. Some are grieving so much that they can't focus on a single thought. But, they gain strength and encouragement reading your posts. Facebook is a wonderful social network...but don't forget Beyond Indigo's forum and how it draws people together in a common bond. You are very valuable to this network! We appreciate your posts and the way you help one another! Especially those who are new to this journey called "grief." Thanks! Dawn Beyond Indigo
  7. Claudia, The Box Project is a great idea. If you would like to start a thread under the "Please Tell Us..." section, maybe there are other BI members who would like to participate and might not see the project under "Loss of a Child." On a related note, I have started a thread in that area for Favorite Recipes - like Kourtney's Buttermilk Pie. My heart was warmed as I read about Monty's determination in carrying on Kourtney's tradition...and leaving the sugar out added comic relief to us all! God Bless all of you as you continue to bless each other with love and encouragement in this grief journey! Dawn Beyond Indigo
  8. Kourtney's mom recently posted her daughter's recipe for Buttermilk Pie - and shared that since Kourtney always made this pie for her daddy....he was going to make the pie in memory of her this Thanksgiving. Tears, then smiles, then laughs came as test tasters soon realized that her dad had left out the sugar! I'm including this story and their recipe to kick off a new forum topic just in time for the holidays. Please share your recipes and memories here. Dawn Beyond Indigo KOURTNEY'S BUTTERMILK PIE 1 9 IN UNBAKED PIE CRUST 1/4 TSP SALT 2 EGGS BEATEN 1 TBSP ALL PURPOSE FLOUR 1 CUP WHITE SUGAR 1 CUP BUTTERMILK 3/4 CUP MELTED BUTTER 2 TSP VANILLA EXTRACT PREHEAT TO 350' F PLACE BEATEN EGGS IN MEDIUM BOWL BLEND IN SUGAR. STIR IN BUTTER, SALT,FLOUR,BUTTERMILK AND VANILLA. TIL SMOOTH POUR INTO SHELL BAKE FOR 50 MINUTES REDUCE HEAT TO 325' THEN BAKE AN ADDITIONAL 10 MINUTES. PIE IS DONE WITH CLEAN TOOTH PICK TEST. HOPE YOU ENJOY IT...KOURTNEY LOVED MAKING THIS FOR HER DADDY
  9. Regarding the symbolism of candles - I just thought I'd mention it here in case you didn't know - [align=justify]It is a symbolic gesture to those ancient travelers who could find no shelter that there is room in this home for them and the coming child. The candle in the window, still a favorite traditional Christmas decoration, harkens back to that ancient Christmas Eve, when Mary and Joseph could find no shelter. It is a symbol of hospitality, their way of welcoming Mary and Joseph...and any travelers who might happen to pass by looking for a warm place to stay. [/align] [align=justify]The Tradition of placing a Candle in the Window goes back to the Colonial times in the United States and back much further in time for other cultures. It is a Tradition practiced throughout the year. It symbolizes the warmth and security of the Family hearth and signals loyalty to Family members and loved ones who are not present in the home. [/align] [align=justify]Especially in pioneer days when neighbors were so far apart and people traveled in desolate country sides some people would put a candle in the window as a beacon for a weary traveler or, if they were expecting guests. It was a welcoming gesture and, during heavy storms saved many a people's lives. During wars times mothers or wives would point to the candle in the window before their son or husband went to war and assured them it would be lit every night waiting for him to come home safe and sound. It was to show him he was much loved and not forgotten. From Wiki Answers[/align] The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting®, held annually the second Sunday in December, this year December 14, unites family and friends around the globe as they light candles for one hour to honor and remember children who have died at any age from any cause. As candles are lit at 7 p.m. local time, creating a virtual wave of light, hundreds of thousands of persons commemorate and honor the memories of children in a way that transcends all ethnic, cultural, religious, and political boundaries. Now believed to be the largest mass candle lighting on the globe, the Worldwide Candle Lighting, a gift from TCF to the bereavement community, creates a virtual 24-hour wave of light as it moves from time zone to time zone. Hundreds of formal candle lighting events are held and thousands of informal candle lightings are conducted in homes as families gather in quiet remembrance of children who have died, but will never be forgotten. A blue light candle honors and remembers those law enforcement officers who have given their lives in service to their profession and thanks those who continue to work America's dangerous streets and highways every day of the year.
  10. Regina, I'm going to move this post to the suicide thread and it will be seen by more people. I'm so sorry for what you are going through - but I'm glad you found Beyond Indigo forums! Dawn Beyond Indigo
  11. I'd like to ask a favor - this link will take you to a guestbook for a 7-month old angel named Kaylee who lost her battle with a rare lung disorder on Saturday. Her parents are just teenagers and do not have internet access...but if you could sign her guest book and light a candle...I will print them out to let them know they are not alone in their journey. http://fisherfuneralchapel.com/memorials/memorials.php/dID/965841 My husband and I remember our little angel Danny who was born/died 20 years ago on Nov. 22nd so are hearts are particularly touched by Kaylee and the all the Beyond Indigo angels. Thanks for your help, Dawn Fisher Beyond Indigo
  12. Hello - I am posting Kelly's original post from the home page of www.beyondindigo.com/forums under the "Please Tell Us" thread "Beyond Indigo Reunion." I thought that many of you might not have seen it there. If you are interested in atteding a Beyond Indigo Reunion - or would like to help us in the planning stages...please post on that thread. Thanks! Dawn Beyond Indigo Hello all, We are thinking about hosting a Beyond Indigo Reunion in Peoria, ILL next spring. It would allow people to meet other Beyond Indigo members in person. Could you please let us know if this would be something that would interest you? We would have social events by type of loss (child, parent, spouse etc). If this is of interest for people we would also be looking for "hosts" for each type of loss to plan events for that loss group. Please chime in! Thanks Kelly Kelly Baltzell President Beyond Indigo
  13. Hello - I am posting Kelly's original post from the home page of www.beyondindigo.com/forums under the "Please Tell Us" thread "Beyond Indigo Reunion." I thought that many of you might not have seen it there. If you are interested in atteding a Beyond Indigo Reunion - or would like to help us in the planning stages...please post on that thread. Thanks! Dawn Beyond Indigo Hello all, We are thinking about hosting a Beyond Indigo Reunion in Peoria, ILL next spring. It would allow people to meet other Beyond Indigo members in person. Could you please let us know if this would be something that would interest you? We would have social events by type of loss (child, parent, spouse etc). If this is of interest for people we would also be looking for "hosts" for each type of loss to plan events for that loss group. Please chime in! Thanks Kelly Kelly Baltzell President Beyond Indigo
  14. Hello - I am posting Kelly's original post from the home page of www.beyondindigo.com/forums under the "Please Tell Us" thread "Beyond Indigo Reunion." I thought that many of you might not have seen it there. If you are interested in atteding a Beyond Indigo Reunion - or would like to help us in the planning stages...please post on that thread. Thanks! Dawn Beyond Indigo Hello all, We are thinking about hosting a Beyond Indigo Reunion in Peoria, ILL next spring. It would allow people to meet other Beyond Indigo members in person. Could you please let us know if this would be something that would interest you? We would have social events by type of loss (child, parent, spouse etc). If this is of interest for people we would also be looking for "hosts" for each type of loss to plan events for that loss group. Please chime in! Thanks Kelly Kelly Baltzell President Beyond Indigo
  15. Hello - I am posting Kelly's original post from the home page of www.beyondindigo.com/forums under the "Please Tell Us" thread "Beyond Indigo Reunion." I thought that many of you might not have seen it there. If you are interested in atteding a Beyond Indigo Reunion - or would like to help us in the planning stages...please post on that thread. Thanks! Dawn Beyond Indigo Hello all, We are thinking about hosting a Beyond Indigo Reunion in Peoria, ILL next spring. It would allow people to meet other Beyond Indigo members in person. Could you please let us know if this would be something that would interest you? We would have social events by type of loss (child, parent, spouse etc). If this is of interest for people we would also be looking for "hosts" for each type of loss to plan events for that loss group. Please chime in! Thanks Kelly Kelly Baltzell President Beyond Indigo