Members sugunde Posted May 23, 2015 Members Report Share Posted May 23, 2015 It has been almost 2 weeks since my mother has passed away.and although I am very strong person,this thing has crushed me.I can't function properly....there are moments where my 2 girls let me forget it for few hours...but once I'm alone...I just can't control...its like a bad movie...it keeps going on...on...I don'think I know any other person who was so sincere and kind hearted.I don't think there was a person she ever hurt. ..she was perfect...so beautiful inside and outside...and I feel so robbed so hurt but what has happened...and despite the illness...she fighted it and has always been so optimistic and supportive even to others..and within 3 days she was gone...I can't even put my thoughts properly...it's all like mist...all I know that the pain is so real and nothing or nobody can help..I miss you Mom....I miss you and love you so much..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members cindyjane Posted May 24, 2015 Members Report Share Posted May 24, 2015 I am so sorry for your loss. The love for your mother overflows in your post, my heart goes out to you. Your loss is HUGE and so very recent, it wouldn't be natural to feel any different than you are feeling right now. One of the things that really helped me to get through losing my mom was to look for things to be grateful for. That may sound like a hard thing to do but I was able to find some things, quite a few things actually. When I was in grade 3 my best friend's dad passed away. I am grateful that I had my mom for the many years that I have. I've known people who didn't get along with their mothers. I am grateful for the wonderful relationship that I had with my mom. I am grateful for the fun times we've had, all of the things that she has taught me, for being a good example for me,and on and on. When I think of these things I truly am grateful. The sadness is still there because of course I miss my mom so much, but my heart is no longer so heavy when I think of her which is daily. Your mother sounds like a wonderful person. Being optimistic despite of illness and being supportive to others says a lot about the kind of person your mother has been. What great qualities! I also looked at the kind of person that my mom was and another thing that helps me get through losing her is that I try to be the kind of person that she was. That is my way of honouring her. You will get through this rough period and as time goes by, the weight on your heart will lighten. Let the tears flow and know that one day you will be reunited with your dear sweet mother. Take care Cindy Jane Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mydeepestthoughts Posted May 30, 2015 Members Report Share Posted May 30, 2015 Oh my heart goes out to you..I am so sorry to hear about your mother. To lose a loved one, and so suddenly, it must be unbearable...my mother was also sick, and died of cancer, and I know that you never get over it. One thing that had eased my transition is the hope that the scriptures gives us about our dead loved ones.. Eccl 9:5 says "but the dead know nothing at all..So our loved ones are at peace.So is that it? NO..Jesus gives us the hope of seeing our loved ones again..look at John 5:28 It reads "Do not be amazed at this, for the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice 29: and come out.. Can you imagine seeing your mother's smile, and hearing her laughter again"Is this too good to be true? To get firm proof that this will happen, click on the following link http://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/know-the-truth/1102008390/May you find peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members MayFGL Posted June 3, 2015 Members Report Share Posted June 3, 2015 My heart goes out to those of you who lost your mom. Losing the parent is THE hardest thing to experience. I know because I lost my mother on 3/13 from a massive stroke. Every day seems harder and harder as the days go by. One minute i'm laughing, the next minute i'm in tears. We have a big portrait of mom in the living room, next to the computer and my room (where I once shared with mom and it's now lonely and empty). My mom didn't die sudden though. She lasted less than a month. She was able to talk a little and even asked me to ask the doctor if she can go home. I told her, "You have to get strong first and then you can go home."; but, in reality, she wasn't going to get better. She spent nine days in Hospice. She took 3 gasps and at 10:29 pm she died with family surrounding her. I'll never forget that. It's burned in my memory. I can't think straight at times. I feel lonely even though I'm never alone. I have five other siblings and they're married, I'm not. It used to be me and my mom for everything. We were partners in crime. I miss my mom so much. I know every feeling you're feeling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sugunde Posted June 5, 2015 Author Members Report Share Posted June 5, 2015 There are easier days..and there days actually every minute every second reminds how much i miss her...and that pain...and that emptiness in my heart...nobody else can feel or understand...i just feel so helpless because its filled with that guilt that maybe i didnt have enough time to do something for her ..maybe i did not tell her enough how much i love her- its that feeling that even though myself and my sister we made to her ...but it was so little...Every body grieves differently...but pain is the same...i am the kind of person- i am very personal and dont like to share anything except with my closest- my mom and sister...and i have to go sleep knowing every day that i cannot hear her voice,,,,never again,,,i cannot hug her and kiss her...i cannot laugh with her,,,she is not there,,,i understand that her memory will always be there but why did she leave us so early,,,,just heart broken....I love you mom...you were an angel and you joined the heavenly angels.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sugunde Posted June 5, 2015 Author Members Report Share Posted June 5, 2015 My heart goes to all of you... May our beloved ones rest in peace.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members sugunde Posted June 22, 2015 Author Members Report Share Posted June 22, 2015 It has been a month and 10 days since you left us...since a beautiful angel joined the heavenly angels ...I miss you mom,,,miss our evening conversations...miss sharing you my daily life and hearing your stories and advises...i just miss you..Soon i will be coming home for holidays unfortunatley you wont be there,,but you will always be in my heart..I dont think there is a day that i dont think about you..you were such a beautiful person, so kind, so loving...Last night i had a dream,,and you were there...talking to me..like any other day...sharing our daily lives and listening to each other stories...just like always..It was a strange dream,,,because i knew tomorrow you wont be able to call me so i just wanted you to talk and listen to your voice,,,,in my dream i was thinking i should record you talking so that i can always listen to your voice one more time....my dream came true...you were there..just this time in a dream,,i wish you came more often... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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