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Hi all my names Scott I'm losing my mom to cancer hospice says she has days to live I don't know what to do or say to her!!!

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A_Lone_in_TO

I'm so sorry to hear of your mom's condition. I also lost my mom to cancer so I know some of the emotions you are experiencing. My advice to you would be to just be there with her as much as you can. I know that people have things like work and family to take care of, but whatever time you can manage - spend it with her. Tell her how much you love her and how much she has meant to you during your whole life. Even if she can't physically respond, tell her into her ears ( I've read somewhere that a person's hearing is one of the last senses to go during their last living days). Hold her hands - again even if she can't respond, she might still be able to feel your warmth. Also tell her that you'll be OK even after she's gone and that it's OK to let go - that she doesn't have to worry about her son. 

 

Best wishes to you during this very difficult time. 

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cindyjane

I am so sorry for what you are going through Scott.  I agree with the previous poster, be with your mom as much as you can and say all of the things that come to your heart.  I lost my dad 8 months ago and I was with him the morning he passed on.  He was unresponsive for 36 hours prior to his passing but I just knew that he could hear everything that I said to him during his last night here.  In the middle of the night a heart specialist came in and told me that due to him having a pace maker that it could be hours, days or even weeks that his heart could continue beating as the pace maker would kick start his heart if it stopped.  I just couldn't bare to see my dad like this for weeks or even days.  As much as I didn't want him to leave, I didn't want him to linger in this state.  At 4:50am I took his hand and told him how much his family loved him.  I told him that we all knew how much he loved us.  I told him that he was a wonderful dad, a great friend to many, a hard worker, and that soon he would be going on a wonderful journey and be reunited with my mom who passed on 11 months earlier.  I said the Lord's Prayer and thanked HIM for my dad.  As I watched his breathing, at the end of that prayer my dad took his last breath at 5:00am.  I know that my dad heard the things I said to him and believe that he needed to hear that it was ok for him to go and that my sister, brother and I would be ok.  

 

May God bless you and your mom during this difficult time.

Stay reconnected here because the good people here care.

 

Cindy Jane

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