Members megzypooh11 Posted January 28, 2015 Members Report Share Posted January 28, 2015 Hello, I am new on here. I have been trying to find support groups for young adults around my age who have lost a parent. I am 18 years old. I just recently lost my father to cancer. He died July 31, 2014. just a couple of months ago. We didn't know he had cancer until he broke his arm by putting on his shoe. By that time it was too late. He began to become weaker and weaker. 2 weeks after he broke his arm we took him to the hospital because he lost about 100 pounds so wasn't eating or drinking. They found out he had cancer everywhere in his bones. They admitted him and they told us he would be out of the hospital in no time. He was in and out of ICU for the time of him being there. They had to transfer him a month later to another hospital. They ended up doing chemo on him and then found out he had leukemia that was very aggressive. 4 days later he past away. I don't feel right. I am always tired. I just want to really be left alone. I am now dating a guy that lost his father a month after me.. It helps because we understand each other. But, he had more time with his dad that was sick. I didn't! It's hard. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ModKonnie Posted January 30, 2015 Members Report Share Posted January 30, 2015 Megzypooh11,I am so very sorry about the loss of your father. It's never ever easy when a parent dies, is it? My dad was ill for a very long time, and I got to spend time with him, but I wish I would have spent FAR more time than I did. I just didn't really believe in my heart that he was going to die. Maybe I was in denial or something until he got really, really sick. I am glad you are dating a guy who can understand what you are going through. It helps, doesn't it? We will be here for you, ModKonnie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members carolann12345 Posted January 30, 2015 Members Report Share Posted January 30, 2015 Megzypooh11, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad to cancer in 1973 when I was just over seventeen and I felt had lost everything when he died but I made it through with the help of family and friends but it still does not make up for not having my Dad here, He was my best friend and although my Mom was still around I was ever as close to her as I was to Dad. My Mom passed away in June 2013, I was her carer fr the last years of her life and we did become closer and I miss her so much but I know that I was with her at the end ad I did my best for her. I still miss Dad I always will and I am lucky that I have a good partner and friends but I know that my Dad and Mom would want me to life my life to the best of my ability and that is what you dad would want for you. You will see him again and he will always be with you. He loved you while he was here physically ad he still loves you in spirit. That is what keeps me going knowing I will see my family again and that they are always watching over me. You learn to live with loss and accept it is a part of life sad and difficulty though it is. It is good however to have a partner who can empathize with you as no one knows how hard it is to lose one's family unless you have been through it yourself. Take care of yourself. Sending you love and hugs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Okimuk Posted February 2, 2015 Members Report Share Posted February 2, 2015 Megzypooh11, I'm so sorry for the pain you must be feeling. I lost my dad when I was 9 to a car accident. I didn't properly grieve until my late 20s. I spent many years angry at the world. I'm finally at peace with it. Stay strong and know that it's ok to continue to grieve even though it was not a recent loss. I got anxiety attacks and PTSD because I thought that I should've gotten "over it" by now since he passed in '88. Luckily I got past it and don't get the flashbacks like I used to. Newbie: I'm sorry for your loss, the only advice I feel I can give is just allow yourself to mourn and grieve him. I bottled it up and it had some very negative consequences for many years. Whatever you feel just go with it, it's nice you can relate with someone but remember that yes, they may got to have more time but it's still traumatic and painful for them. My stepdad just passed away last Friday so I had to join this group. I have some family members lashing out at me and I don't know how to cope with it. I know they are in pain but I am too. He was my dad from the age of 12 but I feel guilty like I don't deserve to be sad about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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