Members kelxo Posted December 16, 2014 Members Report Share Posted December 16, 2014 My dad passed away 6 months ago, it's the first christmas without him and I moved out of town because of work, so I'm away from my mom which makes it harder. I am the youngest out of my siblings and I'm the only one who talks/sees my mom. I am slowly starting to hate my sisters cause there all caught up in their spouses family, my in laws have my mom over and are more family to her than my sisters. I feel like I'm at my breaking point, my mom and I want her to visit me for christmas so she's not alone but nobody will drive her to meet me or watch her dog. It disgusts me at how the word family doesn't mean much to them anymore. I'm 22 I shouldn't have to worry about my mom constantly. Has anyone else experienced family disappearing after the loss if a parent? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ModKonnie Posted December 17, 2014 Members Report Share Posted December 17, 2014 Kelxo,I am so sorry about the loss of your father. I believe most families experience disappearing members after a significant loss. Have you considered putting your mom on a plane or bus and kenneling her dog? Would that be possible? I'm not sure how the expense would work out for you.... I'd ask my sisters what they are planning to do with your mother for Christmas. Perhaps they believe she is doing okay and not needing them. We will be here for you,ModKonnie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members EHCsBabyGirl Posted December 17, 2014 Members Report Share Posted December 17, 2014 I'm aware the circumstances are different but in many ways I know how you feel. This will be the fifth Christmas without my Dad. I am the oldest living child along with my younger brother. I am currently living with our mother as it helps both her and me. I am single and don't have kids whereas my brother is married with a boy and girl who are twins and now 12 years old. Ever since my dad died I have been the one responsible for making sure Mom is okay. My brother has been less than helpful and well the last couple of years has been a no show for the holidays. I'm pretty ticked at him this year especially because He never called or stopped by for Thanksgiving and Mom was really hurt by this. Family members can be the most selfish and hurtful people going. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members msslb Posted December 17, 2014 Members Report Share Posted December 17, 2014 Hello I lost my dear Father in February this year. It has been a very difficult time for me as my parents divorced when I was 8 years old my younger sister only 4. We were bought up by Dad I had a very strong bond with him where as my sister had with our Mum. I have never really felt close to either of them to be honest I feel angry that I have been left alone to deal with my grief I am a divorced parent of two children son 18 and daughter 13. My younger sister took it upon herself to arrange all of Dad's estate I am grateful of that as I don't think I could of coped doing it myself. I do feel that she done things way too fast for me as I was Dad's carer looking out to him shopping ect for the previous 10 years. Our Mum currently lives in Cornwall so really don't see her much not even a phone call once a week. My sister lives just around the corner but have only really spoken or seen each other a couple of times in the last few months. The only person who I can really depend on is my older half sister all three of us have the same mother. I just don't want to feel a burden to her she has helped me a lot even the times when we have visited my Dad and found him in a bad way. I am spending Christmas with my children would have also been my Dad I really miss him and I wish that I had more support from my Mum and younger sister. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Bettyjean910 Posted January 29, 2015 Members Report Share Posted January 29, 2015 I'm sorry to for your lost and yes indeed it can be very frustrating,I believe you will get through this. I am angry at my younger sister who has cost me my daughter's life back in 1998. I have had very little contact with any of my family members because of this,everyone of my children have suffered because of this.One of my son's ran away from home in 1998 two year's short of his 18 birthday.When your hurting there is someone else with far more hurt then you.God Bless you and will all work out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Bettyjean910 Posted January 29, 2015 Members Report Share Posted January 29, 2015 I'm sorry to for your lost and yes indeed it can be very frustrating,I believe you will get through this. I am angry at my younger sister who has cost me my daughter's life back in 1998. I have had very little contact with any of my family members in over 20 years.Nobody's ever showed up at the funneral not a card not even a phone call. because of this,everyone of my children have suffered because of this.One of my son's ran away from home in 1998 two year's short of his 18 birthday.When your hurting there is someone else with far more hurt then you.God Bless you and will all work out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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