Members Blondie86 Posted November 27, 2014 Members Report Share Posted November 27, 2014 8 years ago I lost my dad and one of my brothers within 7 weeks of each other and that was hard. For years I have been my mums carer and then she got taken into hospital for a chest infection to be told after 3 weeks that she only had days to live for something that I felt I kept telling the hospital about. My mum passed in sept this year and even 10 weeks on I feel like I'm not coping, I put a front on for everyone but when I'm alone I just cry. It's hard being strong for my child he's too young to understand what's happened. Any advice? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members A_Lone_in_TO Posted December 1, 2014 Members Report Share Posted December 1, 2014 Hi Blondie86, I'm so sorry for all your losses. I too have recently lost my mom and can relate to the pain and sorrow you're going through. My mom was like my best friend and we were very, very close. Not one day goes by without me thinking about her and crying over not having her around in my life anymore. I miss her immensely. When I reach my saddest and lowest emotional point, I try to remind myself that she worked so hard in her life and sacrificed so much because she wanted me to have a better life than the one she had. She wanted me to have as much opportunity to experience joy and happiness as possible. I know in my heart that if she could talk to me, she would tell me to go on living and enjoy all the joy and blessings that life has to offer. To live a happy and fulfilling life would show her that all her hard work was worth it and not done in vain. I think it would be the best way to honour and thank her for all her love and sacrifice she gave to me in my life. My little bit of advice for you would be this: You have a child - which I'm sure you love very much. Think for a minute about all the hopes and dreams you have for your child. All those wishes you have for your child are probably the exact same wishes that your mom had for you. Things like finding and experiencing love. Friendships. Accomplishments. And all the other joys in this world - both big and small. All those wishes by your mom won't change just because she is no longer physically here next to you. She would still want you to experience all the wonderful things that life has to offer. I don't know what your faith or spiritual standing is, but I personally believe that people are reunited with their loved ones after death. I know I will someday see my mom again. But until that day comes, I will try to live a happy life to honour her. I want her to see that all her hard work and sacrifice amounted to something. I know how hard it can be - I still cry every day. It's part of the grieving process and it also shows how much love I have for my mom. I think it's better to let out all the emotions than to hold and bottle them in. So whenever you want to cry, just let it out. Even if you have to find an appropriate place to do so. Best wishes to you and your child in your healing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Blondie86 Posted December 1, 2014 Author Members Report Share Posted December 1, 2014 Thank you so much for your reply, she loved my son very much and would want me to carry on and do for him what she did for me. It's a struggle without her to talk to but for my son and my other brothers I have to be strong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.