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AnaMaria

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I've lost my father due to pancreatic cancer with bone metastasis. I've watched him suffer for the past 4 months. He had terrible pains that no one should ever go through. He went to every possible hospital just to find out he has cancer. Even though I'm happy that he is no longer in pain, I can't be 100% OK with him being dead. I want to turn back in time when he was healthy and strong and he'd protect me whenever I needed.

I want to say that my dad had never been ill before, for 52 years he's been the healthiest human being I've ever met and then all of sudden in just 4 months he past away. My question is why? Why my dad? Why couldn't he just had a normal disease where he went to hospital and came back on his own feet strong and healthy as he left? I'm sure that you've heard this question like a million times but this is how I feel and I wanted to be honest and really relief myself of all of this thoughts.

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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I don't have the answer... I don't know why this happens. I Don't know how someone who is healthy and strong can get so sick that they pass in such a short time. It happened to my mom. A diagnosis of cancer - she passed six months to the day of her diagnosis. I try not to ask myself these questions because there is no answer... Cancer is a terrible disease and who/how it strikes is very much not in our control. I try very hard to remember her before her illness... During the good times we had together when she was healthy and happy. It's the best answer I can find. I wish you all the best as you grieve your loss. Take care.

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I've lost my father due to pancreatic cancer with bone metastasis. I've watched him suffer for the past 4 months. He had terrible pains that no one should ever go through. He went to every possible hospital just to find out he has cancer. Even though I'm happy that he is no longer in pain, I can't be 100% OK with him being dead. I want to turn back in time when he was healthy and strong and he'd protect me whenever I needed.

I want to say that my dad had never been ill before, for 52 years he's been the healthiest human being I've ever met and then all of sudden in just 4 months he past away. My question is why? Why my dad? Why couldn't he just had a normal disease where he went to hospital and came back on his own feet strong and healthy as he left? I'm sure that you've heard this question like a million times but this is how I feel and I wanted to be honest and really relief myself of all of this thoughts.

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Ana Maria-

Thank you for your story. My father just passed away on 11/18/14 of pancreatic cancer too. He was diagnosed 13 months ago. He went through two rounds of chemo and radiation. Although he lived longer than some, I still ask myself why? Why this cancer? Why not a treatable one? He was 64. Full of life, wrote for the local paper. Hilarious. Heart of gold. Now that the funeral is over my siblings wonder how we will go on. Can our lives still be happy? I'm 30 years old and never thought I would lose a parent this young. I came on this site to maybe hear what other people do to cope- yours stuck out- partly cause the disease was the same- also because I agree it's so damn unfair and that's all I can do is ask why. And what is next for my family. How is the rest of your family coping?

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