My beloved cat pasted away- how did you deal?

[Rue]

Hello I'm a new member and I came her for some advice from people who are going through the same thing as me    Last night my only, favourite cat Cuda had to be put down due to bloat... At first I was sort of not accepting that he was gone but now it's the day after and I keep thinking about how he's never going to come curl up beside me again or ball up in every sun spot he could find or meow at me angerily when I wouldn't give him more treats And this is making me cry CONSTANTLY! Then crying makes me even more upset because whenever I cried, Cuda would always come and give me a tiny meow and sit on my lap and purr which made me feel so much better, but now he's not here to make me feel better so I can't seem to stop crying. I just can't stop imaging him here with me but then I realize he's not and I start sobbing! Has anyone been through this before? How did you get over the death of your cat??

[ModKonnie]

Rue,

I am very sorry about your loss of your precious Cuda. You begin to move forward in your healing by crying your heart out if that's how you feel. There is nothing wrong with crying. I bawled my head off each time I've lost one of my precious fur babies. It'll take a while, but the pain will lessen, and you will be able to remember the funny,sweet and even not-so-sweet things Cuda did and smile or even laugh.

Do you have any pics of Cuda?

 

We will be here for you,

ModKonnie

[Rue]

Thanks ModKonnie, your reply made me feel a bit better about how I feel   I do have many pictures of Cuda! Here's one of my favourites! As a young lady in the modern world, I made it a priority to take a picture and share it whenever my baby did something cute (which was everything he did to me)!

[clarin81]

hi. I lost my cat of 13 years this Christmas! I am so sad and all I do is cry and sleep. I have even called out his name when waking up only to remember he is gone. when I came home from my Christmas festivities, I found him crying not able to use his back legs and he had urinated on himself. I wrapped him in my special robe and rushed him to the emergency clinic. they were waiting as I pulled up. I placed him on the exam table but he had already passed. I cried and hugged and kissed him and told him I loved him. then I covered his full body in the robe. I'm so depressed the only comfort I get is thinking he is in heaven laying on my great grandmothers lap,she loved animals. maybe that was her Christmas gift. I miss him so much my house is so empty and quiet now! hopefully I can move on soon but I will never forget my sweet Quinn and the joy he brought to my life. there will always be a broken place in my heart!

[clarin81]

hi. I lost my cat of 13 years this Christmas! I am so sad and all I do is cry and sleep. I have even called out his name when waking up only to remember he is gone. when I came home from my Christmas festivities, I found him crying not able to use his back legs and he had urinated on himself. I wrapped him in my special robe and rushed him to the emergency clinic. they were waiting as I pulled up. I placed him on the exam table but he had already passed. I cried and hugged and kissed him and told him I loved him. then I covered his full body in the robe. I'm so depressed the only comfort I get is thinking he is in heaven laying on my great grandmothers lap,she loved animals. maybe that was her Christmas gift. I miss him so much my house is so empty and quiet now! hopefully I can move on soon but I will never forget my sweet Quinn and the joy he brought to my life. there will always be a broken place in my heart!

[Elliecar]

Hi I am totally devastated as is my 22 year old son, yesterday Boxing Day we had to get our beloved Spike put to sleep, he was a 20 year old male and was with us from birth. My son can't remember life before Spike. Almost 2 years ago he was diagnosed with thyroid problems, he also had heart, and kidney problems, the vet told us he only had weeks or perhaps a month or 2. But he was a fighter, and outlived this time although he was getting weaker and losing weight, and we just couldn't let him go, we were told he wasn't in pain, but his quality of life was poor, we both knew we would eventually have to say goodbye bye, but we convinced ourselves that he was a fighter and wanted to live, I know a lot may think us selfish but we just loved him so much we couldn't even consider letting him go. Christmas night he slept in my arms, which was unusual for him, then Boxing Day he couldn't walk, tried to get to his litter tray but kept falling, I tried to help him up but he hissed at me. I knew then he was in pain and had to except it was time, I woke my son and we were both with him until the end. The really sad part was the vet injected him and left us alone with him, but he kept trying to get to his feet. She came back and gave him another injection and eventually a 3rd before he let go. Have I put him to sleep when he wanted to live so badly? Both myself and son have cried all day, I couldn't sleep a wink, kept thinking I heard him walking about. I am just so very sad and my son usually a rock hasn't ate, and is constantly bursting into tears. Every where we go we see something of Spikes, his medication, his furry blanket, and his favourite place he lay, where the floor is stained with his body oils. I just can't imagine a life without My Best Friend Spike. He knew all my secrets as I would tell him things I wouldn't tell anyone else. It has helped a bit to know I am not alone and others too feel this way and writing this down, although tears are streaming down my face as I write I needed to tell someone, family and friends keep telling me he was only a cat, but Spike was my boy and part of my life and family. He was never only a cat.

Thank you for listening and my thoughts are with you all who have also lost your best friend