Members foreveratheana Posted July 7, 2014 Members Report Share Posted July 7, 2014 My names Atheana im 17 and lost my mother around age 13. I have 2 brothers who were 10 and 7 at the time. For most of Our whole lives we watched our mother be abused mentally and phyically by our stepfather. We watched he battle an addiction with drugs. On August 13,2010 i got a call at my friends house from my stepfather. He told me my mother had been in a car accident. I asked if she was okay and he told me she was pronounced dead on scene. I immidiately went through denial. I told him i wanted to see her , shes not dead and kept yelling no. He kept saying im sorry and i just remember falling to my knees,tears running down my face and screaming no. I couldnt even speak to everyone around me asking what happened i forgot how to breath for a moment. I immidiately thought of my brothers after calming down and my father who lived in another state. I just wanted my father at that moment. My stepfather arrived to pick me up and take me to my brothers. I ran straight to them and hugged them. They became my number one priority.we had no one anymore. We had very few family that we knew about. We then lived with my youngest brothers father which is the stepfather ive previously mentioned , for a year while we went though a custody battle between him and my Aunt who my mother always wanted us to go to if anything happened to her. That was my unhappiest year. Him and his girlfriend talked bad about my mother . We would drive past the cross we put upfor her and he would scream terrible names at her.i was ready to leave. We had a chance to speak to a judge and tell them where we wanted to live. I wanted to be with my dad but that choice was shot once he didnt make it to one of the hearings. So here i am at my aunts , my brothers still live there. Im completely scared to lose them , and i feel like ive betrayed them by leaving them. Im so lost i dont know where i belong and i feel like im unhappy no matter where i go. I just keep wishing for my old life with her and my brothers. I feel alone and i just wish i had her. Im missing out on having someone to help me get through the tough teenage years. I cant find myself , i dont know who i am , apart of me died with her. I feel like i need to be strong and make everyone around me think im happy because i dont want them to be sad. I just need some guidence. I just need her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ModKonnie Posted July 7, 2014 Members Report Share Posted July 7, 2014 Foreverantheana,I am very sorry about the loss of your mother. What kind of relationship do you have with your aunt right now? Are you able to talk to her, or do you feel distant from her? Are you able to contact your brothers at all?Do you go to school? Is there a school counselor you can go to for help?It is very tough to be without a mom during your teen years, but you can get through this. Please continue to talk to someone about how you are feeling. I am glad you came here; we will be here for you. ModKonnie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Pierce0558 Posted July 7, 2014 Members Report Share Posted July 7, 2014 I'd say I'm sory for your loss but I'm just now starting to realize that sorry does nothing and doesn't even begin to comfort anyone who's suffered a loss like we have. Although I wasn't as young as you were when you lost your mom, I lost her a month ago after I turned 21. That was hard enough but I can't really even imagine not having her around for those years. I guess I don't really have any advice for you as I'm just coming to grasp with my grief and all the pain I'm feeling is starting to hit me now, but just know that you aren't alone in this; although every situation is different, we still lost the one Woman who meant the most to us. Email me if you ever want to talk! piercehayden@icloud.com. Also noticed you from Canton, I live in Cleveland haha. Not that far away! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members foreveratheana Posted July 8, 2014 Author Members Report Share Posted July 8, 2014 Modconnie , i feel very distant from her , and i talk to my brothers very little but more now than before. I also dont feel comfortable talking to counselers at school. I like to stay to myself because i feel like no one understands. But thanks so much Pierce0558Thanks alot , seems like you really understand , and im sorry for your loss. Thank you both alot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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