[Leaf]

Hi,
i read your post. i'm so sorry about what happened to your son. My Beloved son James, died last June,2011. He had just turned 37 in the hospital.

He had a rare form of cancer and they didn't get it soon enough. they were so slow in scheduling his appointments at the clinic. when they finally did

the CT scan,  JamesBookPict.jpg (2MB)
Number of downloads: 2 the cancer had spread from his colon and appendix. there were tumors inside his abdomen. he was in stage 4. they recommended he see a

doctor who specialized in carcinoid cancer treatment. We went and he said he wanted to do surgery. it is called HIPEC. they remove all visible cancer and

the organs that have cancer in them and peel it off of any place else. remove all tumors. then they put in heated chemo delivered directly inside the abdominal

cavity; then they suction it out after 2hrs. it was a 9-10hr surgery. James got several complications from this surgery. i would not recommend it to anyone,

young or older. it is too dangerous. The only reason he did it was he thought there were no other options for him and he wanted to live. He loved me so much

and i LOVE him forever. They said it was the complications from the surgery that caused his death. i believe though that if they would have had blood there

for him that morning he would have lived. The doctor said it wouldn't have gotten there in time. they gave him medicene to get his blood pressure up, but it

didn't work. they did CPR. the nurse revived him for about 2minutes and then he was gone. i just miss him so much.

You are in my prayers, thank you for reading this message.

Leaf

Windy, on 19 February 2012 - 06:44 PM, said:

I speak of my son in present tense.. its fine He is still with me. My son was killed because because some company owner wanted to save money and didnt care if the equipment was safe. A trencher on an oil rig site fell on him when the emergency brake failed to work. My prayers are with you honey and there will bee justice!


http://www.kmot.com/....asp?news=54931

[Windy]

I speak of my son in present tense.. its fine He is still with me. My son was killed because because some company owner wanted to save money and didnt care if the equipment was safe. A trencher on an oil rig site fell on him when the emergency brake failed to work. My prayers are with you honey and there will bee justice!


http://www.kmot.com/....asp?news=54931

[Ada]

Hi DJ,

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine the pain you must be going through, it almost seems like it's not only the death of your husband you are grieving but also the terrible injustice that has been committed here. It angers me to know that there are people out there who only care about themselves and not the peace of mind of others, or their dignity at that. Your husband truly sounds like an amazing human being and he obviously made you so very happy, things which make his absence all the more painful. I really am sorry I actually had seen your post a while back but was a little afraid to post since it really touched me. I have been married for 7 years now and I cannot imagine the sort of pain that comes with losing your mate, I tried putting myself in your shoes but everytime it was too painful. I'm sorry for being afraid to comfort you, I'm sorry for not writing sooner. In fact, that is another reason that I hesitate tremendously to post anything on the forum for those who have lost a child.

I did want to, however, share some thoughts from the Bible that have helped me in my other losses. I have also experienced death, and other sorts of tribulation and injustice that makes me very disheartened. I have found comfort in Psalm 37:10, 11 that says: "And just a little while longer and the wicked will be no more; and you will certainly give attention to his place, and he will not be. But the meek ones themselves will possess the earth, and they will indeed find their exquisite delight in the abundance of peace." Sometimes it may seem that people get away with all kinds of wickedness but that should not surprise us DJ since the Bible tells us that "the whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one"(1 John 5:19) But God is a lover or justice and righteousness and sooner or later his justice will prevail. But that raises other questions like, if God isn't the one causing this to happen why does He allow it to happen? But that is too long of an answer so if you'd be interested I have attached a link to a chapter in a book that I have found to be the biggest source of comfort for me. I hope you find it as helpful too.

Whatever time it may take us to recover DJ we can be sure that Jehovah knows how to help us recover especially because he knows our feelings better than even ourselves. I also hope that by me sharing these scriptures I may not have offended you in any way. I hope to hear from you and how you are doing.

Warm hugs,

Ada

[ModKonnie]

D.J. Rivere, on 15 January 2012 - 10:55 PM, said:

I lost my husband on 09/08/11. He was killed . I can't go anywhere without it
generating a memory. I miss him so much and the hurt seems to get worse with
every passing day. He was only 23 years old. His personality attracted people to
him like a magnet. He's the love of my life, I don't see myself ever learning to
deal with him gone and never coming back .
It's been 2 months now and I
still refer to him in the present tense. I can't seem to make myself understand
that he is really gone...forever...

I am seeking justice. My husband, Derek Rivere, was killed in a hit and run
on September 8, 2011. Not only was he hit, but he was hit by multiple vehicles.
It has been a month now and we still have no answers. At 22 years of age, Derek
was left for dead and still had his whole life ahead of him. I believe that it's
a shame that he was hit by multiple vehicles and not one person saw anything
that can help me, as well as our family, with answers of whom did this to Derek.
My husband was a wonderful man but didn't deserve to be left for dead like this,
nor does a heroin addict,rapist,or murderer. They are all still human. Derek
would give anyone his last penny, the shirt off his back, or anything. If you
called and needed him, he would be there in minutes. He was a fire fighter, a
husband, a son, a wonderful friend, and in the army where was honorably
discharged after losing partial hearing during military training

You are right--no one deserves this kind of action. I am so very sorry about Derek. He sounds like an amazing person, and you were certainly blessed to have him as part of your life. I wrote to you in another post, but I will repeat it here that there are no words to describe how senseless some things seem to be. We will be here for you as you travel this difficult journey.
ModKonnie

[D.J. Rivere]

I lost my husband on 09/08/11. He was killed . I can't go anywhere without it
generating a memory. I miss him so much and the hurt seems to get worse with
every passing day. He was only 23 years old. His personality attracted people to
him like a magnet. He's the love of my life, I don't see myself ever learning to
deal with him gone and never coming back .
It's been 2 months now and I
still refer to him in the present tense. I can't seem to make myself understand
that he is really gone...forever...

I am seeking justice. My husband, Derek Rivere, was killed in a hit and run
on September 8, 2011. Not only was he hit, but he was hit by multiple vehicles.
It has been a month now and we still have no answers. At 22 years of age, Derek
was left for dead and still had his whole life ahead of him. I believe that it's
a shame that he was hit by multiple vehicles and not one person saw anything
that can help me, as well as our family, with answers of whom did this to Derek.
My husband was a wonderful man but didn't deserve to be left for dead like this,
nor does a heroin addict,rapist,or murderer. They are all still human. Derek
would give anyone his last penny, the shirt off his back, or anything. If you
called and needed him, he would be there in minutes. He was a fire fighter, a
husband, a son, a wonderful friend, and in the army where was honorably
discharged after losing partial hearing during military training